Thats the extent of working out I'd typically do. I just don't really think of a leisurely walk with the dogs as working out.

6/20/2011 4:43:17 PM

why is it okay for a girl to say her husband/bf is getting chubby but the opposite is not?

6/20/2011 4:43:24 PM

Beware newlyweds...most couples get fat together. Its up to your friends to tell you, as neither of you will see much beyond your tunnel vision for Haagen Daaz.

6/20/2011 4:43:44 PM

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"Just an observation, but in those scenarios the dude has to do something extra because you got fat."

i was responding to whoever said that motivation was good. and operating under the assumption that both parties would be doing things to stay in shape. i don't think i'd be hanging around with someone who sat on their ass all the time and then got pissed because i got fat. but that is just me.

6/20/2011 4:43:47 PM

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"oh I thought he said something about you and the arm test, whatever that is It's all about the mentality for me. I gain 10-15 lbs from time to time but I know I need to do something about it and stop being lazy. And it's the same for my wife: she's aware when she's gaining some weight and takes steps to stop it before it gets to a point where it's just accepted. If there was ever a point where she was unhealthy and didn't ever want to do anything about it, I'd definitely try to find a way to tell her."

Oh, yeah I guess I'm used to some guys on here just calling me chubs now



I completely agree with this sentiment. When I hit my biggest size, I had a breakdown and told Eric I wanted to know the truth and if he thought it was unhealthy. I like being able to talk about things without pressure of looking good but instead feeling healthy. I didn't lose the weight to feel pretty - I did it because I felt horrible and not healthy in the slightest.

6/20/2011 4:44:16 PM

for what it's worth cody wants me to gain weight so bad.

he was us to be a chubby couple lol

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 4:45 PM. Reason : not fat but chubby! ]

6/20/2011 4:45:50 PM

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"he was us to be a chubby couple lol"

No, he just doesn't want to be chubby alone.

6/20/2011 4:46:30 PM

but he didnt take the fork.

6/20/2011 4:47:07 PM

he's not chubby!!!!

(thats a pretty funny response though)

6/20/2011 4:47:48 PM

"Boy, fat sex is the best sex we've ever had! Last night there were so many boobs I didn't know who's boobs I was grabbin'!" - Family Guy

6/20/2011 4:48:30 PM

samwise is the same person 30 lbs lighter or heavier, and she has the same good qualities and flaws. maybe she should examine people who hold her in higher regard because she's now more physically attractive to them- people that she's never going to fuck. really, her attractiveness should only be coincidental to friends, family and work related stuff. and don't give me any bullshit about them holding her in higher regard because she took steps to be more healthy. unless they're with her every hour of the day they don't know if she lost the weight by sticking her finger down her throat, doing coke or "the old fashioned way." kudos on your weight loss since you worked hard on it, but if it slips back up or something happens to your mobility, remember all those people who were suddenly excited or wanted to be nearer to you when you lost it.

6/20/2011 4:48:46 PM

The one thing I hate about having lost weight is that I am even more confused than ever about what people consider chubby and what is average, or if they're the same thing

I have been called both, meaning chubby in a bad way and average sized in a good way. I would truly like to know what determines either of these labels

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 4:50 PM. Reason : ^ That's a good point.... and I actually did avoid the people who started paying attention :\]

6/20/2011 4:48:58 PM

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"Thats the extent of working out I'd typically do. I just don't really think of a leisurely walk with the dogs as working out."

no i agree. but it is still physical activity and sometimes if one person is gaining weight or having body issues it is nice to have the other person be encouraging. and doing things together isn't always bad. i could totally go on a bike ride or hiking or whatever with my SO and not feel like i was holding anyone back or whatever. i dunno. i guess different strokes.

bottom line i was TRYING to convey, saying "you are fat" is not exactly encouraging

that is all i meant

6/20/2011 4:49:33 PM

GREEN JAY speaks the truth itt

6/20/2011 4:50:04 PM

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"samwise is the same person 30 lbs lighter or heavier"

no.

30 pounds lighter she's faster and puts much less strain on her vascular system, thereby increasing her life expectancy by a significant amount

and that's hot

6/20/2011 4:51:37 PM

nothing determines the labels. thats why people need to stop using them. the AVERAGE woman in the US is now "fat". sorry haters!


and re kadwackle: negative reinforcement doesn't even work on dogs, only idiots seriously try it. hmm.

6/20/2011 4:52:40 PM

when I was on crutches a doctor passed by me and said I was walking faster than some people without them maybe I am faster now!

6/20/2011 4:53:19 PM

People who justify weight gain by saying "True beauty is on the inside" or "They're still the same person underneath" are only hurting the individuals by justifying their choice to be overweight. If your friends tell you being fat is no big deal, most Americans don't have the mental capacity to realize that they're wrong. Most people trust their friends too much.

6/20/2011 4:53:59 PM

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"negative reinforcement doesn't even work on dogs"

so if something doesn't work on a simple-minded beast without self-awareness, it's useless for intelligent beings?

BRILLIANT.

6/20/2011 4:54:51 PM

gotta love the female friends that constantly tell their fat friends that they are "so beautiful"

time to realize they actually like you being fat because it eliminates the competition

6/20/2011 4:55:25 PM

ITT I got the idea to search for rbrthwrd on facebook and I found out he has a lot of pimples on his skinny face

6/20/2011 4:55:29 PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling a friend they're beautiful no matter what. I truly believe that with my friends.

However, you can also say these things and be supportive of someone wanting to lose weight. For example, two of my friends took begonias' workout classes with me - we all wanted to get in shape (at varying levels) and knew doing it together would give us more motivation to keep it up.

