i'll keep this as short as possible: i have been in a four year on and off relationship. the on and off part was mostly in the first two years. i recently quit my job at the Pentagon to move back to Raleigh to be with her. she has had a friend (a guy) that she seems to only hang out with when i am not around (i have never met him). she went with him only on a trip to Charleston, SC, while i was still living in DC to see a concert (the two of them stayed with a mutual friend). i am not at all the jealous type and didn't let that bother me. but, just before the super bowl, she asked me if she could borrow my Garmin to go to Chapel Hill on monday to see this guy. shes never mentioned this trip before that, which is incredibly unusual. then she comes back and makes a big dinner and brings home a few presents for me that she got while in chapel hill. now, she cooks on occasion (maybe once every two weeks) but she never buys me anything. she has been acting kind of funny since all of this happened. so, my question: whats the deal???

2/5/2009 12:24:48 PM

5 dollar foot longs

2/5/2009 12:26:00 PM

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"i recently quit my job at the Pentagon to move back to Raleigh to be with her."

LOL

2/5/2009 12:26:20 PM

She's probably screwing him.

If you guys are "on again", you have every right to tell her to stop hanging out with this guy because it looks and sounds inappropriate, and if it looks like shit and smells like shit, well...

2/5/2009 12:29:27 PM

you shouldnt have quit your job

2/5/2009 12:30:13 PM

i'm too old for this shit

2/5/2009 12:31:08 PM

obligatory

2/5/2009 12:32:00 PM

dude, she's got a special guy friend


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she's getting pounded, and most definitely enjoys it.

2/5/2009 12:32:45 PM

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"dude, she's got a special guy friend she's getting pounded, and most definitely enjoys it."

2/5/2009 12:34:08 PM

I can confirm that he, and her, are currently riding the hobbyhorse.

2/5/2009 12:35:33 PM

^

2/5/2009 12:36:04 PM

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"she asked me if she could borrow my Garmin to go to Chapel Hill on monday to see this guy"

I guess the good news is she wasn't really familiar with how to get there...







or that's what she wants you to think

2/5/2009 12:36:43 PM

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"she has had a friend (a guy) that she seems to only hang out with when i am not around (i have never met him). she went with him only on a trip to Charleston, SC, while i was still living in DC to see a concert (the two of them stayed with a mutual friend)."

This all means she's fucking him.

2/5/2009 12:37:41 PM

signs do point to foul play, but if she was being scandalous with this dude, i would think she wouldn't be as blatant to borrow your garmin to go see him.....i'd think she'd be a bit more discrete about it, unless she just has some serious audacity

afternoon shopping in CH? any chance old dude is gay?

either way, if you're not cool with her hangin out with old buddy, tell her. if she makes a big fuss, give the boot and go beg for your job back at the pentagon, cuz the job market round here is strugglin' brah

*Ask where she met him in Chapel Hill and verify the address in 'recently found' on the Garmin....If she says she met him at a shopping center and the address is to house, hotel, etc....then it's time to lay down the law.

[Edited on February 5, 2009 at 12:41 PM. Reason : *]

2/5/2009 12:38:08 PM

she says he has a gf (not gay), but again, i don't know him or anything about him other than what she says

i could get my job back at the Pentagon with a phone call and could also get a similar job in Fayetteville by calling my old boss

[Edited on February 5, 2009 at 12:40 PM. Reason : ]

2/5/2009 12:40:10 PM

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"i recently quit my job at the Pentagon to move back to Raleigh to be with her. "

um why? what does she do? why couldn't she move to be with you? i mean did you move back to get engaged/married? it doesn't sound like she is too serious.

2/5/2009 12:40:19 PM

she could have moved too but bc of family, friends, etc and other things we decided it was better to be in raleigh

2/5/2009 12:42:22 PM

Go back to work!

