I'm going to put this on TWW at the risk of getting some harsh opinions, so be easy

Ok here is the thing (this may get long and confusing...beware) my girlfriend of almost 7 years graduated from NCSU a year and a half ago with a degree in Animal Science (large animals). She plans to go to NCSU vet school, but until she gets in she has been looking for a job. Now, she got offered a job today in Macon county as an ag extension agent, and she's taking the job (which I would to, I'm happy for her). She's moving there Feb 15th, getting an apartment or house out there and plans on staying for a year or so (the length of the job).

Now, to move on with the story you have to know more about me and us. We have been dating on and off for almost 7 years, and have always had some problems but we work through them and move on. I myself am graduating this year from NCSU with a degree in Ag and Enviroment Engineering with plans to either find a job in construction or agriculture or go in and work with my father in his custom home business (my real dream). I have built this very successful business here detailing cars and have that to back me up until I get a "real" job (ie: steady income until I find another job). I have family, family land, friends and plans here where I live in Franklin county. Hell, I still need to graduate.

So here is the thing I need advice with. She does not want to do the long distance thing, she wants me to move up there with her for the next year. Now, she has a job waiting with steady income and a purpose to be there. I would have to leave my business behind, start over again in a new town (taken me 5 years in this town to build the business I have). I would have to take classes at a local community college there instead of NCSU. I would have no income until I got my degree (August) and then looked for a job (could take 6+ months). I leave behind my family and friends, hobbies and a town that I have never left.

I'm just not the "drop everything" kind of person. I have not even moved out yet (doing that when I get done with college, saving my money). My family has lived on our land since the late 1700's, and I plan to as well. I have been building relationships and connections here for future employment, and I have income now (and I job that I like). I love offshore fishing, and with my current location its only 2hrs to my parents beach house in Wrightsville to do that. I have customers in Wilmington that I wouldnt get to as often. I would pretty much be dropping every customer I had without notice or a solution of an alternative detailer.

By this point I am sure you are all thinking either "wow, I just wasted my life reading that" or " you already sound like you know what you want to do". I do know what I want to do, I want to stay here 100%. What I am looking for is an opinion on whether or not that is selfish and greedy of myself to do this when the girl I could potentially marry thinks I should drop everything here and move with her. Its so simple in her eyes, she just does not realize how big of a deal this is for me.

So there, respond, roll your eyes, weigh in, die of boredom. Remember, go easy.

1/26/2011 12:07:24 PM

ibtl

1/26/2011 12:07:50 PM

ibtl

1/26/2011 12:07:58 PM

Go with her, dawg. I don't want her showing up on TWW later starting trouble

1/26/2011 12:07:59 PM

suspend!

1/26/2011 12:08:03 PM

later BHS

1/26/2011 12:09:01 PM

wtf dude?

where's the punch line?

1/26/2011 12:10:10 PM

i am pretty sure he meant to make this in chit-chat but

1/26/2011 12:10:57 PM

Yo homles to chit chat

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

1/26/2011 12:13:14 PM

just kill yourself...she's going to find this thread and off you anyway

1/26/2011 12:14:10 PM

ibtm2cc

1/26/2011 12:14:34 PM

actually no you aren't

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

1/26/2011 12:15:22 PM

Actually AstralAdvent had the last post before the move.

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:15 PM. Reason : ddd]

1/26/2011 12:15:37 PM

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:17 PM. Reason : nm]

1/26/2011 12:16:22 PM

HE'S GONNA FIND YOU AND BEAT YOU UP FOR MAKING FUN OF HIS GIRLFRIEND

CAREFUL BIGHIT

1/26/2011 12:16:26 PM

guess I better actually do some work now, thanks for nothing

1/26/2011 12:16:35 PM

everyone should take one post from the last thread and copypasta here

1/26/2011 12:17:24 PM

Damn the other thread got deleted with a swiftness

1/26/2011 12:17:39 PM

if by deleted you mean locked

1/26/2011 12:18:39 PM

well the double thread in lounge was supposed to be in chit chat i thought

1/26/2011 12:19:11 PM

race!

1/26/2011 12:19:21 PM

No, it was deleted for a moment but now it looks like it's back

1/26/2011 12:19:58 PM

i should repost my page topper and the PM i received

1/26/2011 12:20:29 PM

^^^^ yeah because we all know BHS can make threads every 5 minutes

^yes u should although the page topper is still there

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:21 PM. Reason : ]

1/26/2011 12:20:37 PM

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:27 PM. Reason : ?]

1/26/2011 12:20:46 PM

race race!!

1/26/2011 12:21:49 PM

If you're editing, I am too!

