iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
ITT, pls post your personal rules regarding telephone etiquette.
In general, I:
Never call earlier than 9:30 am unless I know for certain the person really, really wants/needs to talk to me. Never call later than 9:30 pm unless I know for certain the person really, really wants/needs to talk to me. Never call during someone's working hours unless I know for certain the person really, really wants/needs to talk to me. Try to verify one's time zone before calling. Have an agenda/key talking points identified before every call, regardless of the person.
Someone called me at 3 am today. Ugh. That's a huge pet peeve. 10/31/2010 7:10:05 AM |
OmarBadu zidik 25069 Posts user info edit post |
you sure sound like a ball of fun - do you go to bed at 8pm? 10/31/2010 8:24:14 AM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
I go to bed around 10 or 11 on weekdays and between 10 pm and 5 am on weekends. I just think phone calls are annoying. Texting ftw. I prefer documentation of communication. 10/31/2010 8:32:22 AM |
humandrive All American 18286 Posts user info edit post |
have you ever heard of turning your phone off or on silent? 10/31/2010 8:35:08 AM |
JCASHFAN All American 13916 Posts user info edit post |
I agree with all of this.
^ I keep my phone on "calls only" at night in case someone has to get in touch with me. That being said, most folks I know realize that I'm usually up between 4 and 5 most Saturdays, so it is a bit asinine when they drunk dial me at midnight.
Quote : | "Have an agenda/key talking points identified before every call, regardless of the person." | fucking key. OTOH, I'm just enough of a selfish asshole that people don't usually call me "just to talk".
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 8:49 AM. Reason : .]10/31/2010 8:48:57 AM |
se7entythree YOSHIYOSHI 17377 Posts user info edit post |
my parents feel like they should wait until a telemarketer stops explaining their stuff & asks if mom/dad is interested to say "no thank you we're not interested." i just wait til they pause and say "take me off your list" then hang up. they think that's a little rude. telemarketers don't call anymore, so this was back in the day. i don't really care what a telemarketer thinks. this is inappropriate? yay or nay?
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 9:11 AM. Reason : ] 10/31/2010 9:10:57 AM |
ncsuapex SpaceForRent 37776 Posts user info edit post |
All those rules go out the window if it's a booty call. Amirite? 10/31/2010 9:29:24 AM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
^^^^ I sleep through everything, so the phone doesn't wake me up. Those are just my rules for outbound calls, as I hate waking people.
I screen almost all of my phone calls. If you don't leave a message, I don't call back. If you didn't message, it obviously wasn't important.
^^ it's more polite to do what you do and end the conversation early. Time is money.
^ booty text is much more efficient, as you can mass text multiple people.
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 9:38 AM. Reason : J] 10/31/2010 9:34:42 AM |
Chop All American 6271 Posts user info edit post |
^^^absolutely appropriate. telemarketers are no more than tv or radio commercials. there's no need to be nasty with the person on the phone (they are just trying to earn some money and most likely hate calling you as much as you hate calling them) but there's no need to sit through their whole spiel either. ^^I wish everyone had an agenda/talking points before calling. The worst is when Chatty McChatterson calls and goes on and on and on and you can't get a word in without being rude. I hate when people call "just to talk". I was taught as kid that saying "hey, what do you want" is rude so instead I say "hey, what do you need" before they get going.
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 9:44 AM. Reason : .] 10/31/2010 9:43:05 AM |
ncsuapex SpaceForRent 37776 Posts user info edit post |
Ahhh texting is easier to set up the gangbang. Got it. 10/31/2010 9:43:32 AM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
^^ amen. I hate when people (other than mom and bro) call just to talk. 10/31/2010 9:47:51 AM |
Str8BacardiL ************ 41752 Posts user info edit post |
DUDE its fucking halloween, they were drunk, get over it.
I am pretty sure this individual did not have some long though out process to decide to call you or something. 10/31/2010 10:55:24 AM |
pilgrimshoes Suspended 63151 Posts user info edit post |
10/31/2010 11:01:29 AM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
Yeah, but IMO, a 35-year-old should have more self-control/common sense.
