stupid ass, you were the one claiming no one here would have your interests, you pigeonholed yourself

11/23/2008 5:39:22 PM

i pigeon-holed chembob's mom last night

11/23/2008 5:40:02 PM

i made no such claim

i figured the chances would be low, but did not say that no one for certain would share my interests.

11/23/2008 5:40:34 PM

It's my skin again and it feels great.

11/23/2008 5:40:35 PM

i haven't seen any reason for the chembob hate on here

must be some behind the scenes shit

11/23/2008 5:41:34 PM

Quote :

" From : ********* To : saps852 Received : Wednesday July 9, 2008 at 11:14 PM Subject : Re: i'm bored haha, thats funny. i hadn't thought about that. i met chembob once and he was nice. he showed me his penis and it was huge. "

lets all post our chembob pm's lol

11/23/2008 5:42:02 PM

^^ I believe that's exactly what's going on here.

11/23/2008 5:42:21 PM

^

11/23/2008 5:44:19 PM

Quote :

"i haven't seen any reason for the chembob hate on here must be some behind the scenes shit"

11/23/2008 5:46:00 PM

Quote :

"From : ****** To : sawahash Received : Wednesday October 17, 2007 at 11:37 PM Subject : Re: Holy shit... I'm happy you said something about that. He is such a stalker!!!! He was waiting outside my apartment one morning saying he'd walk me to class. It really freaked me out. Then! Out of no where he whipped out his penis and ran away! "

11/23/2008 5:46:06 PM

wow...

11/23/2008 5:50:23 PM

^^

i'm calling BS on that one.

11/23/2008 5:51:50 PM

^ HAHAHAHAHA, his "boy" said "that one" like the others were totally believable hahaha

11/23/2008 5:53:48 PM

whoa whoa whoa

i'm not taking sides in this clusterfuck

11/23/2008 5:57:35 PM

oh yeah? then explain this:

Quote :

"From : wilso To : Jaybee1200 Received : Sunday, November 23, 2008 at 6:01 PM Subject : thread I am taking sides in this clusterfuck "

[Edited on November 23, 2008 at 5:59 PM. Reason : d]

11/23/2008 5:59:43 PM

asdfsdalfkjsdflksjlkds

11/23/2008 5:59:54 PM

Quote :

" From : ********** To : saps852 Received : Saturday August 9, 2008 at 11:50 AM Subject : Re: i kid our dog was run over the other day on gorman street. luckily chembob was there to perfrom puppy cpr and saved his life. i told i'd sleep with him for saving my poor puppy but he declined saying that he was just happy to know i was happy. what a wonderful sweet endearing man. plus he has a huge penis."

[Edited on November 23, 2008 at 6:01 PM. Reason : ^^haha your pm is from the future]

11/23/2008 6:00:42 PM

Quote :

" From : ********** To : NC86 Received : Sunday November 23, 2008 at 5:18 PM Subject : lol not scared, i just have other friends, well sort of mutual friends... er... i just dont want him to get his feelings hurt too bad. he hasnt "done" anything to me but yes, he gives me the creeps and i do not have strong negative feelings like that for many people, actually less than a handful... they would include chembob and a couple other convicted child molesters"

also... LOL on the other fake pm's...


but this one is actually true

[Edited on November 23, 2008 at 6:01 PM. Reason : x]

11/23/2008 6:00:53 PM

ahahahahahaha

this is all based on some girls feelings

lol women

11/23/2008 6:03:58 PM

more like...

many girls feelings

11/23/2008 6:04:41 PM

I used to think of cbob as a friend. And I <3 my friends more than most people, never having had any til my senior year of HS, owing to many factors.

