here is a quote from a young lady that will remain anonymous.

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"cheating is actually surprisingly easy to get away with and I never had it bother me. Just make sure you cheat for the right reasons. Whenever I did it, it was just for the sake of fucking. If you are emotionally cheating then you are playing a whole different game. Just think of sex as a really awesome handshake."

In her eyes, its not really cheating unless emotions are involved


What are your thoughts on this matter ?

[Edited on January 16, 2011 at 10:52 PM. Reason : x]

1/16/2011 10:49:19 PM

i bet she's blonde

1/16/2011 10:50:12 PM

1/16/2011 10:52:33 PM

skank, imo

1/16/2011 10:52:50 PM

not blonde. a brunette actually.

1/16/2011 11:00:38 PM

There is no need to cheat when you are in a fulfilling relationship. And if you are cheating....or if someone is cheating on you....then there really is no need to be in that relationship. Unless you and your SO have agreed that it is ok to see others, then it is cheating and there is no justification. You are still hurting the other person. Now if you and your SO are comfortable enough with each other, and you both want to be able to be with other people, then that is your deal. But if you have to lie and go behind someone's back, it is wrong. No matter what justification you try to put on it.

1/16/2011 11:02:42 PM

girls got the herp already. i hope its not an ex of mine

1/16/2011 11:03:51 PM

1/16/2011 11:04:45 PM

Just to clarify, I in NO way condone cheating, but I realize not everyone views relationships in the same way I do. I just feel that if you have to sneak around, then there's something wrong and you need to figure that out.

1/16/2011 11:07:38 PM

I cheated on my ex once when I was totally blackout drunk. I actually went to bed and this girl (roommates friend) kept trying to go in my room and they stopped her several times and finally just locked the door. She ended up sneaking off and used a penny or something to pick my door lock and came in and we fucked. I had absolutely no recollection of it until I saw a condom wrapper and my roommates told me what happened, they even said that they heard me saying my gf's name.

I felt absolutely horrible because I was with a girl that I really saw myself marrying one day and so the guilt got the best of me and I told her what happened, which unsurprisingly turned into a shit show. We stayed together a little longer but it ultimately eroded the trust and caused all sorts of issues that probably caused us to break up. I still regret it to this day.

1/16/2011 11:09:18 PM

Quote :

"Just make sure you cheat for the right reasons"

1/16/2011 11:10:37 PM

i pretty much see it the same way. if you want to be someone then be with them. if you don't, break up with them.

cheating has never really made sense to me. I always get cheated on and then it's a whole mind fuck of "oh baby i love you but *insert a whole lot of bullshit*"

as for the open relationship thing. i don't get it, but if 2 adults agree to it who the fuck am i to judge?

1/16/2011 11:11:52 PM

so who said the original quote?

i think that the blackout drunk thing isn't so much the bad thing as is the hiding it afterwards.
while it isn't great, i would think it would show more trust in the person that they came to you when they could just as easily hide it and get away with it

1/16/2011 11:16:16 PM

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"if you want to be someone then be with them. if you don't, break up with them"

amen, girl

Cheating on a significant other is not justifiable in any way, shape, or form, in my opinion. It is sad that it has become so prevalent in our society today.

1/16/2011 11:20:32 PM

I'm guessing the girl in the quote will wake up one sad, lonely morning and cry.

1/16/2011 11:23:45 PM

better not be cheating with married people

I think she might be a slut :shhhhh:

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 12:16 AM. Reason : shh]

1/16/2011 11:57:25 PM

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"There is no need to cheat when you are in a fulfilling relationship. And if you are cheating....or if someone is cheating on you....then there really is no need to be in that relationship. Unless you and your SO have agreed that it is ok to see others, then it is cheating and there is no justification. You are still hurting the other person. Now if you and your SO are comfortable enough with each other, and you both want to be able to be with other people, then that is your deal. But if you have to lie and go behind someone's back, it is wrong. No matter what justification you try to put on it."

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 12:13 AM. Reason : f]

1/17/2011 12:09:39 AM

Cheating is normal.

1/17/2011 12:15:21 AM

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"She ended up sneaking off and used a penny or something to pick my door lock and came in and we fucked."

shit, i wish girls were doing mcguyver-type shit to fuck me

1/17/2011 12:16:43 AM

ive been on the cheater cheating on someone else for me side a couple times now and its just not worth it to deal with it imo...i wont be getting involved in these types of messes anymore

[Edited on January 17, 2011 at 12:37 AM. Reason : shit both were tww'ers.... ]

1/17/2011 12:34:46 AM

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"If you are emotionally cheating then you are playing a whole different game."

If you're cheating then it's almost a given that it would be emotional for the person you're cheating on.

Would you openly tell your significant other that you cheated, or would you try to keep it secret? If you think it wasn't a big deal but still try to hide it, why? Because you know it was wrong and that it would hurt the other person.

1/17/2011 8:14:35 AM

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"Because you know it was wrong and that it would hurt the other person."

1/17/2011 8:17:45 AM

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"i pretty much see it the same way. if you want to be someone then be with them. if you don't, break up with them. cheating has never really made sense to me. I always get cheated on and then it's a whole mind fuck of "oh baby i love you but *insert a whole lot of bullshit*" as for the open relationship thing. i don't get it, but if 2 adults agree to it who the fuck am i to judge?"

Interesting thoughts son.

1/17/2011 8:18:59 AM

if you even feel tempted to cheat i would consider the possibility that you should not be in that relationship.

