I think it's because I work too much.

7/17/2011 12:48:47 AM

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7/17/2011 12:52:31 AM

hey we still need to go to loco lime!

7/17/2011 12:54:37 AM

you are correct, sir.

7/17/2011 12:54:59 AM

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"I think it's because I work too much. "

This excuse always always always means that she is needy.

7/17/2011 12:59:13 AM

How the fuck am i gettin your PMs

7/17/2011 12:59:16 AM

^^ meh. if i never saw the person i was dating i wouldn't really see the point of dating

7/17/2011 1:04:20 AM

^ yeah but that is hardly ever the situation.

7/17/2011 1:07:32 AM

^^^^ yes and no. I think we just have different schedules and different life styles. I think it's a move in the right direction.

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"^^ meh. if i never saw the person i was dating i wouldn't really see the point of dating"

Yeah I work normal hours and she now often works nights. So life sucks. Move on.

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 1:10 AM. Reason : s]

7/17/2011 1:09:14 AM

That sucks, man.

7/17/2011 1:39:45 AM

She is fucking your best friend, you will find out soon enough.

7/17/2011 1:44:27 AM

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 1:46 AM. Reason : s]

7/17/2011 1:46:22 AM

I'm happier single.


I don't like responsibility of other people's uncontrollable irrational complicating and indecisive feelings.

7/17/2011 3:37:41 AM

this is why its so much better to have aids

7/17/2011 3:45:38 AM

I'm sure that's why you're single.

7/17/2011 4:28:21 AM

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"Yeah I work normal hours and she now often works nights. So life sucks. Move on. "

What kind of work does she do? I've never understood how people make relationships work when one has an exempt 40 hour a week job and one is, say, in the service industry. Two totally different schedules and lifestyles.

Though part of getting older in relationships is understanding that there will be less and less time together. You spend more awake time M-F with co-workers than with a SO. Fact of life.

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 9:10 AM. Reason : two]

7/17/2011 9:10:03 AM

^i know a couple that has been making that work for 4 years now.

granted it's now an exempt job so...

also I think she might kill him soon.

7/17/2011 11:48:41 AM

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"What kind of work does she do? "

I do the 8-6 or whatever and she's in school and works at a restaurant. I had a big project that took up 4-5 weeks and I worked crazy long hours and she's been working lots of doubles. I'm just sad things we couldn't control screwed everything up.

7/17/2011 11:55:45 AM

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"What kind of work does she do? I've never understood how people make relationships work when one has an exempt 40 hour a week job and one is, say, in the service industry. Two totally different schedules and lifestyles."

And there are those who are salaried, but working 60-70 hr. weeks.

And those who work 2 jarbs

And those who work 2 jarb and going back to school.

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I've been all three, and each SUCK for making relationships easy, especially when she works 40-45 and bitches about being tired from working all day... (and uses the excuse to not workout and pretty much everything).

7/17/2011 12:25:08 PM

everything else = sex

7/17/2011 12:34:26 PM

DING DING DING

7/17/2011 12:35:38 PM

me no likey

7/17/2011 12:37:09 PM

fuck this thread and everything about it.

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"I think we just have different schedules and different life styles. I think it's a move in the right direction."

Good for you that you can say it, even if you're just saying it to convince yourself.

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"Though part of getting older in relationships is understanding that there will be less and less time together. You spend more awake time M-F with co-workers than with a SO. Fact of life."

Thank you NyM410, you put it kinda perfectly. This is something a lot of people don't realize. Having a father who is a full time tenured professor and now department head, he spends most of his waking hours working, yet my parents have been married for 26 years.

People spend a lot of time at work. What girls need to realize is that work doesn't take priority, but a guy has to support himself, and possibly the girl. If a girl can't appreciate how hard you work, you need to find someone who does.

7/17/2011 12:48:12 PM

/thread

7/17/2011 12:49:37 PM

i realized i probably spoke too soon as i lived in a different city from my SO for 3 years so that probably counted as "never seeing" him

BUT

i just meant that people aren't needy just because they enjoy spending time together

usually when people break up there are several reasons. the time thing could have been one of or the main reason, but usually there are other reasons as well. obviously. because there are many people who make different/hard schedules work in relationships.

7/17/2011 12:52:25 PM

eventually you both get old

and then you both are tired on friday night and don't care

7/17/2011 12:55:03 PM

One more thing I want to add, just to make it sound like I'm not entirely bashing the girls (and others might not want to hear this, but meh.) (Also, as a defense for myself, as I'm in the exact same situation currently)
The guy has to not make it seem like he's using work as an excuse for not spending time together. The girl needs to realize how much he works, and they can schedule time around that.
Spending the night together is one thing, but if you just fuck then fall asleep, that doesn't always count.
Even if you're not a big going out kind of person, once in a while is nice, and have something just for you guys to make sure she knows you still care. I dunno, get pizza every other Tuesday or something. You're too busy for big things, so focus on small things.

(Sheesh, this is coming too much from the girl's position side of me, and now it sounds like I'm trying to give relationship advice. Fuck. Maybe I shouldn't hit post.)

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"eventually you both get old and then you both are tired on friday night and don't care"

Lol, true, but you've got to make it work somehow until you get to that point

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 12:59 PM. Reason : marko]

7/17/2011 12:58:40 PM

yuffeeeeh

7/17/2011 1:03:23 PM

What exactly did she say when she broke up with you?