It's generally a good idea not to use your phone when drunk. That's how cell phones get destroyed.
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 11:04 AM. Reason : J] 10/31/2010 11:03:04 AM |
merbig Suspended 13178 Posts user info edit post |
I hate texting. A bunch of nigga technology. 10/31/2010 11:52:22 AM |
dyne All American 7323 Posts user info edit post |
i remember when i lost all social skills and forgot how to actually communicate with people using spoken words 10/31/2010 11:54:27 AM |
chocolatervh All American 22986 Posts user info edit post |
if we are on the phone longer than it takes for me to drive to see you... we've been on the phone too long. 10/31/2010 2:13:53 PM |
slaptit All American 2991 Posts user info edit post |
My biggest pet peeve is not fucking enunciating. That's fine if you speak ebonics or dirty southern, but if you're calling me to ask a question then you need to learn to talk correctly.... 10/31/2010 2:39:45 PM |
Big4Country All American 11907 Posts user info edit post |
Don't talk on your cell phone in public where everyone can hear what you are saying. My favorite was when I was working at the grocery store and a lady came walking down an aisle while talking loudly on her cell. She said, "AND I SAID TO HIM, YOU COULD GO TO JAIL!" It was like she wanted us to know that her guy friend had done something wrong. 10/31/2010 2:46:10 PM |
DivaBaby19 Davidbaby19 45208 Posts user info edit post |
Sexting ftw 10/31/2010 2:46:34 PM |
babycam79 All American 808 Posts user info edit post |
My parents know not to call me before "double digits" 10/31/2010 2:59:07 PM |
Spontaneous All American 27372 Posts user info edit post |
Duly noted. 10/31/2010 3:03:56 PM |
umbrellaman All American 10892 Posts user info edit post |
I whole heartedly agree with OP.
Another thing that irritates me is when my sister calls our house every five minutes (sadly, this is not always hyperbole). It's one thing if you forgot to tell somebody something during your initial call, but I get so sick and tired of hearing the phone ring 20 times in an hour. If it's so damn urgent, perhaps you need to speak to the person.....in person.
Quote : | "if we are on the phone longer than it takes for me to drive to see you... we've been on the phone too long." |
Another excellent rule of thumb.10/31/2010 4:46:49 PM |
roddy All American 25832 Posts user info edit post |
at work, when leaving a voice message to someone and it is business related...do you end it with, "Thanks, bye" or just end it without anything special at the end? You dont know if you are going to talk to them later, etc..... 10/31/2010 4:56:41 PM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
^ if I'm only relaying information and I don't need a conversation, then I send an email instead of calling, that way the transaction of information is documented.
If I need to chat with someone and get their voicemail, I close by saying, "Give me a call at ####. Again, that number is ####. I look forward to hearing from you."
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 8:03 PM. Reason : N] 10/31/2010 7:59:30 PM |
jokar2694 All American 801 Posts user info edit post |
Always speak as fast as you possibly can on a voicemail, so nobody can understand you and they must call you back.
Then end with a distasteful joke. 10/31/2010 9:07:46 PM |
roddy All American 25832 Posts user info edit post |
I always call and send an email, so they can't say they didn't get the email (always save a copy of the email too). 10/31/2010 9:11:00 PM |
jokar2694 All American 801 Posts user info edit post |
^what about a messenger pigeon as a back-up, back-up? 10/31/2010 9:12:04 PM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
Print all of your emails and save them for seven years, just for legal intents
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 9:17 PM. Reason : M] 10/31/2010 9:14:25 PM |
Str8BacardiL ************ 41752 Posts user info edit post |
I hate voice mails that say "give me a call back" and don't say why. 10/31/2010 9:26:57 PM |
Ernie All American 45943 Posts user info edit post |
I don't leave voicemail and I don't listen to voicemail 10/31/2010 9:28:14 PM |
roddy All American 25832 Posts user info edit post |
^^^^you made a funny!!!!! har har har har har!
^lots of people don't, or at least not timely, thus the email....which tends to get checked faster....
