holy shit, i'm retarded

6/29/2011 11:19:43 AM

Yeah a sit down meal is going to be difficult to that price. One thing to consider is wedding surveys have shown guests prefer buffets. Then again, buffets don't always mean.

I highly recommend our caterer Greg. He did an amazing job helping us stick to a reasonable budget. You can tell him I sent you here's his website: http://www.catering-by-design.com/

For booze we got kegs from Big Boss and Lone Rider Breweries. Saved a bundle that way.

6/29/2011 11:22:38 AM

sweet.. added to the list of people to contact... thanks!

also, after looking through prices, i'm totally considering starting a dj'ing business on the weekends.

6/29/2011 12:31:07 PM

^no shit man!

6/29/2011 1:07:07 PM

sorry for the double post but holy crap



this is the 10 (ish)th time our engagement photos have been blogged.


http://weddingrowcharlotte.com/joie-cody-engagement-session/

6/29/2011 1:15:10 PM

Don't forget to factor in other costs to your food, such as rentals and staff fees. We're expecting around 150 guests and our custom buffet is actually about $20.50 per head; however, rentals alone costs a little over $1000 for us (plates, glasses, silverware, etc.) and then staffing was around $1400 (including the 15% off premise fee)...not to mention some hors d'oeuvres which totalled around $1100. Catering is definitely the most expensive part of the wedding.

6/29/2011 1:38:28 PM

Quote :

"I spy someone on offbeat bride today!"

very cool, kyle!

6/29/2011 4:05:49 PM

Quote :

"already booked location, and I'm fairly certain on rehearsal dinner location. was thinking of doing cafe luna for the rehearsal dinner, in one of their back banquet rooms. anyone done this?"

The wedding I just finished planning had the rehearsal dinner at Cafe Luna.

It was nice and the food was really good. They have a minimum of $1200, which can easily be met depending on how many people you have. We had right at 30. Plus the Wine and Beer was included in the price (which is hard to find these days).

Ben if you need help, you should hire me ok

6/30/2011 1:08:01 PM

damn, we were planning on Cafe Luna... I'm guessing maybe not now

6/30/2011 1:25:56 PM

yeah i want to limit the RD to 25. should be in the $1300 ballpark.

[Edited on June 30, 2011 at 1:32 PM. Reason : ok maybe the mins arent on the website. ]

6/30/2011 1:29:14 PM

Well for a plated menu, beer & wine, and dessert...$1200 really isn't that much (for 30+ people)

6/30/2011 1:30:57 PM

the only problem im having with CL is that we haven't decided on the block hotel yet.

the ceremony is not downtown, and we wanted to have the hotels close.

although we do plan to provide transportation via bus for the ceremony and reception, so no one has to worry about it when they get their drink on.

we were actually considering having a block downtown and a block near the site, such that if the younger people wanted to stay downtown to go out afterward, they could, and still be in the transportation pool.

however, several people will be in from out of town for the RD, and may or may not have rental cars.

cafe luna is a high probability though. should be sweet. what was the beer and wine selection that's included like? i'm meeting with their event planner in like two weeks, but just curious.

6/30/2011 1:38:06 PM

Quote :

"Don't forget to factor in other costs to your food, such as rentals and staff fees. We're expecting around 150 guests and our custom buffet is actually about $20.50 per head; however, rentals alone costs a little over $1000 for us (plates, glasses, silverware, etc.) and then staffing was around $1400 (including the 15% off premise fee)...not to mention some hors d'oeuvres which totalled around $1100. Catering is definitely the most expensive part of the wedding."

shameless promotion time

My husband owns a catering company based out of Cary. We can do off-premise catering at your reception location. Just tell him what you want for your reception and he might be able to offer you the exact same buffet options for a fraction of the cost. And the food is amazing!

http://www.spicecubedcatering.com

[Edited on June 30, 2011 at 1:44 PM. Reason : f]

6/30/2011 1:43:25 PM

if you guys are paying ALOT for your DJ you are getting the wrong people.

Sure there are ones that do a great job and charge a great deal too. Likewise, there are ones that dont charge much and dont do much.

Then there are people like me who know you are on a budget and still want a great time and I can do that for you easily. You just have to find the right people.

Im about to start really revving back up my wedding DJ side of things and advertising a lot more but I will still hold the same prices(low) and quality will be the same as always(medium, i prefer to be humble lol)

anyways, contact me if you have a date set up and ideas and I wont promise to beat the rate but I can probably 90% of the time for a good service.

dont be ripped off.

6/30/2011 1:47:44 PM

i LOVED our DJ
he did a LOT , and i mean A LOT for us.
we're talking three systems, a TON of lighting.


(im sure youre awesome john, you know i <3 you boo )



[Edited on June 30, 2011 at 2:05 PM. Reason : fhgfhgf]

6/30/2011 1:49:53 PM

^^PM me your info and I'll pass it on to my husband.