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:27 PM. Reason : ]

1/26/2011 12:22:07 PM

i thought BHS was the black guy in all those MMA pics, etc

1/26/2011 12:22:43 PM

Oh. hah. I was talking about the original thread... not this one.

1/26/2011 12:23:24 PM

1/26/2011 12:23:29 PM

why's it always gotta be about race

1/26/2011 12:24:05 PM

race race race!!!!

1/26/2011 12:24:23 PM

Check the thread in the lounge.

1/26/2011 12:24:43 PM

oh i dont venture there often

maybe i should ghost edit all my posts in here....ahhaha

1/26/2011 12:25:33 PM

dweedle saving face ITT

1/26/2011 12:27:26 PM

lol

soooo much race

1/26/2011 12:28:21 PM

race race race race!

seriously, they were srs

1/26/2011 12:28:26 PM

Reading this thread brings back some painful memories. My ex-wife sounds a lot like his girlfriend. I wish he would take everyone's advice to cut his losses while he's still ahead but I won't be surprised to find out they eventually get married and divorced.

I just found out that I know Brandon1's girlfriend. After spending on a short time with her, I realized that she is a huge bitch and will be on my shit list forever.

Back story: We were on a Relay for Life team together and she complained every time she had to walk. I walked for an hour from 4-5am by myself. Her and her friend signed up to walk next hour. I went and sat down on this tiny chair because she and her friend stole my chair while I was walking. I was so exhausted that I didn't care and was just waiting for them to start walking so I could get it back. As time passed I reminded them that it was their time to walk, and then they started complaining more. Considering that my Grandfather had died from colon cancer a few months earlier, I took this very seriously.

And then Brandon1's girlfriend said something I will never forget, "I understand that Relay for Life is suppose to be about the 24 hour struggle cancer patients have to deal with, but they don't have to walk around at 4am in 40 degree weather." I've never wanted to rip someone's head off so badly. I wish I would have, but instead I tried my best to ignore it. Luckily, after about 30 minutes passed, they got up and walked around for about 15 minutes. The only good thing that happened was I accidentally crushed her sunglasses with my chair while we were packing up

PM is

Quote :

"I think that if you have something to say to someone, you should have the balls to tell them yourself rather than post some crap on a forum. I remember the comment you are talking about, and taken out of context, sure, it sounds bad. I do understand how the relay is supposed to mimic the relentless struggle that cancer patients deal with- I was talking about how at the time we were supposed to be walking, there was NO ONE out there walking. Out of all the people camped around, there were times when no one was out there. If you are mad about someone stealing your chair, ask for it back. A five year old can figure out that much. And my friend Allison and I were in the chairs because our tent and sleeping bags were being used. I would have had so much more respect for you if you had come to me right then. Instead you bitch about something to strangers and brag about crushing my sunglasses. Its clear I wasn't the only bitch at Relay that night."

1/26/2011 12:34:25 PM

We have both moved for each other.

1/26/2011 12:36:34 PM

I love that you were just quoting three people and she thinks it's you saying it all

1/26/2011 12:36:40 PM

hahaha


whiny baby cunt gets to move by herself

1/26/2011 12:37:40 PM

1/26/2011 12:38:14 PM

F...DT?

1/26/2011 12:38:22 PM

i love more how i mention an ex-wife in the first too

1/26/2011 12:38:43 PM

He's just previewing his new meme

1/26/2011 12:38:51 PM

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:40 PM. Reason : nevermind, too stalkerish lol]

1/26/2011 12:38:55 PM

Quote :

"Currently Online? : Yes"

1/26/2011 12:39:23 PM

Come on guys, do you really need to pull images from their facebook pages?

1/26/2011 12:39:56 PM

he got nice

[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:41 PM. Reason : .]

1/26/2011 12:40:43 PM

I am so glad you posted that, grimx


I was the second confession:

Quote :

"I, too, have met that girl and the reason I made a point to never hang out with her again is because she was such a selfish bitch"

And I was present for the RFL activities.

For the record, it was NOT taken out of context. She made multiple comments that night that pissed multiple people off. If you don't want to help out, don't sign up - it's that easy. Oh, and her tent was being used because the captains of our team were sleeping since they had walked about 10 times more than her. She also signed up for those time slots.

Finally, it's funny that she of all people is saying others should confront others directly in the PM seeing as I'm sure she knows exactly who sent the aforementioned confession and can contact them in multiple ways.

But for the record Becky, since I know you still know who I am seeing as you "liked" something our mutual friend put on my Facebook wall, don't contact me.



KBYE.


[Edited on January 26, 2011 at 12:42 PM. Reason : .]

1/26/2011 12:41:00 PM