in here i will post things that i would like your opinion on.

im ready to be trolled so bring it.



my first one:
cody and my wedding guest list is getting to be a bigger than expected. a lot bigger. not the venue cant handle it bigger, but almost to capacity bigger.
so my question to you....if you came to a wedding that was a little crowded...what would you think?

[Edited on February 13, 2011 at 8:35 AM. Reason : i mean would it be THAT bad? we're ready to hire extra waiters and bartenders and whatnot....]

2/13/2011 8:34:21 AM

Fewer people will be able to make it than you plan for, obviously. Just make sure you have enough seats/food/booze and support staff and you should be fine.

2/13/2011 8:48:21 AM

^yeah we will have enough regardless

im just thinking about the crowdness factor :shrug:

i mean its no big deal but i was just curious

2/13/2011 8:51:07 AM

is the venue big enough? as long as people can go in and out of the building, those who are uncomfortable with the crowd should be fine.

2/13/2011 9:02:21 AM

its the preston woodall house.
its a nice size venue, old historic house with a ballroom.

im probably making a bigger deal out of it than i should be...at least thats what cody and my mom tell me :shrug:

2/13/2011 9:46:14 AM

time to send some unvitations

2/13/2011 9:47:22 AM

i was in a wedding at the preston woodall house... how many people are you thinking?

2/13/2011 9:49:26 AM

Would you have to nix ideas to invite more people? Like would there still be room for a dance floor (if you are planning on having dancing)?

Would you have to change the style of your reception? Like instead of sit-down tables, you would have to switch to standing cocktail tables?

2/13/2011 9:50:31 AM

^^we dont know yet, my family compromises of at least 100 people alone :/

^ we are meeting with tenting people this week to tent areas for standing, eating, etc...theyll be clear, air conditioned tents connected to the ball room
so hopefully not much will change

2/13/2011 9:54:53 AM

Is Cody going to be pitching these tents?

2/13/2011 9:55:32 AM

^ahahahahahahahhaha

2/13/2011 9:56:46 AM

Yeah, those tents are sweet.

I worked an event one time with a tent that had two stories. It was sweet but very pricey. Very similar to this:

2/13/2011 9:56:51 AM

thats pretty badass!

2/13/2011 9:58:36 AM

Our venue held 112 people...we invited 180. ~ 125 rsvp'd yes but only ~110 came (including bridal party which was perfect)

This stressed me out to no end, the only thing that did really with planning, but it all worked out.

Looking at pictures, it didn't appear crowded at all
I think you'll be okay.

2/13/2011 10:02:11 AM

the wedding i went to was about 200 people, sit down, with large tables. They set up the bar in the adjoining room but i never felt super crowded except while sitting at the tables during the meal.

2/13/2011 10:02:59 AM

^^ (and ^)sweet, thank you.

thats exactly what i wanted to hear


this is pretty much the ONLY thing that is stressing us both out.



[Edited on February 13, 2011 at 10:04 AM. Reason : our guest list is probably gonna top at 250ish]

2/13/2011 10:03:32 AM

Is this your backhanded way of telling us all we’re not invited?

2/13/2011 11:03:08 AM

lol. i figure this would be the best place to ask since it would be an honest outside opinion

2/13/2011 11:05:24 AM

you will be fine. It will just seem like a good party. I am sure some won't make it last minute. We had ours in Greystone in Durham, and got a tent b/c of the extra people, but no one really went out there. I am sure it will not be a problem at all. Also we had sooo much food left over too.

2/13/2011 11:09:09 AM

thank you guys.
i guess i could have posted this in the wedding planning thread, but hell, i didnt feel like it.



yall have made me feel a lot better!

2/13/2011 11:14:42 AM

My best friend's wedding was crowded and it was still an absolute blast I don't think it would be a huge deal

2/13/2011 11:38:29 AM

i wouldnt be too worried about a crowded wedding, weddings don't last more than 15-20 minutes or so, from what i remember in the 3 ive been in

i guess it depends on the type of wedding

2/13/2011 2:38:00 PM

seat me at the table with your single easy girlfriends plz

2/13/2011 2:44:10 PM

Go to a mexican wedding, you'll feel better afterwards.

2/14/2011 3:24:41 AM

Also, what will the weather be? Is there space for people to step outside and get some air? If there is, then it sounds fine.

[Edited on February 14, 2011 at 5:09 AM. Reason : ]

2/14/2011 5:09:00 AM

We had about 225 at our wedding and it was too many - our rehearsal dinner was about 65

If we could do it over again we would have trimmed at least 50 people

2/14/2011 5:26:57 AM

I can't even fathom spending so much money on a wedding.