Then it dawned on me a friends aren't people you dread seeing or actively seek to avoid. I tried repeatedly to simply end what had been a friendship, without having to actively say "We aren't friends. I never want to see you again, or talk to you." It's mean, and as someone I had been friendly with, I thought it was excessively cruel. I used to genuinely pity the boy for how socially inept he is, and it's partly because I believe it's not his fault, and I'd try to gently correct his behavior, and when subtlety didn't work, I switched to a more direct tactic. Of course, that went over swimmingly - even when cushioned with 'cbob, I say this not in a hurtful manner, or spiteful. I'm telling you this because you're my friend, and I know many people won't speak up on things like this - kind of like how I have to tell nerdchick when she stinks. No one else will'

He did NOT want to ever hear that his behaviors/reactions laid FAR outside the social norm. So I gave up, and just tried to move away quietly. No could do, so I actually had to say 'I never want to hear from you again, or speak to you'.

Of course, since I told him this, he's become more and more bitter and spiteful towards me. For a good long while, on TWW, we ignored each other. I figured a respectful silence was appropriate. I guess something happened to change his end of what was essentially a civil agreement to ignore each other, because he started trying to get a rise out of me, via making snide comments, first in the chatt0rb0x, and then in threads. Of course, for a good long while, I didn't bother to respond. But it's actually fun to needle the kid. I still feel sorry for him. His social handicaps are genuinely not his fault. But in the absence of something like Asperger's, I have zero sympathy for him. I'm not the only one who tried to school him in socializing, and of the ones I talk to most, he also totally blew them off. He has maintained the mindset that everyone else is the problem, not him.

The following conversation was the last straw - especially the bolded parts.

