If 'yes' to both...
...that's pretty fucked up.


If you have kids, they'll have no uncles, no aunts, and no cousins.

Shitty.


(poor Chinese kids)

11/17/2010 7:59:40 PM

deep thoughts

11/17/2010 8:02:34 PM

both my parents were only children


i have one sister, no aunts, uncles, cousins. Both my grandparents have passed and im about to lose my dad, so ya. Family is pretty tight right now. I need to get married and my wife needs to pop out like 30 kids.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 8:12 PM. Reason : .me]

11/17/2010 8:11:27 PM

makes the holidays a lot easier

11/17/2010 8:12:10 PM

^ and less presents


I have a brother. She had a sister.

11/17/2010 8:19:10 PM

i'm an only, he has two older sisters

11/17/2010 8:38:00 PM

I'm only, she has an older brother.

11/17/2010 8:40:48 PM

i have a sister. she's an only child. we don't plan to have children.

11/17/2010 8:43:14 PM

I am an only child. So is my husband. Thanks for reminding us how fucked up our marriage is to our kids.


But seriously... can you imagine what kind of spoiled our kids are going to be? Our moms are going to go grandparent crazy. I'm not worried. Plus... our entire family lives within 3 hours. I don't think our kids will be deprived.

11/17/2010 8:58:08 PM

I've got one sis.

my wife has 4 brothers.


I also have 54 first cousins.

11/17/2010 8:59:04 PM

DIZZZAAAAAAAMN

11/17/2010 8:59:55 PM

I never even thought about this..

my mom was the youngest of 5, my dad was the second oldest of 4. I also have 3 siblings, one of which has 2 daughters. My family's pretty damn big. Luckily I only plan on having 1-2.

11/17/2010 9:06:46 PM

neither. there be plenty of family to go round these parts.

11/17/2010 9:21:52 PM

my mom's brother never had kids, so i have no cousins on that side. my dad is 1 of 5, but that side doesn't get along so i basically don't have cousins there either. i have a brother, and i'll be super super surprised if he decides to have kids.

what's wrong w/ chinese kids? my husband's chinese & has 40something cousins, his mom is 1 of 9.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 9:31 PM. Reason : ]

11/17/2010 9:30:06 PM

i don't have any first cousins

11/17/2010 9:30:37 PM

I assume he was referring to the government mandated only child policy or whatever.

11/17/2010 9:31:16 PM

oh. duh

11/17/2010 9:31:55 PM

Quote :

"I also have 54 first cousins."

Quote :

"i don't have any first cousins"

:/

11/17/2010 9:32:37 PM

I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters, she has a brother.

11/17/2010 10:02:45 PM

i have a bro and sis, he has a bro and sis

pretty sweet

11/17/2010 10:07:43 PM

What if you and your mom had a kid and your sister had a kid with your kid?

11/17/2010 10:15:32 PM

Man, I never thought anyone could have no aunts and uncles. Family reunions would suck.

11/17/2010 10:21:06 PM

Middle child...older brother, younger sister. No significant other.

11/17/2010 10:56:39 PM

I have a brother and he has a sister. Keeps things simple imo

11/17/2010 11:00:32 PM

I have a sister who is unable to have kids. My wife has a brother who is married but neither one ever wants kids. So unless my sister adopts (unlikely) we'll never have any nieces/nephews and our kids won't have any cousins. They'll also be the only grandchildren so that could be a plus for them

11/17/2010 11:03:39 PM

having no cousins would be weird. not hating, but i'm from a decent sized family. i have a bunch of cousins around my age and grew up with them. especially my raleigh cousins. it was like having additional siblings because we were always playing together.

though they were all boys so i was a tomboy until like...maybe i still am a tomboy? and i wore some of their hand me downs. which was super hot. but other than that it was really fun to always have people to play with. and now family gatherings are really fun. i dunno, i'd be sad without cousins and siblings and aunts and uncles.

both of my parents had multiple siblings, and so did their parents, so i think it is even weird that if my brother has kids, on his side they will just have me as the aunt (and whoever i marry i guess as an uncle). so just one aunt and uncle. whereas we have had like a bajillion on both sides growing up.

11/17/2010 11:04:54 PM

My dad is from a smaller family, but I always liked being around my mom's family more (3 brothers and a sister, plus all the cousins that go along with that number).

I only have a sister who's 4 years younger, so that sucked ass growing up (she's slightly more bearable now though).

11/17/2010 11:08:01 PM

i havent spoken to any of my cousins in about thirteen years

in fact, i dont even know how many i have

i have 4 uncles and an aunt, and dont think i've spoken to any of them in about the same amount of time.

two of which i've never met.

one of the two i've never met lives in the city i just moved to, but i have no inclination to just say HEY LETS GO GET A BEER.

coincidentally, i've not spoken to my grandmother in over 10 years either.

no real reason, just the way it is.

i guess the fact that we're spread out all over the place too doesn't help. pretty much no one is in the same state as someone else.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 11:10 PM. Reason : e]

forgot to answer the question.

i am not, have two sisters and a step sister i consider a sister. s/o has two sisters and a brother.

i bet my children will be more conscious and involved with their extended family than i am.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 11:16 PM. Reason : e]

11/17/2010 11:10:01 PM

jesus, 10 years without talking to your grandmother? that is insane to me. if i even tried to do that my grandmother (s..when i had more than one) would hunt me down and MAKE me talk to them.

there is no escaping my family. which has proven to be both a good and a bad thing...a GOOD thing especially over the past 2 years. they can be smothering and overwhelming but if i didn't have them i might not have survived recent traumatic events hah.

i have always been partial do my dad's family though i think. just cause i was closer to them growing up (physical proximity AND age-wise with those cousins). except for my grandmothers. i've always been close with both of them.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 11:19 PM. Reason : .]

