This thread is dedicated to encouraging those that deal with the reality of dysfunction that is beyond comprehension or control.

signed.

12/29/2008 10:47:39 PM

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12/29/2008 10:48:44 PM

use to think my parents sucked until other people told me their horror stories

[Edited on December 29, 2008 at 10:49 PM. Reason : not to brag but my parents are kickass]

12/29/2008 10:49:19 PM

i mean my parents are kind of

but right now there is a situation that is really fucked up which is making my dad really fucked up. so it really isn't his fault

and i am taking the brunt of the verbal abuse. and that is his fault.

12/29/2008 10:49:32 PM

I am gonna go ahead and put myself on this list of fucked up parents for future reference.

12/29/2008 10:51:00 PM

I can't possibly imagine......list them and let tww decide.

12/29/2008 10:51:40 PM

its probably hard to NOT be a fucked up parent

but there are levels. or lines i guess. and there's like regular dysfunction and then there's like damaging dysfunction.

12/29/2008 10:52:16 PM

i think theres way more fucked up kids now a days than fucked up parents...not to take away from the fact that there are a lot of good kids with fucked up parents

12/29/2008 10:53:05 PM

i highly doubt you are listed in the fucked up parents category.. you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders... i refuse to believe this revelation...










which is kind of amazing, because when the words TWW PARENT are used in the same sentence. 9 times out of 10 i'd imagine that they actually would be! (i would include myself in that 9 times if i had a kid right now )

12/29/2008 10:57:34 PM

yeah. We will see. I can get clouded sometimes. Hopefully there will not be too many slammed doors or burned bridges.

[Edited on December 29, 2008 at 11:05 PM. Reason : daz84...you have some good philosophies that I can tell so far.]

12/29/2008 11:04:44 PM

I've gone for several month without talking to my mother before.

12/29/2008 11:12:31 PM

My mom more than makes up for my completely fucked up family. She's bad ass.

12/29/2008 11:15:56 PM

I'm probably right there near the top with my fucked up dad.

12/29/2008 11:16:04 PM

A great deal of my 2008 was filled with drama caused or surrounding my fucked up parents.

But whaddyado? Least they've accepted it and are finally getting some help to resolve their issues...makes the dinners less tense now that we all aren't tip toeing around the bullshit anymore

12/29/2008 11:17:45 PM

Whoa!! LOL fuckin iPhone

My b

[Edited on December 29, 2008 at 11:19 PM. Reason : 4!]

12/29/2008 11:17:45 PM

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12/29/2008 11:17:45 PM

[Edited on December 29, 2008 at 11:21 PM. Reason : 4]

12/29/2008 11:17:45 PM

well thank you, but i dunno about all that.. i'll take the compliment though..


and 9 times out of 10 the fucked up parents are the ones that don't seem to care, i have a good feeling you care

12/29/2008 11:27:34 PM

I guess my parents were pretty normal

I mean, they got divorced....but who doesn't?

*shrug*

12/29/2008 11:28:48 PM

EVERYONE FEELS LIKE THEY'RE PART OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY.

12/29/2008 11:29:16 PM

^^Mine don't, even though they should

12/29/2008 11:38:29 PM

parents

12/31/2008 8:51:19 AM

unstable parents

12/31/2008 9:06:53 AM

Formerly unstable... now medically stabilized... sorta...

12/31/2008 9:08:10 AM

If I had to raise some of you fuckers, I'd probably be unstable too.

12/31/2008 9:30:45 AM

I cannot imagine how anyone could vent their frustrations on their kids (to include their adult kids). I see it all the time, but I just don't get it.

I don't even see how a 2 year old or whatever could even really piss you off, to the point of losing your temper. If there is anything that a little kid is capable of doing to cause you to flip your lip, I maintain that YOU are the one with a problem, and the kid is just doing what kids do.

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 9:38 AM. Reason : asfdasdfa]

12/31/2008 9:37:51 AM

Quote :

"I don't even see how a 2 year old or whatever could even really piss you off, to the point of losing your temper. If there is anything that a little kid is capable of doing to cause you to flip your lip, I maintain that YOU are the one with a problem, and the kid is just doing what kids do. "

I agree with this statement. I do know there are some people that are in situations where they have their kid ALL the time and I can see how people could get frustrated. There is definitely a point that no one should ever cross. There is a reality of responsibility that should set in once someone has a child but then again ALL people are STUPID!!, selfish, and impatient and if you think you do not fall in that category ever you are full of shit. At those moments you should sit your child down in a secure place and walk away for a few seconds. But hitting or yelling at the kid should not be an option.

12/31/2008 10:33:52 AM

I have spanked my daughter a handful of times (usually just 2-3 pops with 2 fingers across the back of her hand--I'm scared I'll hurt her more than I intend to with anything more than that).

