You might randomly read about them but I'm not sure I've ever met one besides one notable exception in my own family. For purposes of discussion I am defining "marrying down" as

1) a female who comes from at least an upper middle class family, has a job that isn't high paying and prestigious (teacher for example), who marries a guy with a less affluent family plus a somewhat average job and earning power. This means that she has to accept a lower standard of living than what she grew up with.

2) regardless of her circumstances growing up, a female who has a prestigious and/or high paying white collar job (maybe she put herself through medical school) who marries a guy with an average type of job (could even be blue-collar) and makes significantly less money than her.

I never meet these types of married couples. Sure people date outside of their so-called "class" all the time but actually settling down is a different story.

5/30/2011 11:57:44 PM

They mainly do this for men with enormous penises because women are insatiable horndogs who cannot escape their endless craving of enormous dick, so pretty much this is a typical type of scenario.

5/30/2011 11:59:18 PM

love does not see green

5/31/2011 12:00:51 AM

Social classes? What is this, Socialism?

5/31/2011 12:01:13 AM

katy perry married down to Russell Brand

5/31/2011 12:02:01 AM

Drew Berrymore married down to Tom green

5/31/2011 12:02:53 AM

That's why I said you might randomly read about it but you don't really see it much in real life from normal people

5/31/2011 12:04:12 AM

maybe they like being the majority earner

could be a power thing

5/31/2011 12:04:59 AM

Before they divorced.....Spears married down to KFed.......

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5/31/2011 12:05:10 AM

nvm, didn't read the first post

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5/31/2011 12:05:23 AM

Dude, it isn't the money or the car or the house


It happens every day because true love is a virtue and women can't go 3 seconds without thinking about sex.

5/31/2011 12:06:01 AM

how many rich girls do you know?

5/31/2011 12:07:59 AM

plenty

what are you asking?

5/31/2011 12:10:37 AM

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"katy perry married down to Russell Brand"

Yeah WTF was she thinking

5/31/2011 12:14:03 AM

women say

oh my titties hurt I need to lactate pronto
\baby time!!!!



then you get no more sex as a man ever


just make the $ and stfu

5/31/2011 12:25:21 AM

My wife makes 2.5 times what I make. I'm a software developer so not exactly blue collar. Plus, I turned down better jobs for the sake of job security while she was going through school/residency. Its definitely never been a sore spot. Heck, most of the time its other guys thinking I'd be uncomfortable with it. I'd be a stay-at-home dad if we had to (a couple more kids and daycare will just be too much).

5/31/2011 1:10:59 AM

They mainly do this for men with enormous penises because women are insatiable horndogs who cannot escape their endless craving of enormous dick, so pretty much this is a typical type of scenario.

5/31/2011 1:19:19 AM

^^ I would have a hard time with that. You are a better man than I.

80% of my time is currently spent pursuing a degree that will ensure that only I will (necessarily) need to work

5/31/2011 2:42:29 AM

speaking of, i see you outside burlington all the fucking time.

5/31/2011 6:14:23 AM

A friend of mine did this. Married down both financially and personality-wise. To this day we're left scratching our heads.

5/31/2011 7:13:42 AM

^^^

really? I would never have guessed that you'd have a 1950's mentality.


a year from now my wife will be pulling 2-3 times what I'm making, and i'm more than cool with that. I don't see this as some sort of indictment against my manhood or whatever.

5/31/2011 7:22:44 AM

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"women say oh my titties hurt I need to lactate pronto \baby time!!!!"

i didnt realize you could speak "women."

also i didn't know that when my titties hurt its because i need to lactate and make babies.

5/31/2011 8:11:12 AM

I don't know if the OP is talking specifically about a money issue as he is about a socio-economic stand point. If you have a woman who is a medical professional, or attorney, something that needs a professional degree or PhD holder then there will be a disconnect between her an the plumber husband.

There is nothing wrong with working a trade, hell, those guys make pretty damn good money. But if one of the members of the marriage has only a high school diploma and the other has 8+ years of college/professional school they are going to be on different wave lengths intellectually.

Just thinking about the male attorneys,doctors,dentists I know, all of them are married to college educated women. I think the same would apply if the situation would reverse. Which is why you don't see a lot of drs. with blue collar guys.

5/31/2011 10:24:12 AM

any women trying to do this? you can bring me home to the fam and they'll be all like "why the fuck did she end up with this asshat"

5/31/2011 10:25:02 AM

It happens. I can think of at least one instance of each that I personally know. Though for the couple that exemplify #2, they married before she finished law school, and he is now working on a 4-yr degree.

Not common, but not unheard of.

5/31/2011 11:21:31 AM

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"really? I would never have guessed that you'd have a 1950's mentality. a year from now my wife will be pulling 2-3 times what I'm making, and i'm more than cool with that. I don't see this as some sort of indictment against my manhood or whatever."

I know, I was being serious in my post. I know it's backward-thinking and sexist, and if you're 100% unaffected by it then you have a character trait that I envy. I don't mean to suggest that if my wife made more than me that it would cause any problems in the relationship, money doesn't matter that much to me.

I guess for all my qualities I'm still a little old-fashioned. Ideally I'd like to have a career such that I work and pay for our lifestyle while my wife can pursue whatever career, profession, hobby, or otherwise that she truly wants, regardless of income. Don't read stay-at-home-mom into that, unless that's really what she wants to do. If that results in her making more money than me, great. My stubborn pride can get over it

I say this assuming I actually land a good job in my field, which I am in love with. Money won't be an issue. Now if I end up in menial jobs for the rest of my life then my future wife making more money than me will be pretty low on the shit-that-concerns-me list

5/31/2011 11:50:34 AM

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"2) regardless of her circumstances growing up, a female who has a prestigious and/or high paying white collar job (maybe she put herself through medical school) who marries a guy with an average type of job (could even be blue-collar) and makes significantly less money than her."

This describes my best friends... she's a global exec for a pharmaceutical company, he's an electrician. She didn't marry down, and he didn't marry up.... they married who made them happy.

5/31/2011 12:57:00 PM