11/17/2010 11:17:12 PM

^^ pretty much the same here. I saw my aunts and one cousin on my mom's side this past summer when my grandfather died. My aunts and uncles and some of my cousins on dad's side I saw 4.5yrs ago at my grandmother's funeral. Other than that, I can't tell you when I've seen or talked to any of them.

[Edited on November 17, 2010 at 11:17 PM. Reason : people posting before me]

11/17/2010 11:17:14 PM

no & no


but that's not really fucked up if both are only children...there are plenty of people who don't have contact with their extended family

11/18/2010 5:22:29 AM

I've got 1 sibling. He's got 4. Many of them have sig others/spouses. 1 has 1 kid, another has 4 kids. Throw in parents & other relatives and holiday gatherings can be up to 20 people. Especially since both of our families are from different parts of NC (mostly in the triangle & Charlotte these days) which makes it not too difficult to get most everyone together travel distance-wise.

Its kind of nice having a bigger family now, but just spread out enough that it doesn't get overwhelming.

11/18/2010 5:58:25 AM

I'm the youngest of three siblings, and my husband is the youngest of four boys (I don't know how is mom did it).

Quote :

"there are plenty of people who don't have contact with their extended family"

This is us. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to see some of my cousins or aunts/uncles more often, but my father's side doesn't seem that interested in keeping in touch, and my mom's side is too far away. It's not really "fucked up" if you don't see your extended family IMO.

11/18/2010 6:26:00 AM

I am an only child virgin orphan

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11/18/2010 6:28:28 AM

I'm one of 4 and he's one of 3. But I think it won't work out having close cousins for our kids because all of my nieces and nephews are already ages 7-13 and all of his family live in England.

11/18/2010 7:35:31 AM

I definitely don't want a lot of kids, but I just can't see stopping at one. 2 kids is perfect to me, but I'd rather have 4 or 5 than just one.

What a lonely kid.

11/18/2010 7:51:16 AM

we're both one of three kids...she's the youngest, i'm the oldest

11/18/2010 8:31:32 AM

i have one brother and he has 2 kids. They are 5 and 3. I have a feeling it'll be at least 10 years before i have a child so unless my SO at the time has a large family there won't be any young cousins for them to play with.


My dad has 3 brothers and 1 sister, my mom has 2 sisters. The thing is there is such a spread in age between the cousins that even though we all get along we were never really that close outside of holidays. We range from 38 to 17 with me right in the middle. My closest cousin in age who I was really close with died in a single car crash when we were 18.

11/18/2010 8:40:57 AM

only child ftw. I have lots of cousins and 2nd cousins though. The significant other has a brother he's not close with at all.

11/18/2010 8:53:04 AM

We're having my 2 little cousins over for Thanksgiving...both are girls (12 and 9)...it's kinda sad that I've officially become uncool to the 12 year old.

11/18/2010 9:07:20 AM

Neither myself nor my wife were an only child, but our kid will be.

11/18/2010 9:33:45 AM

Quote :

"Neither myself nor my wife were an only child, but our kid will be."

What was your thought process in coming to that decision? (I'm guessing obvious stuff possibly...finances, ease of raising one vs. multiple kids, etc, etc)...but I've always wanted a few kids, which makes me curious about the decision to just have one and be done.

11/18/2010 9:41:42 AM

Hard to say, even before our son was born my wife and I had discussed and agreed that we only wanted one kid. We both have fairly demanding jobs and I think we both feel like we only have enough time/money/sanity to raise one kid.

11/18/2010 9:45:58 AM

I have 2 brothers and my husband has 1 sister.
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My mother was 1 of 9, so I have aunts, uncles, an cousins crawling out of the woodwork.

11/18/2010 9:48:15 AM

i have one brother

wife has three sisters and a half-sister

11/18/2010 9:52:55 AM

I have a sister, she has two.

11/18/2010 10:02:15 AM

The fiance is an only child. Right now I like it because it means less family to invite to the wedding

11/18/2010 10:02:58 AM

I have a half-sister who is 3 years older than my oldest daughter. My wife has 5 siblings (some full, some step, one half), all but 1 lives in the Triangle. My kids have plenty of cousins to play with and aunt / uncles to hang out with. Both sets of our parents are divorced and remarried as well so my kids have 4 grandmas and 3 grandpas.

11/18/2010 12:47:47 PM

I had a brother but now he's dead.

11/18/2010 1:05:57 PM

I've got 130+ cousins...

on just my dad's side.




Dad had 12 brothers and sisters

Mom has 7.

I've got 4 half sibblings.

1 neice and 1 nephew.

11/18/2010 1:44:49 PM