Oh wait.. I get it.

Spend $20 per guest and hope for a $30+ wedding present = profit!

2/14/2011 5:38:02 AM

I'd consider 20 per guest to be on the low side of a typical wedding even if you are just counting the reception and not the actual wedding since you typically don't spend too much on guests for the ceremony

2/14/2011 5:53:37 AM

Quote :

"JOIE'S OPINION THREAD"

2/14/2011 6:24:46 AM

Joie you are making a bigger deal out of this than it should be.

2/14/2011 8:56:30 AM

Quote :

"not the venue cant handle it bigger, but almost to capacity bigger"

DOES NOT COMPUTE.

2/14/2011 9:26:05 AM

As long as there is an option of grabbing some space when you need it crowded parties are still parties, and your wedding should be a party. People will be forcibly less bored and everyone will be happier for that. Now, as far as that two story tent...shit makes me nervous. Who put it together? How much weight does that upper floor support? DID FAT UNCLE JOE JUST GO UP THE STAIRS?

2/14/2011 9:28:02 AM

Apparently my unbiased opinion on Saturday wasn't enough.

2/14/2011 11:31:27 AM

i dont think anyone would mind/care

2/14/2011 11:32:21 AM

Quote :

"Also, what will the weather be? Is there space for people to step outside and get some air? If there is, then it sounds fine."

i dont know, we're meeting with tenters this week to a .have a plan to still have it outside if it rains and b. tent for more room (there are several large areas that are connected that would look great )

Quote :

"Spend $20 per guest and hope for a $30+ wedding present = profit!"

lol, 20 is a little on the low side (as was said before) and we are pretty sure we wont be asking for gifts


and yeah, im sorry i bothered yall with this! i was still a little tipsy from the residual alcohol the night before

[Edited on February 14, 2011 at 11:41 AM. Reason : jkl]

2/14/2011 11:40:51 AM

Don't have a dry wedding. I went to one recently and didn't care for it.

2/14/2011 11:42:07 AM

negative


there will be booze.

2/14/2011 11:42:28 AM

Vegas or st. lucia?

[Edited on February 14, 2011 at 11:48 AM. Reason : In this thread i will post things that i want joie's opinion on!]

2/14/2011 11:47:35 AM

^for you guys?


i say st. lucia!

2/14/2011 11:49:06 AM

the only prob is we don't think erry one will get the $800/night rooms down there or the $600 flights.

And we'd totally pay for everyone... cept i didn't have a job for a year and a half...

2/14/2011 11:52:49 AM

I was kinda hoping this would be your opinion.

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

2/14/2011 12:33:55 PM

Quote :

"if you came to a wedding that was a little crowded...what would you think?"

i went to a wedding a few years ago that was quite crowded (i think they had reached the capacity and had to squeeze in every last chair). and yeah it was kind of tight but no one really minded or noticed. everyone still had a really good time.

2/14/2011 12:41:49 PM

joice needs to share more opinions

I'm bored today and need some intellectual stimulation

5/5/2011 10:18:00 AM

lol. actually i mistitled this thread.



shoulda been "your opinion on stuff joie asks you"




and off topic. cod's sis just put up a new profile pic and she looks like an actress.
at first i was thinking geena davis but thats not it.

i have the person in my head but i cannot for the life of me figure out who it is or what shes in.

its driving me CRAZY.

[Edited on May 5, 2011 at 10:23 AM. Reason : dfgdf]

5/5/2011 10:22:31 AM

I thought, since we're friends on fb, I could go through your list, figure out who you're talking about and figure out who she looks like, but whoa you have like 2248 friends... I don't have time for that

5/5/2011 10:28:30 AM

My opinion is that joies opinions are facts

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

5/5/2011 10:28:53 AM

pm sent!

5/5/2011 10:29:16 AM

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Poooooorto pantolone

I'm AstralAdvent and i approved this message.

5/5/2011 10:34:15 AM

lol joice you have a PM from this morn answering your inquiry

5/5/2011 10:45:18 AM

Quote :

"cody and my wedding guest list is getting to be a bigger than expected. a lot bigger. not the venue cant handle it bigger, but almost to capacity bigger. so my question to you....if you came to a wedding that was a little crowded...what would you think?"

Depends on the feel. If it's even remotely stuffy I'd leave ASAP. If it's a big party with tons of sauced up people I'd drink my ass off and wear the lampshade

5/5/2011 10:46:52 AM