made plans a few days ago to get dinner, picked a time and place. Texted him a little bit ago to see if we were still meeting up and haven't heard back. Hummmmm....



go or not?

11/1/2010 6:23:55 PM

do it. if he doesn't show, i'm sure there will be a couple other dudes there that will be happy to take his place

11/1/2010 6:24:45 PM

send bewb pics.

11/1/2010 6:24:50 PM

^^, ^

11/1/2010 6:25:27 PM

^^^,^^,^

11/1/2010 6:26:14 PM

Call?

11/1/2010 6:26:17 PM

Maybe he doesn't like text messages. I fucking hate text messages. I always call first, then send a text message if they don't pick up (they could be in a situation where they can't pick up, but they can send a text message).

11/1/2010 6:27:58 PM

if you picked a time and place i think its worth showing up...maybe he isn't by his phone right now? i dunno. if he doesn't show up at the actual place at the time then yea...no bueno

11/1/2010 6:29:28 PM

Call. If he doesn't answer, show up, give him 10 minutes then roll.

11/1/2010 6:30:58 PM

he's probably jerking off

don't wanna go out with a loaded gun

11/1/2010 6:31:45 PM

If he is at the restaurant on time, you should probably sleep with him. That's how girls show they are interested.

11/1/2010 6:32:02 PM

blow 'n go

11/1/2010 6:32:25 PM

What time are ya'll suppose to meet?

11/1/2010 6:36:31 PM

go, some people don't realize that they have recieved texts on their phone.

11/1/2010 6:38:20 PM

^^^^^^, ^^^^, ^

11/1/2010 6:41:54 PM

^^or have chosen not to receive texts.

Yes I am that old

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 6:42 PM. Reason : old]

11/1/2010 6:42:16 PM

Go.

I know that when I make plans like that, I consider it a done deal unless I (or she) calls it off or changes the time or something--especially if it was just a few days ago that you made the plans.

If you're wrong, well, you wasted a trip. Oh well.


If you no-show and you're wrong, you probably fucked away any chance you had with the guy by standing him up...unless he's a total sap, in which case you probably don't want him anyway.

11/1/2010 6:48:22 PM

Quote :

"go it. if he doesn't show, i'm sure there will be a couple other dudes there that will be happy to take his place"

i was sold after this. However, he texted to say he was in the shower so i guess date on.

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 6:55 PM. Reason : g]

11/1/2010 6:54:03 PM

Show up at least half an hour late. That's what I do and it works every time.

11/1/2010 6:58:47 PM

I was going to quote Ken but we have found out our results.

11/1/2010 7:01:39 PM

ok, so this crisis is averted. i now have my own question...


I'm taking a 2 week vacation to Peru later this month with a girl I met 4-5 years ago. We spent just a few days in each others' company back then, and another day or two later on when I flew out to CA (in flight school training, not commercially for the purpose of visiting her) where she lived at the time. I haven't actually seen her in a few years, but we've kept in touch electronically.

Several times over the years, I've indicated that she's the coolest chick I've ever met and I'd like to date her. She's never really reciprocated, but she's never really said no, either, other than a couple of years ago when she said that with her in the Air Force and me in the USMC, living across the country (or overseas), it wouldn't really be practical--a point to which I agreed. However, she has less than a year remaining in the AF, and I only have a couple left in the USMC.

Well, back in the summer, when I was in Afghanistan, I basically decided that I was tired of not knowing, and I was going to either make it happen, or at least know that it wasn't to be. Either way, I wanted it settled...so I sent her an email and said:

Sometime after I get home, I would love to see you.

Skiing? Motorcycle road-trip? Visit some exotic destination? USMC Birthday Ball (if we have it this year)? Sit around and watch paint dry and/or grass grow? Leave you alone and stick with women who are a few time zones closer, but aren't the coolest chick ever (and really, really ridiculously good-looking, to boot)?

she responded: Hahaha! Ya I'm down. Let's plan something

To make a long story short(er), we both listed the places we'd like to go. Her #1 was Machu Picchu, and my #1 was the Amazon, so we decided to go to Peru and do both.

Part of it is because I wanted to take a kickass vacation, and I don't have many friends who are both wife-free and have enough money put aside to take a trip like that (and she had sort of the same issue...she's wanted to go to Machu Picchu for a while, but didn't "have anyone who could hang with [her]") So, regardless of what happens between her and me, it will be a killer trip.

The other part is that I (a) needed her to know that I was serious, in a way that "Hey, you should fly out to NC sometime" wouldn't accomplish, and (b) I figure that if you agree to a trip before you even decide where to go, and then are willing to go to South America for 2 weeks with a dude whom you haven't even seen in a few years, and have only spent a handful of days with total, you are either interested in him or have serious mental problems. Either way, it's a litmus test.

