I gave somebody my number the other night. I'm never the forward one. I certainly never buy a guy a shot, blatantly hit on him, then give him a piece of paper with my number.

All that aside, he left me a message today and I now have no clue what to do. halp tdub- I need some dating skills asap.

1/2/2009 5:57:02 PM

i'm not gonna call you

sorry

1/2/2009 5:57:40 PM

dammit. I was thinking there were going to be nudie pics in this thread. I'm out.

1/2/2009 5:57:54 PM

call him back. what did you expect him to do after you gave him your number?

and congrats on having a life outside of TWW

1/2/2009 5:58:36 PM

4th

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 5:59 PM. Reason : ]

1/2/2009 5:58:41 PM

i too have no skills with men
sucks

1/2/2009 6:00:18 PM

^^^ to be honest I didn't expect a call. I'm fairly certain he showed no interest that night. and I have this nervous thing about calling strange people- it's sad really.

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:01 PM. Reason : ^, as usual]

1/2/2009 6:01:40 PM

perhaps just be yourself. it can't be much fun dating someone when you're trying to keep up with some persona you've created. but try not to burp and definitely don't fart. apparently boys don't like that.

1/2/2009 6:03:05 PM

i take back my congratulations then

it seems that you are far too antisocial to have a life outside of TWW, or else you would call him back

1/2/2009 6:03:11 PM

oh fuck it all


I hate you women


call the guy back, he's obviously interested, otherwise he wouldn't have fucking called you to begin with


it's not fucking rocket science

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:03 PM. Reason : .]

1/2/2009 6:03:39 PM

Weren't you dating Atlas?

1/2/2009 6:05:55 PM

interested or just trying to get his dick wet

1/2/2009 6:05:56 PM

^^^and she is obviously interested or else she wouldn't have given him her number

welcome to this adult world known as dating

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:07 PM. Reason : FUCK FUCK FUCK]

1/2/2009 6:06:16 PM

call him back

if it doesn't pan out, oh well

at least get u some dawg

1/2/2009 6:07:29 PM

Guys play mindgames, when he calls you you need to wait at least three days and then you should only text him with the words "Yo". See how long it takes him to reply, if he replies immediately he is desparate so you should run and run fast, if he takes a while see what he's doing that night and maybe meet at a gas station to exchange hellos but that's it. Remember he's testing your every move and will consult his guy friends about everything that happens so be on the up and up and youll score dat 190% penis!

1/2/2009 6:08:30 PM

^ are you kidding? That's terrible advice.

If you presume someone is playing "mind games" the response isn't to play mind games of your own.

1/2/2009 6:12:17 PM

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:13 PM. Reason : effing TWW]

1/2/2009 6:12:17 PM

I know this is stupid, and simple- and I'm a dumbass for not knowing what to do. But I don't really date. It seems most of my relationships have started by being friends or something of that sort. I've never put much effort into it (which likely explains my dazzling success with men) so I don't know too much about this aspect of dating.


and Kiwi, yes I was dating Atlas. That ended before Thanksgiving.


I should also state that I am equally stupid for asking for tdubs advice...

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:13 PM. Reason : also]

1/2/2009 6:12:32 PM

Don't listen to anything in the thread for th most part. Just call the dude back and talk. Have we really forgot how to talk to people? All is required is that you both can speak the same language. Just pretend you are at a party and get your conversation on.

1/2/2009 6:12:33 PM

is that out of "the Rules", Kiwi?

1/2/2009 6:13:26 PM

MORAN

1/2/2009 6:13:36 PM

^^^ I'm not a great conversationalist. In fact, many people on here could vouch for my ineptitude in social situations.

1/2/2009 6:14:39 PM

YOU GUYS MY ADVICE IS ROCK SOLID

1/2/2009 6:15:25 PM

Look, a real g knows how to take over the conversation and put it on autopilot. You'll do fine. If he was cool enough for you to reach beyond your normal social habits by approaching him, he's got to a man.

1/2/2009 6:17:10 PM

I don't even know if he's that cool... my bartender introduced us, and to be honest I was drunk. I suspect it was the alcohol that made me so forward, not anything special about the dude himself

1/2/2009 6:21:13 PM

1/2/2009 6:22:13 PM

and lo, we get to the true meat of the matter at hand

1/2/2009 6:22:44 PM

Quote :

"it's not fucking rocket science"

4srs

1/2/2009 6:24:39 PM

I recommend enstating a posting restriction on aea.