6/20/2011 4:55:35 PM

vb, but I thought dogs were capable of emotions and love and stuff

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 4:56 PM. Reason : .]

6/20/2011 4:55:51 PM

ITT fatties justify being unhealthy

6/20/2011 4:56:04 PM

Green Jay brought up a great point earlier (again) - about how people don't know how some lose weight

I know I mentioned it in the beach body thread, but late last year I lost 10 pounds from not eating after starting Adderall. (I ended up gaining it all back after going off it for the sleep study)

I am happier with those 10 lbs back than I was at that size - because I know the way it happened was extremely unhealthy.

6/20/2011 4:57:52 PM

GREEN JAY seems to be the type of fat woman I stay away from. She seems to be fat and loving it. Which is sad. Just because someone loves fat you doesn't mean you should stay fat and die faster. Wait till you're buying insulin and shit for all the sicknesses that come from being fat.

There is fat, then there is big and healthy. I hope you are the latter.

6/20/2011 4:58:10 PM

there are all sorts of eating disorders.
its a shame that anorexia is most tolerated.

i wonder what the true healthy composition for an individual is.

i mean you hear stats all over the place.....and you can't tell me bodybuilders are healthier than someone who is 20% fat.
i feel like a woman who is 12% bodyfat is as unhealthy as a woman who is 30%.

6/20/2011 4:58:32 PM

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"ITT fatties justify being unhealthy"

please pass the snack tray.

6/20/2011 4:58:34 PM

^ oh shutup

6/20/2011 4:59:00 PM

wait

you're saying you started using amphetamines, and you lost weight?

NAW

6/20/2011 4:59:14 PM

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"ITT I got the idea to search for rbrthwrd on facebook and I found out he has a lot of pimples on his skinny face"

proactive son. pic or it didn't happen

6/20/2011 4:59:18 PM

There are various tipping points for being overweight, and while they vary with height and body type, I think we can agree that the three main stages are 5-10, 10-20, and 20-30 pounds overweight. Each of these "zones" comes with their own risks and societal misgivings, and transitioning from one zone to a heaver one is a tragic event. Beyond 30 pounds, most people can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, and they lose all hope.

6/20/2011 4:59:28 PM

I would rather stay the size I am and hear nasty comments every now and then versus dropping a size (maybe two) and constantly being self conscious over what I ate and how others felt about me.

6/20/2011 4:59:49 PM

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"Lots of people gain significant weight once they take on a full time job after school and get settled into the daily grind of working 40+ hours a week. Nearly all the free time they're used to is now gone, and they choose to spend their precious few pockets of leisure time drinking and socializing, or in TWW's case, playing video games and downloading torrents. Coupled with the fast food lunches and sedentary nature of most of these big boy jobs, and its no secret why 15-20 pounds can pile on in the first six to twelve months after leaving school."

i gained weight when i went back for grad school because i kept a terrible schedule and was eating terrible. girl at the time said, "you are getting fat." i don't know if i ever weighed myself, but i probably put on 20 pounds. i just stopped eating so terribly and dialed back the beer and was back to normal pretty quick.

luckily i was dating someone who cared enough about me to say something and not "love me for who i am inside" and keep their disappointment bottled up inside.

6/20/2011 5:00:07 PM

according to some people i'm 10-15 lbs too heavy.


and i dont careeeeeeeeee!



[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:01 PM. Reason : i think i am fine! ]

6/20/2011 5:00:17 PM

^ they need to get their eyes checked

6/20/2011 5:00:58 PM

Damn girl what size are you now?...if you don't mind sharing.

6/20/2011 5:01:02 PM

me?

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:07 PM. Reason : ahhhh]

6/20/2011 5:01:21 PM

dude being in the 10-20 pound range makes me not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel

if i had to buy new pants

or woke up one day only able to wear bed sheets

i don't know what i'd do. that is why the fat shows fascinate me. and also how people store forks and things in their fat rolls. that always seems super convenient.

i know my number 1 bad going to hell for gluttony habit is snacking in bed

and re: VB if eric told me i was fat everyday it wouldn't motivate me to get skinny. that just isn't how i work. it might motivate me to stab him though

6/20/2011 5:02:00 PM

lol kadwackle you make me chuckle

6/20/2011 5:02:53 PM

body issues itt

on both sides of the mendoza cupcake line

6/20/2011 5:04:27 PM

legit question

does a size 8 qualify as chubby? (5'3" girl)


I am not looking for compliments, nor mean statements - I am truly curious now

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:05 PM. Reason : mendoza cupcake line?]

6/20/2011 5:04:28 PM

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"they say it all nice like...you need to shave off some of your hips"

and then you backhand them

6/20/2011 5:04:44 PM

^^ honestly i dont think so.

^ lol nah. ill show you the people they judge me against if you want.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:06 PM. Reason : its all relative. when you hang out w/ girls who are 00's you are the big girl even if you are a 4]

6/20/2011 5:05:33 PM

was asking samwise16 since she sounds like she has some pent up weight problems.

6 to 8 is a good size. Means you have some hips and thighs

6/20/2011 5:05:57 PM

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"legit question does a size 8 qualify as chubby? (5'3" girl)"

yeah, but the 5'3" helps you out a little because you can still look feminine. a really tall who is a size 8 is getting into the "built like a guy" category.

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:08 PM. Reason : and chubby doesn't mean gross fat]

6/20/2011 5:07:10 PM

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"a really tall who is a size 8 is getting into the "built like a guy" category."

like moi!!!!!

6/20/2011 5:07:35 PM

some fat people lose weight but they still have their big ole heads.

6/20/2011 5:07:42 PM

I would like to scissor your guy vagina Joie

[Edited on June 20, 2011 at 5:08 PM. Reason : ^LOL bobble head]

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