[Edited on October 31, 2010 at 9:33 PM. Reason : w] 10/31/2010 9:32:06 PM |
TroopofEchos All American 12212 Posts user info edit post |
I don't leave voicemail and I don't listen to voicemail 10/31/2010 9:35:23 PM |
Str8BacardiL ************ 41752 Posts user info edit post |
When I had let my real estate license expire in 2009 I had voice mail removed from my phone it was really nice. People finally figured out to either text me or just hope I called back but leaving dumbass messages was not going to work. 10/31/2010 9:36:00 PM |
petejames All American 2236 Posts user info edit post |
Text messages really aggravate me in some situations. I can't wait for the rest of the world to get google voice, then everybody can go back to voicemails AND have a record of messages. 10/31/2010 10:05:38 PM |
wolfpackgrrr All American 39759 Posts user info edit post |
If anyone calls me before 9am I don't bother picking up the phone. I assume that others will do the same. 11/1/2010 10:24:22 AM |
Tarun almost 11687 Posts user info edit post |
pm me the digits! we can be text buddies 11/1/2010 10:54:16 AM |
GrumpyGOP yovo yovo bonsoir 18166 Posts user info edit post |
I hate talking on the phone in general. Always have. Too many long, awkward pauses, and too easy for miscommunications to come about. Unless I'm giving my complete attention to a phone call I get completely confused.
Whereas with text messages pauses are normal and I can do it while doing other things, like checking e-mail or operating heavy machinery. 11/1/2010 11:24:46 AM |
Slave Famous Become Wrath 34079 Posts user info edit post |
I'm going to look into getting my voicemail removed; I didn't even realize that was option.
I'm tired of having to dial my voicemail just to hear a message about whether we should go to dinner first and then the movie, or vice versa, only we shouldn't get popcorn because then it will ruin our appetite. 11/1/2010 11:30:10 AM |
Doss2k All American 18474 Posts user info edit post |
I would like to be added to these mass booty call text bombs.. if its first to respond wins I like my odds 11/1/2010 11:30:29 AM |
ThePeter TWW CHAMPION 37709 Posts user info edit post |
this isn't the first time you've bitched about idiot friends who call you in the middle of the night, ya know 11/1/2010 11:39:57 AM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
^ true ... this is actually the same guy. Great guy when he's sober. But every so often he goes overboard with the booze and gets very chatty. At 3 am. 11/1/2010 12:23:00 PM |
umop-apisdn Snaaaaaake 4549 Posts user info edit post |
This thread brings up a question of mine that has bugged me for a long time:
Why, in movies and TV shows, do people in telephone conversations almost never conclude with something along the lines of "bye" or "see ya later"? If you pay attention, there is almost never any acknowledgment of the end of the conversation with any salutation, just an abrupt hang-up of the phone. WHY? 11/1/2010 12:35:38 PM |
scotieb24 Commish 11085 Posts user info edit post |
^I too, notice this. 11/1/2010 12:40:14 PM |
tschudi All American 6195 Posts user info edit post |
my mom always leaves me 2-3 minute voicemail messages. I never listen to them. sorry mom. 11/1/2010 12:48:19 PM |
OopsPowSrprs All American 8383 Posts user info edit post |
I stopped making 3 AM booty calls when they stopped working. 11/1/2010 12:49:56 PM |
GeniuSxBoY Suspended 16786 Posts user info edit post |
Because in the movie they know when the other person is done talking because there is a script to follow.
In real life, you say goodbye in order to give the other person a chance to say "WAIT WAIT WAIT!"
[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 12:51 PM. Reason : .] 11/1/2010 12:51:09 PM |
aea All Amurican 5269 Posts user info edit post |
Quote : | "i remember when i lost all social skills and forgot how to actually communicate with people using spoken words" |
I am fairly certain I never knew how to properly communicate to begin with.
11/1/2010 12:54:17 PM |
BobbyDigital Thots and Prayers 41777 Posts user info edit post |
I solely rely on texting now unless it's work related, or it's my parents. 11/1/2010 12:54:49 PM |
iheartkisses All American 3791 Posts user info edit post |
set em up! 11/1/2010 2:29:18 PM |