I just wonder if there's any way she is going on this trip with a totally platonic mindset? I'm definitely not just trying to get in her pants or anything, but if it doesn't become obvious what she's thinking when we get there, I don't want to overplay my hand and have an awkward week or two ahead of me, haha.

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:43 PM. Reason : ]

11/1/2010 7:31:21 PM

so what's the question?

11/1/2010 7:34:22 PM

Quote :

" just wonder if there's any way she is going on this trip with a totally platonic mindset?"

11/1/2010 7:35:47 PM

Quote :

"I just wonder if there's any way she is going on this trip with a totally platonic mindset?"

she's a woman, so yes

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:40 PM. Reason : .]

11/1/2010 7:38:54 PM

^^^^It's always possible she's thinking platonic (who ever knows with women?), but unless you have a penchant for coming on to women you aren't interested in, you've made your intentions pretty clear. As for feeling awkward - if she's the type to read what you've quoted here and still try to play you, then the hell with her. Hang out and enlist her as your wingwoman.

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:39 PM. Reason : ^]

11/1/2010 7:39:12 PM

no because no

11/1/2010 7:39:23 PM

It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Go for the gold. If she turns you down, well, the next time you get drunk together it will all be forgotten.

11/1/2010 7:41:03 PM

Answer: It doesn't matter.

Qué será.

11/1/2010 7:41:06 PM

The fuck are those accent marks

11/1/2010 7:41:45 PM

Those be accent marks of the Spanish language, sir Ernest.

I guess the first word may not need it, depending on the way you interpret it, but the second one most definitely does.

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:47 PM. Reason : .]

11/1/2010 7:45:19 PM

amac thinks this is a good idea.
message_topic.aspx?topic=594708

11/1/2010 7:46:57 PM

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Que_Sera,_Sera_(Whatever_Will_Be,_Will_Be)

Anyway

11/1/2010 7:48:47 PM

null and void if this is her



TO PIKEY, SHE IS EVERYTHING, TO HIM.

^
"Livingston and Evans considered the phrase "Que será será" to be Spanish. They modeled it on an Italian saying. No other language was involved in their coining of the phrase."

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:52 PM. Reason : .]

11/1/2010 7:50:16 PM

haha, nah, it won't be like that if it doesn't go anywhere. I can deal with "no" just fine...I wasn't really digging not really making a serious effort and therefore not knowing, though.

plus i'm not paying for everything. In fact, at the moment, I owe her money for my half of the Inca Trail/Machu Picchu reservation.

11/1/2010 7:51:10 PM

Don't pay her just yet. That's one way to keep her calling.

11/1/2010 7:53:37 PM

New copypasta ITT. Thanks Duke.

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 7:54 PM. Reason : .]

11/1/2010 7:54:22 PM

Just get drunk first and then bring it up. That's like a 60% chance of success.

Or, do it the way it was meant to be done. As soon as you walk into the hotel room, make sure you're blocking her path to the door, and say, "Bitch, we're fucking. Pull down those panties."

11/1/2010 7:54:36 PM

Oh I just do love a good love story with sexual tension and lot's of unanswered questions in an exotic location. Make sure to report back

[Edited on November 1, 2010 at 8:01 PM. Reason : maybe taylor swift will make it a hit?]

11/1/2010 8:00:54 PM

holy shit i read every single word of duke's post

11/1/2010 10:02:28 PM

That's bc you're high.

11/1/2010 10:05:24 PM

You should propose as soon as you see her. I'm sure she'll say yes so this can count as the honeymoon.

11/1/2010 10:11:58 PM

^This is why unmarried girls shouldn't venture into the Engagement Rings thread. They only end up with rings on the brain

11/1/2010 10:13:56 PM

i love posting in the engagement ring thread

11/1/2010 10:18:50 PM

Yeah, I've stopped looking at that thread and I've stopped bugging the bf. Now I'm like whatever.

11/1/2010 10:19:56 PM

so how'd it go Jen

11/1/2010 10:53:19 PM

It went pretty well, im glad I went

11/1/2010 10:58:52 PM

Obviously not that well if you're back already.

11/1/2010 11:00:46 PM

sounds familiar

11/1/2010 11:00:52 PM

Quote :

"Well, back in the summer, when I was in Afghanistan, I basically decided that I was tired of not knowing, and I was going to either make it happen, or at least know that it wasn't to be."

I feel like making decisions about pursuing women during deployment would be a terrible idea.

Like going to the grocery store with a credit card when you're really hungry.

11/1/2010 11:08:52 PM

^^^ i met the kid at 7:15 so i was there a while

11/1/2010 11:12:07 PM