11/23/2008 6:06:26 PM

11/17/07
In re-reading the conversation, it seems that the conversation between mcfluffle and I, referenced here, is him asking mcfluffle to attend some ball with him, after his gf/ex (don't remember which at that point) declined. We had this conversation one night hanging out.
[21:39] textilesdiva: btw
[21:39] textilesdiva: of course mcfluffle and I talk
[21:40] textilesdiva: unless it's clear something is privileged
[21:40] textilesdiva: ...why shouldn't we talk about the people and things we have in common?
[21:41] textilesdiva: (yes, I realize this is well over a week old, but i'm bored, cranky, and didn't wanna give you reason to think you're right)
[21:41] bob981987: well really
[21:42] bob981987: that's just not fair that you talk about everything in common
[21:42] bob981987: i mean, do i have to make everything explicit in its wanted security?
[21:42] textilesdiva: BULLfuckingSHIT
[21:42] textilesdiva: if you're going to have unreasonable expectations, yeah
[21:42] textilesdiva: 'man, sucks taina ditched chembob for the ball'
[21:43] textilesdiva: 'yeah, he asked me'
[21:43] textilesdiva: 'well, i thought about asking you for him, but i figured he'd ask you himself'
[21:43] textilesdiva: that sort of thing
[21:43] textilesdiva: ...why the fuck wouldn't we talk about it
[21:43] bob981987: ok
[21:43] textilesdiva: or expect you to not want us to talk about it
[21:43] textilesdiva: i'm using that as an example
[21:43] textilesdiva: i mean
[21:43] bob981987: that's not what i'm talking about
[21:43] textilesdiva: if you tell me you've got the herp, i'm not gonna talk about that
[21:43] textilesdiva: ...then what?
[21:43] bob981987: it's just you have talked about some things that i didn't want to be talked about
[21:44] bob981987: and i think those are obvious
[21:44] textilesdiva: such as?
[21:44] bob981987: no xtine
[21:44] bob981987: they're obvious
[21:44] bob981987: trust me       Note: I still have no idea what he was referencing here
[21:44] textilesdiva: clearly, not so much
[21:44] textilesdiva: since they aren't coming to mind?
[21:44] textilesdiva: but okay
[21:44] textilesdiva: brb
[21:44] bob981987: k
[21:45] textilesdiva: k
[21:48] textilesdiva: k, so that means I didn't do anything wrong
[21:49] textilesdiva: cool beans.
[21:49] bob981987: ok xtine
[21:49] bob981987: how about this
[21:49] textilesdiva: thanks
[21:49] bob981987: maybe next time you and mcfluffle talk about me
[21:49] bob981987: can i be there
[21:49] bob981987: you know
[21:49] textilesdiva: doubtful
[21:49] textilesdiva: seeing as how I can't guarantee that i'm going to ALWAYS go 'oh, wait, can't talk, because chembob's not here'
[21:50] textilesdiva: i didn't realize you consider anything we've talked about to be in the realm of gossip, as opposed to idle chitchat
[21:52] textilesdiva: you do realize that by being bothered by this, not telling me what i/she did wrong, and getting pissy that you're acting like a PMSing woman?
[21:52] bob981987: fuck you xtine
[21:52] textilesdiva: i'm not trying to be mean
[21:52] bob981987: this is some fucking bitching about random shit
[21:52] textilesdiva: i'm giving you an example you can relate to
[21:52] bob981987: I DONT APPRECIATE GOSSIP
[21:52] textilesdiva: no, it's not bitching
[21:52] textilesdiva: it's finally addressing something i've been curious
[21:52] bob981987: or pretty much any kind of talking behind my back
[21:53] textilesdiva: chembob
[21:53] bob981987: i've had way too many people do that to me
[21:53] textilesdiva: 'behind your back' indicates malie
[21:53] textilesdiva: *malice
[21:53] bob981987: well xtine
[21:53] bob981987: most everytime people talk about me when i'm not there
[21:53] bob981987: it's malicious
[21:53] bob981987: and frankly
[21:53] textilesdiva: if saying your name when you're not present is gossip, you 1) are being unreasonable 2) have problems
[21:53] textilesdiva: ...you still haven't told me what I did wrong
[21:54] bob981987: don't talk about me behind my back when it's a sensitive isssue
[21:54] textilesdiva: I still don't know whether your assessment of what consititutes 'gossip' is reasonable, because you haven't told me where you place the line
[21:54] bob981987: i mean shit
[21:54] textilesdiva: like i said
[21:54] bob981987: i talk to mcfluffle about something
[21:54] textilesdiva: i still have no idea wtf you're referencing
[21:54] bob981987: and then i hear about it from you
[21:54] textilesdiva: ...as of right now, apparently anything and everything is 'a sensitive issue'
[21:54] textilesdiva: ?
[21:55] bob981987: JUST LEAVE THIS SHIT ALONE
[21:55] textilesdiva: fine
[21:55] textilesdiva: when you tell me what the fuck i/she did wrong
[21:55] textilesdiva: otherwise
[21:55] textilesdiva: i have to assume your panties are wadded over nothing and there's no reason to do anything different
[21:56] textilesdiva: i'm not fucking attacking you.
[21:56] bob981987: no
[21:56] textilesdiva: attacking you is not addressing the issue, not fnding out what i/she did wrong, and not giving a damn
[21:56] bob981987: but you're talking about me behind my back
[21:56] textilesdiva: so quit being a bitch.
[21:56] textilesdiva: chembob
[21:56] textilesdiva: language
[21:56] textilesdiva: "behind my back" has a VERY negative connotation
[21:56] textilesdiva: and does NOT apply to every instance where your name is mentioned without you there
[21:56] bob981987: well
[21:57] bob981987: why do you think i'm using it?
[21:57] textilesdiva: you STILL haven't told me what it is you've taken umbrage over.
[21:57] textilesdiva: so as far as i can tell
[21:57] textilesdiva: you ARE applying it to anything and everything possible.
[21:57] textilesdiva: but okay
[21:57] textilesdiva: sure
[21:57] textilesdiva: i'll make sure to call you
[21:58] textilesdiva: put you on speakerphone, tell you to be quiet, and we'll have our conversation
[21:58] textilesdiva: and then you can't bitch
[21:58] textilesdiva: ...yes, OH SO feasible~!
[21:58] bob981987: well shit
[21:58] bob981987: if you're gonna talk in person
[21:58] textilesdiva: if you come up in the natural flow of conversation
[21:58] bob981987: why am i not invited?
[21:58] textilesdiva: are you fucking serious?
[21:58] textilesdiva: that you think any time she calls or texts me, I need to say
[21:58] textilesdiva: hang on, lemme invite chembob?
[21:58] textilesdiva: you realize we're friends
[21:58] textilesdiva: we don't need a chaperone
[21:59] textilesdiva: i don't need you in order to have friends, or to see them
[21:59] textilesdiva: FFS, she's a night owl and lives right by my work
[22:00] textilesdiva: once you factor in location, fequency, convienence, and inappropriateness, that's somewhat akin to expecting to be invited to dinner whenever matt and I eat around campus
[22:00] textilesdiva: I've answered that as though that was a serious question
[22:02] bob981987: you do realize that we are friends, right?
[22:03] textilesdiva: yeah
[22:03] textilesdiva: i'm not expecting to be there whenever you two hang out
[22:03] bob981987: nor am I
[22:03] textilesdiva: [21:58] bob981987: if you're gonna talk in person
[21:58] textilesdiva: if you come up in the natural flow of conversation
[21:58] bob981987: why am i not invited?