Brides are always asking him for suggestions for DJs for their weddings

[Edited on June 30, 2011 at 1:50 PM. Reason : g]

6/30/2011 1:49:57 PM

i actually know of several several people planning right now and all of them have asked me suggestions.


imma send them ya'lls way

6/30/2011 1:51:37 PM

The high cost of being a bridesmaid

http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/06/30/bridesmaids.cost/index.html?hpt=hp_c2

6/30/2011 2:10:31 PM

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"WeddingChannel.com found that it costs about $1,695 to be a bridesmaid."

holy shit

[Edited on June 30, 2011 at 2:33 PM. Reason : vhbn]

6/30/2011 2:31:29 PM

so happy i don;t have a lot of really close girl friends. it is ridiculous for this stuff. last wedding i was in, if i had gone to the bachelorette party i would've been around $1,500.

i'm not even fucking friends with that girl anymore

6/30/2011 2:34:45 PM

My bridesmaids have rocked for the most part but I really feel like I am easy to please.

I only chose their shoes and let them pick their dresses and accessories. My personality would make me feel more uncomfortable to have them all dressed the same.

I am about to be in a wedding in November and I am starting to think it's going to be really pricey but not over $1000. That's just crazy.

6/30/2011 6:06:35 PM

http://www.recycledbride.com/ anyone ever been to this site before. Saw it on tv the other day thought it was interesting.

6/30/2011 6:59:36 PM

http://www.recycledbride.com/listing/wedding-dresses/maggie-sottero-isadora-ann-1

I'm in love!!

6/30/2011 7:35:42 PM

^ that is adorable!

Quote :

"I am about to be in a wedding in November and I am starting to think it's going to be really pricey but not over $1000. That's just crazy."

Guh I'm in a wedding next summer and it's looking pricey. Dress is going to be about $100, shoes $50, plane tickets $400, hotel room $400 I'm kind of pissed because she's making it more expensive than necessary and considering she lives on the poverty line you'd think she'd be more economical

6/30/2011 8:25:55 PM

Oh wow I just found out that I am the first person ever to get married in the wedding dress I chose And I was their first bride ever period!! How cool is that?

6/30/2011 9:29:01 PM

that's awesome

I guess when you consider all that, $1300 isn't too bad.. but it stings to hear


and thanks Wadhead

7/1/2011 1:18:06 AM

The thing is she's having a destination wedding but acting like it's not a destination wedding. Most of her friends, family, and wedding party are in NC. Nobody really knows why she is having the wedding on the west coast when she's already getting upset that some people are telling her they simply can't afford to make it out. One of her bridesmaids is thinking she won't be able to come because of costs. I guess I could understand if she was wanting to do a small wedding and this was a way to weed out guests but she's inviting 200+ people, 75% of whom live around here

7/1/2011 8:13:17 AM

We got married in Vegas and my parents paid for my 3 bridesmaids to fly out there and for their hotels

7/1/2011 9:02:04 AM

yeah I was of the "if they can't swing it I'll pay for it" variety

since my MOH lived in Boston at the time, I flew her down. paid for 6 girls to get mani and pedis, half their dress (which I offered them a choice in the matter of not only dress, but designer and they went the more expensive one), gave em clutches, and made no requests or restrictions on jewelry, shoes, and hair.

At the same time...I think I was reasonable, but I'm sure there were complaints I didn't know about. It's hard to find that line between what you've envisioned & think is reasonable and someone else's.

Money is a tricky tricky issue.

7/1/2011 10:15:41 AM

She's poor, like could quality for foods stamps if she wanted to poor, so no way would she offer to help out. I guess that's the main thing that irks me. How can you bitch about not being able to pay your bills, then ask others to spend a lot of money for you? I also think she's delusional about what kind of money people make. She threw a fit when the one girl said she wasn't sure she could afford the wedding, saying, "But you work in a hospital!" She must have missed the memo that nurses are underpaid

7/1/2011 10:37:31 AM

woah. how does working in a hospital constituent making $$texas?

7/1/2011 10:47:26 AM

she's already picked the dress, but she won't show me

we've got the reception place picked, but can't figure out a good venue. We definitely want it in a church, but so many churches require a) memberships, b) prior counseling, and c) use of that church's pastor.

we already have our pastor (just don't like the decor of the church - too contemporary), and we're wondering about what prior counseling will entail. Has anyone had to go through that before?

As far as memberships to that church, we're hoping to get past that considering we're already members of churches back home, and so long as its the same denomination, we should be ok. (Church of Christ and Baptist)

We'll see. We're aiming for Fall 2012, but may reschedule to Spring 2013 or Fall 2013 due to finances!

7/1/2011 10:56:12 AM

^^ you've got me!

^ what about using somewhere like All Saints?

7/1/2011 10:57:52 AM

Mother In Law from hell?