1/17/2011 8:24:49 AM

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"I cheated on my ex once when I was totally blackout drunk. I actually went to bed and this girl (roommates friend) kept trying to go in my room and they stopped her several times and finally just locked the door. She ended up sneaking off and used a penny or something to pick my door lock and came in and we fucked. I had absolutely no recollection of it until I saw a condom wrapper and my roommates told me what happened, they even said that they heard me saying my gf's name. I felt absolutely horrible because I was with a girl that I really saw myself marrying one day and so the guilt got the best of me and I told her what happened, which unsurprisingly turned into a shit show. We stayed together a little longer but it ultimately eroded the trust and caused all sorts of issues that probably caused us to break up. I still regret it to this day. "

You got raped, man.

1/17/2011 8:27:31 AM

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"I was totally blackout drunk"

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"condom wrapper"

Does not compute

1/17/2011 8:30:18 AM

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"if you even feel tempted to cheat i would consider the possibility that you should not be in that relationship."

This type of bullshit is so wrong, man, and is at the center of the general misunderstanding between men and women. We're fucking animals. If staying faithful is important to a man, at some point in his life he'll find himself having to really work hard to stay that way even if he's in a very fulfilling relationship.

1/17/2011 8:36:41 AM

Fuck bitches, get money

1/17/2011 8:44:59 AM

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"if you even feel tempted to cheat i would consider the possibility that you should not be in that relationship."

NO

1/17/2011 8:46:15 AM

i've been on both sides of the ball and i hate it. i had my heart broken bad by a girl i would probably be married to right now had it all not come to the surface. and honestly i think i was more hurt from the knowledge that she spent time talking and being with the other guy more than just fucking him.

ever since then i've told myself no more second chances when it comes to cheaters and i've vowed not to do that to anyone i'm with.


yeah i'm aware we are animals and carnal instincts will cause you to have those thoughts and desires..but if I am in a fulfilling relationship with someone i truely care about it's not that hard to make the right decisions.

1/17/2011 8:53:30 AM

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"if you even feel tempted to cheat i would consider the possibility that you should not be in that relationship."

People are tempted to do things (cheating, stealing, etc) all the time, but the people who realize that the ramifications of their actions will negatively affect them in the future will stop themselves from doing it.

1/17/2011 8:56:25 AM

^Seriously son.

twoozles has failed son.

1/17/2011 8:57:14 AM

sounds like the girl in the OP needs to date a swinger or something.

1/17/2011 9:01:00 AM

How is your dude liking Black Ops son?

1/17/2011 9:01:29 AM

^ I think he enjoys it. He plays it and I go to bed.

1/17/2011 9:02:39 AM

You don't watch him play?!

1/17/2011 9:03:17 AM

^ haha I would but I guess it makes him feel guilty or something.

1/17/2011 9:04:14 AM

Oh, I see son.

1/17/2011 9:04:46 AM

i'm not going to excuse your indiscretions because you are "animal" by nature. if you can't commit, then don't. the only time i ever cheated on a sig other, i was with someone who treated me poorly and i enjoyed someone else giving me attention and being kind. if you are truly fulfilled then you shouldn't feel the need to cheat.

and i didn't say that being tempted should cause you to end your relationship, but perhaps you should consider if you are truly fulfilled and happy, especially if you feel tempted often.

1/17/2011 9:05:56 AM

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"There is no need to cheat when you are in a fulfilling relationship. And if you are cheating....or if someone is cheating on you....then there really is no need to be in that relationship. Unless you and your SO have agreed that it is ok to see others, then it is cheating and there is no justification. You are still hurting the other person. Now if you and your SO are comfortable enough with each other, and you both want to be able to be with other people, then that is your deal. But if you have to lie and go behind someone's back, it is wrong. No matter what justification you try to put on it."

1/17/2011 9:07:13 AM

Does the OP girls significant other know she feels this way or is she keeping it from him/her?

1/17/2011 9:09:34 AM

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"i'm not going to excuse your indiscretions because you are "animal" by nature. if you can't commit, then don't. the only time i ever cheated on a sig other, i was with someone who treated me poorly and i enjoyed someone else giving me attention and being kind. if you are truly fulfilled then you shouldn't feel the need to cheat. and i didn't say that being tempted should cause you to end your relationship, but perhaps you should consider if you are truly fulfilled and happy, especially if you feel tempted often."

Naw son!

1/17/2011 9:11:29 AM

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"You got raped, man."

Seriously

1/17/2011 9:13:34 AM

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"the only time i ever cheated on a sig other,"

We'll we're not even in the same boat here. I've never cheated but have been tempted a handful of times.

1/17/2011 9:13:48 AM

BOOM BOOM BUSSET

1/17/2011 9:15:44 AM

breaking into someone's room and having sex with them under false pretenses is against the law and morally repugnant - that girl is a dangerous rapist and should be punished

you don't need to carry the guilt around

if your girlfriend had been raped do you think she would have told you that she cheated on you?
do you think it would have destroyed your relationship? (it might have - but not for the same reasons, I think)

1/17/2011 9:17:53 AM

i suppose we aren't in the same boat, as i've never even been tempted while in a fulfilling relationship

1/17/2011 9:18:02 AM

^ AHEM...

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"BOOM BOOM BUSSET "

1/17/2011 9:18:24 AM

If I started thinking about cheating I'd know I was in the wrong relationship. But I am very monogamous by nature. Men I think are monogamous by force.

But there's a difference between fantasy and actual temptation. Sure, you wanna get with every cute girl you see in fantasy, but if you start pondering actually doing it that seems like a bad sign. At least to me with my monogamous woman brain.

1/17/2011 9:18:54 AM

Yeah that's some fucked up shit. Unless there's something else that you did, that girl flat out raped you and its despicable that your ex saw it as you cheating.

1/17/2011 9:19:39 AM