2/5/2009 12:42:53 PM

in addition to the number of other men she is currently boning in the Chapel Hill area, I'm pleased to announce that presently she and I are riding the hobby horse

2/5/2009 12:43:22 PM

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"i could get my job back at the Pentagon with a phone call"

you should have done that yesterday

there is plenty of tail in the dc metro

2/5/2009 12:43:25 PM

say you'd like the three of you to go out to dinner some time. if she acts unwilling / awkward about it, she's probably a triflin' ho

2/5/2009 12:43:33 PM

Has she ever invited you to come along when she is hanging out with this guy?

2/5/2009 12:44:00 PM

she's probably having some kind of emotional affair. maybe physical, but i'd hope she wouldn't do it right under your nose like that.

i bet she's an attention whore. one with more problems than a math book.

2/5/2009 12:44:06 PM

SHANEB283 PWNT. STAY HOME.

2/5/2009 12:45:37 PM

i mean lots of people cheat right under people's noses. even if it isn't physical she could be emotionally attached since you guys have been apart (distance wise). i know emotional attachment isn't cheating, obviously. but i'm just saying. i think it'd be fine, except the fact that you haven't met him is kind of a red flag.

2/5/2009 12:46:19 PM

she has said things like "you should meet him sometime" but never has made any steps to introduce us. doesn't really talk about him except for a few occasions but i know she sees/talks to him fairly often

2/5/2009 12:46:43 PM

the fact that she keeps him separate from you would raise a flag with me, even if there is nothing physical going on it could still be cheating.

but just talk to her, tell her that it makes you uncomfortable that she spends all this time with someone that she keeps separate from you.

2/5/2009 12:54:50 PM

are you a post op? because no man could be this stupid.

2/5/2009 12:57:04 PM

Say that it makes you uncomfortable, and that it's inappropriate. She'll probably laugh.
If she keeps seeing him like that, just pick up and leave. Go back to DC.

When you leave, just tell her, "I tired to worl things out. sorry. bye"

2/5/2009 1:01:27 PM

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"WORL THINGS OUT"

2/5/2009 1:03:45 PM

she has said things like "you should meet him sometime" but never has made any steps to introduce us. doesn't really talk about him except for a few occasions but i know she sees/talks gives blowjobs to him fairly often

2/5/2009 1:04:45 PM

Girls that need to have "guy friends" are one of the following:

1. Delusional
2. Fucking them
3. See Above

2/5/2009 1:07:33 PM

i have guy friends. but they are all mutual friends with my boyfriend. and the ones that aren't are just class friends that i don't really see outside of class except if i go out in greensboro which happens like once a year.

2/5/2009 1:09:01 PM

you probably have his address in your gps now, go visit him

2/5/2009 1:11:54 PM

^^right, you don't have a secret guy bff like this broad apparently has.

[Edited on February 5, 2009 at 1:13 PM. Reason : sa]

2/5/2009 1:13:19 PM

My previous girlfriends would never stand for me hanging out on a regular basis with some female "friend" they have never met before, especially going on trips with her and stuff like that. I don't see why you would be alright with it if you are trying to be serious with her.

2/5/2009 1:14:16 PM

yea that is a good point. whenever something like this has happened to me, it is helpful to see the reverse. you should ask her if she'd be comfortable doing the same thing--hanging out with a rando girl she'd never met, going on vacays with her, etc

2/5/2009 1:16:15 PM

I mean, bigman has the right idea.

go visit him. he doesn't know what you look like. pretend to be someone else, and befriend him. once you have him trust, he'll admit to fucking some girl from raleigh. that's when you stab him with an icicle.

2/5/2009 1:16:39 PM

^

lol

Game
Set
Match

2/5/2009 1:17:59 PM

emce ftw

2/5/2009 1:18:33 PM

i prefer a jello icicle to a standard icicle as a murdering implement

just to give the detectives a little laugh

i'm all about the people

2/5/2009 1:19:13 PM

http://www.cheaters.com/?page=submit-a-case

2/5/2009 1:20:36 PM

Get one last roll in the hay and excommunicate a ho

2/5/2009 1:44:29 PM

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"STABBED WITH ICICLE"

2/5/2009 2:22:41 PM

lolol emce always brings lols

2/5/2009 2:23:48 PM