7/17/2011 1:06:10 PM

So I'm watching "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" (DON'T ASK) and just heard a great line...

The power in the relationship lies with who cares less.

7/17/2011 1:07:55 PM

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"People spend a lot of time at work. What girls need to realize is that work doesn't take priority, but a guy has to support himself, and possibly the girl. If a girl can't appreciate how hard you work, you need to find someone who does."

It doesn't have to be this way.

We have the most technology we've ever had in history. People should be working less and playing more.

This is not the case.

This is why the system is broken and needs to be fixed.

Stop giving the money that hardworking people earn to people in welfare and banks that are rich.

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 1:17 PM. Reason : .]

7/17/2011 1:17:30 PM

And go buy some pizzas with it.

7/17/2011 1:18:44 PM

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"We have the most technology we've ever had in history. People should be working less and playing more."

I work ~70 hours a week. there is no amount of technology that can reduce that. It probably has something to do with why I am single.

Well that and I live in the middle of nowhere and have no friends here who are within 20 years of my age.

7/17/2011 1:49:32 PM

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"I work ~70 hours a week. there is no amount of technology that can reduce that. It probably has something to do with why I am single. "

You're right. 40 hour work weeks require work on your part to fill 30 hours with a social life. No technology needed.

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 1:55 PM. Reason : .]

7/17/2011 1:55:21 PM

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"I'm happier single. I don't like responsibility of other people's uncontrollable irrational complicating and indecisive feelings."

Wow, lot of bitter people on TWW who don't know how to commit to a relationship and actually work with a SO to address issues.

Sorry, but you people will be lonely and probably miserable for the rest of your life

7/17/2011 2:03:05 PM

Wow ... lots of submissive males that bow down to pointless requests from females all his life for what? pussy?


What part of ""I'm happier single." do you find "lonely and probably miserable"

7/17/2011 2:06:22 PM

^we all know u are into guys......

7/17/2011 2:10:05 PM

Lots of good feedback in here. Will respond later tonight. I don't think this was as black and white as people are making it out to be.

7/17/2011 2:18:13 PM

Greg Hyer could hav helped prevent this

7/17/2011 2:20:21 PM

^ lol



I gather that she is a stripper in the "service industry" with a night schedule.

I also gather that you didn't have enough money for her / "work too much."

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 2:32 PM. Reason : ]

7/17/2011 2:31:43 PM

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"I gather that she is a stripper in the "service industry" with a night schedule."

Haha she is working at a restaurant with night shifts while she's in school.

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"I also gather that you didn't have enough money for her / "work too much."

On the contrary. In fact I don't think shes likes that I spend money on her/us. Again back to the point of having different life styles.

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"Wow, lot of bitter people on TWW who don't know how to commit to a relationship and actually work with a SO to address issues."

Ok just to clarify I got my first "real" job in November. Salary, work a lot, travel, etc. This was my first relationship having this type of life style. She's still in school, working to pay for school, she still likes to party a lot etc. I think our worlds just conflict.

[Edited on July 17, 2011 at 2:44 PM. Reason : s]

7/17/2011 2:35:31 PM

maybe you just don't know about all those college hoez that be hookin on the side

if any expenditures on her were in excess of 6% of your disposable income, then you spent too much



she sounds like a hoebag

good work getting rid of her

7/17/2011 2:40:44 PM

haha.

7/17/2011 2:45:06 PM

I have always read and will always continue to read "likes to party a lot" as "jam as many cocks in my mouth simultaneously as I can"


rofl

7/17/2011 2:51:25 PM

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"I have always read and will always continue to read "likes to party a lot" as "jam as many cocks in my mouth simultaneously as I can""

buhhhhh fuck yourself V_V

7/17/2011 3:03:44 PM

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"Wow ... lots of submissive males that bow down to pointless requests from females all his life for what? pussy? What part of ""I'm happier single." do you find "lonely and probably miserable""

Have you ever talked to someone in a long happy marriage about how they did it?

It is
a) Not easy and
b) yes, actually fulfilling

I don't doubt that there are some people who are happier single, and the reason for it is that they can't figure out how to make relationships work. And hey, there are also girls out there who have so many issues that they'll likely never get a LTR working (correctly) either.

Either way you go, I feel like life a miserable and lonely associated baseline with it. If you find something professionally or whatever that you are so passionate enough about that you don't need anything else, then.. good work i guess

7/17/2011 9:44:08 PM

so you're single now, eh?

7/17/2011 9:50:15 PM

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"I don't like responsibility of other people's uncontrollable irrational complicating and indecisive feelings."

Don't you have a child? Kinda defeats your entire argument (regardless of the type of relationship)unless you are a complete deadbeat father. Which wouldn't surprise me if you were.

7/18/2011 6:32:52 AM

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"So I'm watching "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" (DON'T ASK) and just heard a great line... The power in the relationship lies with who cares less."

Ben Folds was prescient: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y1wm7CFRCQ

[Edited on July 18, 2011 at 7:21 AM. Reason : but plz earn your unhappiness kthx

7/18/2011 7:20:40 AM

I'm there with you OP. Single little over a week now.

My advice? Busy yourself with your friends, plan for the weekends (or whatever days you might have off) and maybe pick up that hobby you've stopped doing (or want to get in to). Just keepy occupied because sitting and thinking about it will drive you crazy

7/18/2011 7:50:02 AM