I have never even had to resist the temptation to even raise my voice at her (other than maybe slightly to take the "stern" tone, which is completely different from raising your voice out of anger or frustration). maybe there is a scenario that could set me off, but I don't know what it would possibly be. Not with a toddler, anyway.


It burns me up to be on the phone with her and to hear her mother yell at her about something stupid. (like the last time I talked to her, when i heard her mother yell "HANNAH, GIVE ME THAT DAMN BLANKET!". I mean, are you serious? She's TWO.

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 10:45 AM. Reason : asdfasd]

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 10:51 AM. Reason : flip your lip? i meant flip your lid.]

12/31/2008 10:45:29 AM

I have the best parents in the world! If I can be as good a father as my dad I'll be damned proud of myself.

sorry for those of you that don't

12/31/2008 10:45:45 AM

a medicated marriage is a happy marriage

12/31/2008 10:46:33 AM

ahaha, you had shitty childhoods


yeah, i'm being a dick today, what of it?

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 10:51 AM. Reason : s]

12/31/2008 10:50:54 AM

signed.

verbal abuse sucks.

12/31/2008 10:51:32 AM

my childhood was awesome. i can't say the same for my half brothers and sisters but atleast my dad got it right the second time around with my mom.

12/31/2008 10:51:52 AM

there are some parents that need to be smacked themselves. I do use curse words but I def try not to use them as my main vocabulary around Maya and I def do not use them in anger around her or at her. That is pretty beat up.
I am hoping with all my heart that I will never be a fucked up parent.

I guess the really beat up thing is that physical, verbal, mental, and emotional abuse had a hand in making me who I am today.

12/31/2008 10:55:57 AM

i have to say my happy and easy childhood is probably the reason i'm not as strong or independent as i'd like to be as an adult

12/31/2008 11:01:17 AM

^^but you learn from it and adapt. It's a life lesson that makes you stronger. you'll be fine. don't worry about this





and this thread is depressing

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 11:02 AM. Reason : .]

12/31/2008 11:01:36 AM

my mom once threatened to kill us all by driving off a bridge when we were little, so my dad would have no one left.

ah, childhood memories.

12/31/2008 11:05:45 AM

Not surprised to see some of the more fucked/whacked users of this site have parents of same. Apple -> not far from tree.

12/31/2008 11:06:56 AM

I def have a slight fear of being that really horrible parent but I do know my daughter's situation is a lot different than mine growing up. I am married to a man that actually loves me for me (very important for the kid to see that love) and he absolutely encourages Maya to be a daddy's girl.

My situation growing up was that we were poor white trash, my dad would come home from work bitching about how he hated his job, then he would take it out on my brother and me, he would drink like a mother fucker and get high all the time, and would constantly remark that he never should have had kids. That is it in a nutshell for most of my childhood. He finally stopped beating me when I was 14. I finally fought back and held my own so he stopped.

I would say the thing that really helped my brother and me to overcome that situation and not repeat it is that we had mentors that really showed us that we could be loved in a stable environment.

12/31/2008 11:19:27 AM

For me fucked up parents =/= bad parenting. Mine are great parents...my father's just an alcoholic and my mother enabled the shit out of him for years. Once my bro and I left the house, it's like they both got so damn bored they didn't know how to handle one another. But like I said, it's getting better now that they are both in therapy--couples and individually.

I love my parents.

^that's one aspect of the disease I can't relate to...man, shitty...sorry you went through that.

[Edited on December 31, 2008 at 11:59 AM. Reason : .]

12/31/2008 11:56:06 AM

My dad is an ex Marine who had to leave cause I was born.

THERE IN A NUTSHELL

12/31/2008 1:06:02 PM

Today is one of those days.

12/31/2008 2:46:57 PM

My dad is an alcoholic and a drug dealer who had to move to Canada 8 years ago to avoid being thrown in jail.

He moved back a couple of months ago.

My mom still hasn't divorced him.

12/31/2008 2:50:08 PM

keep this thread bttt'd until like 18 years after i have kids, ok?

12/31/2008 2:52:33 PM

reading stuff like this makes me feel even more blessed for the family i have

12/31/2008 3:26:50 PM

Quote :

"It burns me up to be on the phone with her and to hear her mother yell at her about something stupid. (like the last time I talked to her, when i heard her mother yell "HANNAH, GIVE ME THAT DAMN BLANKET!". I mean, are you serious? She's TWO. "

Wow they sound like a classy bunch.

Is custody for you still completely out of the question?

12/31/2008 4:38:08 PM

Quote :

"I've gone for several month over a year without talking to my mother before."

LOLZ

12/31/2008 4:42:11 PM

e-hug sawahash!

12/31/2008 4:44:20 PM

The fully functional family is a myth.

12/31/2008 4:58:45 PM

I think i know of one. My friend Tim's family is totally this! I don't think he should ever have kids.

12/31/2008 5:02:35 PM