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/mother-in-law-sends-worst-email-ever-to-bride-forgivable-2504517/

7/1/2011 11:12:56 AM

^ i heard about that onthe radio this am!!!!

7/1/2011 11:13:48 AM

Quote :

"we already have our pastor (just don't like the decor of the church - too contemporary), and we're wondering about what prior counseling will entail. Has anyone had to go through that before?"

I think most churches are going to require premarital counseling. They should be okay with you using your own pastor for that as well though. For us, that entailed three sessions, discussing things like finances, children, religion, etc. Just making sure WE had talked things over before marriage, that we knew marriage wasn't all fun and games, and that we understood where we were going to struggle, and where we were going to breeze by.

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 11:14 AM. Reason : ]

7/1/2011 11:14:16 AM

I'll probably be in the minority, but I agree with every bullet point in that email. But she should have expressed her displeasure in person, not in an email.

7/1/2011 11:21:38 AM

oh i agree - there were things that she discussed that i would agree with

but i don't think it was fair for her to bring up the whole "your family should've saved for your wedding" thing

but the tone wasn't really all that nice either

7/1/2011 11:23:40 AM

Yeah that bit was silly but if they're planning a wedding that will put them into debt, they probably should go for something more modest because something tells me this marriage will be short lived

7/1/2011 11:28:30 AM

where can I read the whole email?

7/1/2011 11:38:43 AM

....in the link....?

7/1/2011 11:44:52 AM

^I only see an excerpt in the link.

7/1/2011 11:49:34 AM

oh wait that's not the full - lemme see if i can find it.

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 11:58 AM. Reason : .]

7/1/2011 11:57:33 AM

Quote :

"It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you. Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you. It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so. If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste. There are plenty of finishing schools around. Please, for your own good, for Freddie’s sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible. Here are a few examples of your lack of manners: When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something. You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else. You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host. When a guest in another’s house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early – you fall in line with house norms. You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter. You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed. You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour. I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters’ marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes."

that is supposedly the full email

7/1/2011 12:03:37 PM

there's one about her having diabetes... that's why she made the comments about the diet...

i'm trying to see if i can find it.

FOUND IT

Quote :

" It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you. Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you. It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so. Your behaviour on your visit to Devon during April was staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace. Unfortunately, this was not the first example of bad manners I have experienced from you. If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste. There are plenty of finishing schools around. You would be an ideal candidate for the Ladette to Lady television series. Please, for your own good, for Freddie’s sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible. Here are a few examples of your lack of manners: When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something. You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else. You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host. When a guest in another’s house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early – you fall in line with house norms. You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter. I have no idea whether you wrote to thank [your future sister-in-law] for the weekend but you should have hand-written a card to her. You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed at Houndspool. [Your future sister-in-law] has quite the most exquisite manners of anyone I have ever come across. You would do well to follow her example. You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. It is tragic that you have diabetes. However, you aren’t the only young person in the world who is a diabetic. I know quite a few young people who have this condition, one of whom is getting married in June. I have never heard her discuss her condition. She quietly gets on with it. She doesn’t like being diabetic. Who would? You do not need to regale everyone with the details of your condition or use it as an excuse to draw attention to yourself. It is vulgar. As a diabetic of long standing you must be acutely aware of the need to prepare yourself for extraordinary eventualities, the walk to Mothecombe beach being an example. You are experienced enough to have prepared yourself appropriately. No-one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour. I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters’ marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes. One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie."

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 12:11 PM. Reason : .]

7/1/2011 12:09:22 PM

Quote :

"Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you."

what a bitch
even if you agree with the bullet points...that was uncalled for

7/1/2011 12:21:18 PM

I wonder what Freddie's father thinks of this...I mean this is his stepmom. And I wonder what Freddie thinks.

Whether or not you agree with her points in the email, she was way harsher than need be (plus just plain rude)

She needs a couple lessons on politeness.

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 12:25 PM. Reason : g]

7/1/2011 12:24:59 PM

^ agreed

7/1/2011 12:32:09 PM

Whoa whoa whoa


Stepmother?



I'm going to guess Freddie officially thinks of her as a thundercunt

7/1/2011 12:37:12 PM

^ x 4that was easily the worst part of the email.


i'm very curious as to how the future bride acted.
how do we know the future bride wasn't plain rude?
i mean there are some very are very rude people whom everyone is nice to, and could use a little verbal slap in the face.
the email itself is pretty out of line however i just know a few who it freaking describes them to a T.
but it doesnt warrant an email like ithat.


i find it a little ironic though because i actually went to finishing school (yeah yeah laugh it up-cody does) and the email is far from lady like.




i'm very skeptical

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 12:39 PM. Reason : wow ya'll are fast]

[Edited on July 1, 2011 at 12:46 PM. Reason : bmnh]

7/1/2011 12:39:27 PM