11/23/2008 6:07:21 PM

ya prolly, but its still pretty lame to form a strong negative opinion about someone who admittedly never did anything to her

11/23/2008 6:07:24 PM

[22:03] textilesdiva: it appears other
[22:03] textilesdiva: wise
[22:03] bob981987: well
[22:03] bob981987: i mean
[22:04] bob981987: if you're going to GV
[22:04] bob981987: why not?
[22:04] textilesdiva: why?
[22:04] bob981987: maybe i'm free and would want to go
[22:04] textilesdiva: maybe
[22:04] textilesdiva: but maybe I wanna hang out with mcfluffle!
[22:06] textilesdiva: me hanging out with mcfluffle doesn't mean you never get to
[22:07] bob981987: well
[22:07] textilesdiva: what the hell is the problem with the two of us hanging out?
[22:07] bob981987: certainly hasn't happened in a while
[22:07] textilesdiva: mcfluffle and I hanging out?
[22:07] bob981987: no
[22:07] bob981987: me and you
[22:07] textilesdiva: i haven't seen her in almost a week
[22:07] textilesdiva: you're right
[22:07] textilesdiva: you don't get to pin that entirely on me
[22:07] textilesdiva: you have a phone and IM and email, too.
[22:08] textilesdiva: you can say 'let's hang' as easily as I can
[22:08] bob981987: ok xtine
[22:08] bob981987: how about this
[22:08] bob981987: at just about every waking hour
[22:08] bob981987: i am interested in hanging out with any and all friends
[22:08] textilesdiva: that's not applicable
[22:08] bob981987: so i am open to any and all invitations
[22:08] textilesdiva: BLE to hang out is
[22:08] textilesdiva: *ABLE
[22:08] textilesdiva: so
[22:09] textilesdiva: my point is
[22:09] textilesdiva: ...you can extend invitations, too
[22:09] textilesdiva: if i disliked you/didn't wanna see you/whatever
[22:09] textilesdiva: i wouldn't talk to you
[22:09] textilesdiva: wouldn't text you with 'hey, i'm at GV for a bit wanna come'
[22:09] textilesdiva: so i'm not sure why you feel you can't say 'hey, let's go do X'
[22:10] bob981987: i have my reasons
[22:10] bob981987: but
[22:10] bob981987: i'd sound like a PMSing bitch if I said them
[22:10] textilesdiva: you very well might
[22:11] textilesdiva: but in the absence of evidence to the contrary, i'm going to just have to assume you don't have a reason
[22:11] textilesdiva: or are afraid to
[22:11] bob981987: i do have a reason
[22:11] bob981987: and i'm not afraid to
[22:11] textilesdiva: ok
[22:11] textilesdiva: is it because i'm so busy and never can?
[22:11] bob981987: no
[22:11] textilesdiva: ok
[22:11] bob981987: it's not about you
[22:11] textilesdiva: ok
[22:12] textilesdiva: don't bitch about not seeing me when i do my part, and you don't make any effort
[22:12] textilesdiva: that's the bigger point i'm trying to make
[22:12] textilesdiva: especially when you apparently feel that in order to see me, you have to see mcfluffle
[22:12] textilesdiva: she is NOT eating up my free time, in case you were wondering
[22:12] textilesdiva: she was over last night
[22:12] textilesdiva: okay
[22:13] textilesdiva: cool
[22:13] bob981987: "[22:07:08] textiles diva: i haven't seen her in almost a week"
[22:13] textilesdiva: i wouldn't have seen her if she weren't willing to make the drive
[22:13] textilesdiva: i know
[22:13] textilesdiva: i forogot about that
[22:13] textilesdiva: i just remembered >.<
[22:13] textilesdiva: prior to that, it was monday
[22:13] textilesdiva: i was double-checking
[22:15] textilesdiva: but tell you what
[22:15] textilesdiva: i'll make sure to never reference anything funny mcfluffle says
[22:15] textilesdiva: or anything tha happens when we hang out
[22:15] textilesdiva: lest you fear that i'm *not* telling you anytime you might have come up in conversation