All in favor say aye.

1/2/2009 6:25:13 PM

Quote :

"Guys play mindgames, when he calls you you need to wait at least three days and then you should only text him with the words "Yo". See how long it takes him to reply, if he replies immediately he is desparate so you should run and run fast, if he takes a while see what he's doing that night and maybe meet at a gas station to exchange hellos but that's it. Remember he's testing your every move and will consult his guy friends about everything that happens so be on the up and up and youll score dat 190% penis!"

how the fuck are you going to get to know someone and decide if you like them by ignoring them for days at a time while intentionally limiting the depth and detail of your communications? this is like the most juvenile shit imaginable and I would personally lose interest pretty quickly in anyone that approached me in such a manner.

1/2/2009 6:25:45 PM

hey now, I barely post anymore as is. and considering some of the crap that ends up on here- this isn't that bad.

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 6:26 PM. Reason : ^^]

1/2/2009 6:25:53 PM

aha

someone chomped on the troll bait

1/2/2009 6:26:20 PM

Haha.

1/2/2009 6:26:30 PM

seriously, trollbait?

this is Kiwi we're talking about

1/2/2009 6:27:12 PM

wow she took off with that one.

1/2/2009 6:27:44 PM

Quote :

"meet at a gas station"

wtf

1/2/2009 6:32:35 PM

Quote :

"seriously, trollbait? this is Kiwi we're talking about"

im trying to have faith in humanity, but you are probably right

1/2/2009 6:33:18 PM

haha it was trollbait fuckers. jesus h.

No really, she would have great success if she follows my gameplan. In it to win it!

1/2/2009 6:43:17 PM

call him. get lunch, which is a typically short meal anyway. it's especially short if you get mexican. if he's cool, set it up to meet at a later date/time. if not, oh well- you lost a whopping 45 minutes to an hour of your life. no big deal.

as far as convo's go, first dates are easy. you don't know shit about each other, and that means anything is game.

1/2/2009 6:49:48 PM

Quote :

"Guys play mindgames"

lol

1/2/2009 7:07:55 PM

if he's a chubby chaser you're golden

1/2/2009 7:25:17 PM

what was his voicemail? I got to know that first.

1/2/2009 7:51:06 PM

Quote :

"Guys play mindgames, when he calls you you need to wait at least three days and then you should only text him with the words "Yo". See how long it takes him to reply, if he replies immediately he is desparate so you should run and run fast, if he takes a while see what he's doing that night and maybe meet at a gas station to exchange hellos but that's it. Remember he's testing your every move and will consult his guy friends about everything that happens so be on the up and up and youll score dat 190% penis! "

Wow - you suck at life.

1/2/2009 7:56:38 PM

^^ basically "Hey this is ---- from the other night, just giving you a shout, seeing what you're up to. If you get a chance, --- - ---- give me a call."

1/2/2009 8:00:42 PM

Damn, I got so many of you fuckers all worked up. haha This shit is easy

1/2/2009 8:04:58 PM

k, but nobody believes you were actually trolling

[Edited on January 2, 2009 at 8:11 PM. Reason : clarification]

1/2/2009 8:08:01 PM

if you were forward the other night continue being forward

call him up and ask if he wants to grab lunch and be confident no "um do you want to get lunch or something sometime" or any bullshit like that

1/2/2009 8:10:08 PM

Which is pretty sad. Do I really say shit that out there on a regular basis??

1/2/2009 8:10:27 PM

EXHIBIT A:

Quote :

"The Power of Your Subconscious Mind Kiwi All American 26990 Posts user info edit post What do you guys think? I'm pretty interested to know. I;m reading this, I dunno, "self-help" book or whatever you want to call it on the subconscious. This doctor claims that anything you want can be given to you if you convince your subconscious you already have it, much like faith/prayer. This book seems a little tad bit extreme but I think he has a point. The only reason I halfway believe it is because I can tell my body before I go to bed several times to be up at a certain time and I will be awake at that time. And the placebo effect."

if I hadn't read that earlier in the Lounge, I probably would have assumed it was trolling

1/2/2009 8:12:28 PM

Hey I'm just inducing some thought provoking conversation, jeez!

1/2/2009 8:32:32 PM