On review, I cuss too much

I still feel quite sorry for him, because
- he is clearly lonely
- he seems QUITE bitter and unhappy (of course, I could be wrong, but it's not something about which I care)
- at least when I knew him, while he was like a social helen heller, in terms of handicap, he was a good guy, with strong principles, and that's pretty rare. He was/is loyal, trustworthy, and someone you can count on. As rare as some of these traits are, though, they don't make up for some of the other problems

There's a difference between feeling sorry, and having sympathy.


[Edited on November 23, 2008 at 6:10 PM. Reason : lkdjf]

11/23/2008 6:07:43 PM

wow


he will kill some woman within 3 years, book it

11/23/2008 6:11:50 PM

I'm touched, xtine.

*touches hand to heart*

11/23/2008 6:12:33 PM

i can't even imagine what being a part of the crew that both of them ^^^ hang out with must be like

11/23/2008 6:14:00 PM

This thread makes me glad I don't actually hang out with anyone on TWW

11/23/2008 6:14:39 PM

^ and ^^ hahahhahah

[Edited on November 23, 2008 at 6:16 PM. Reason : d]

11/23/2008 6:14:51 PM

aha you called nerdchick smelly

youre a mean ass friend

11/23/2008 6:16:54 PM

if theres one thing I cant stand its people that stink, fuck that, how do you now know you stink??

11/23/2008 6:17:50 PM

I dunno...everytime I was around you you had an odor that could kill

11/23/2008 6:21:00 PM

you shouldnt have smelled my fingers

11/23/2008 6:21:45 PM

well you should have stopped picking my nose

11/23/2008 6:22:19 PM

rabble rabble rabble

11/23/2008 6:22:27 PM

Quote :

"how do you now know you stink??"

Born without a sense of smell

11/23/2008 6:23:33 PM

then I would take extra precaution and shower twice as much

11/23/2008 6:24:08 PM

interesting

11/23/2008 6:28:53 PM

good job emce...you slowed down this fun thread.

11/23/2008 6:38:16 PM

that's what I do...

11/23/2008 6:39:59 PM

looks like it's about time for FykalJpn

11/23/2008 6:46:01 PM

This thread is full of LOL

11/23/2008 7:15:28 PM

overflowing with it

11/23/2008 10:13:23 PM

I took the time to read that IM convo, sadly. I think it's fairly obvious this guy didn't partake in social settings at any point until he got to college. I'd guess he was homeschooled, and probably harbors an extreme level of mamaboyism.

11/23/2008 10:16:09 PM

^ hey! if you are going to hang out anyways, call me!

11/23/2008 10:17:07 PM

You've changed quite a bit from that first freshman semester, chembob, lol.

11/23/2008 10:18:46 PM

i lol'd

but i gotta say

Quote :

"chatt0rb0x"

the term is 'chatt3rb0x'

11/23/2008 10:23:43 PM

this guy seems like a tool. like he thinks he should be invited to any/all social things that involve his "friends?" wtf?

11/23/2008 10:25:04 PM

Quote :

"[22:08] bob981987: at just about every waking hour [22:08] bob981987: i am interested in hanging out with any and all friends [22:08] bob981987: so i am open to any and all invitations"

i totally when i read that part

11/23/2008 10:33:33 PM

you know...even though chembob is a douche and creepy...idk it just seems like people are getting too much enjoyment out of putting him down...it was fun at first but now its just getting down right mean

11/23/2008 10:34:19 PM