26 year old mom, feeding 3 year old son.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/cutline/time-breastfeeding-cover-sparks-immediate-controversy-151539970.html



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5/10/2012 4:03:41 PM

no reads my thread

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5/10/2012 4:04:35 PM

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""The kid on the cover of this week's Time magazine is really going to hate middle school," Gavin Purcell observed."

Why does it matter that she's 26 though?

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 4:05 PM. Reason : I also didn't realize baby "wearing" was a controversial subject.]

5/10/2012 4:04:35 PM

bc she's hot

5/10/2012 4:06:30 PM

yeah she's hot...and definitely puts out.

5/10/2012 4:08:08 PM

So this depicts a child involved in a sexual act with an adult. So this is child pornography.

5/10/2012 4:13:02 PM

^ and it's her kid, so incest

5/10/2012 4:25:18 PM

Three is borderline on breastfeeding in my book. What really creeps me out is this kid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxv6R9fUO74

8 qualifies as too fucking old.

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 4:31 PM. Reason : wtf youtube]

5/10/2012 4:28:31 PM

If you can go brag to your friends about sucking on titties, you are too old

5/10/2012 4:35:54 PM

lol at some of the comments on that article

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"ReggieR 3 hrs ago Report Abuse That is just disgusting. Parents that breast feed after 2 years are mentally ill and their kids will be screwed up for life. They should all be arrested for statutory rape"

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"H D T • Indianapolis, Indiana • 3 hrs ago Report Abuse Lunch at preschool is going to get awkward."

5/10/2012 4:40:04 PM

^^Haha, winner

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 4:40 PM. Reason : ^]

5/10/2012 4:40:06 PM

That kid's going "you mad?"

5/10/2012 4:43:45 PM

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"Three is borderline on breastfeeding in my book"

She also breastfeeds her 5 year old, and breastfed herself until 6.

5/10/2012 4:45:15 PM

it's the "Are You Mom Enough?" bit that really annoys me


that kid is a big 3 year old, must be drinking a lot of milk

5/10/2012 4:47:39 PM

sucks for her husband...the thought of my 3 year old sucking on my wifes boobs makes me want to cut my dick off. I couldn't watch that & then still want to hit it later.

5/10/2012 4:48:04 PM

ehh obviously the title is meant to be provocative and is playing on the stupid fucking fights moms have on the internet over whether they're better moms than everyone else for whatever hippie advice of the week they're fighting over.

5/10/2012 4:49:09 PM

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"and breastfed herself until 6."

how is that possible?

5/10/2012 4:49:59 PM

^ haha yeah the mental image of that is creepy but pretty sure he meant "she was breastfed until the age of six."

5/10/2012 4:50:44 PM

(i know )

5/10/2012 4:57:18 PM

The US is one of the few countries that makes such a big deal about breast feeding. I'm shocked as to how many of my friends think it's "gross" and/or shouldn't be done in public. Yes, boobs are fabulous and can be sexually arousing, but that's not their only purpose. I plan on breastfeeding, and I will do it in public.

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"The human primate data suggest that human children are designed to receive all of the benefits of breast milk and breastfeeding for an absolute minimum of two and a half years, and an apparent upper limit of around 7 years."

http://www.llli.org/nb/nbmayjun95p86.html

5/10/2012 5:10:53 PM

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"The US is one of the few countries that makes such a big deal about breast feeding. I'm shocked as to how many of my friends think it's "gross" and/or shouldn't be done in public. Yes, boobs are fabulous and can be sexually arousing, but that's not their only purpose. I plan on breastfeeding, and I will do it in public."

i don't think that's the point of this thread

5/10/2012 5:13:25 PM

I have no problem with attachment parenting. Think it's a good thing. Probably won't personally breastfeed my kid after 1 year (and definitely not a three year old), but I don't judge those who do.

I do judge the ones that choose not to breast feed, or at least put breast milk in a bottle to bottle feed. (unless there is a health reason).

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 5:16 PM. Reason : ]

5/10/2012 5:15:52 PM

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"The US is one of the few countries that makes such a big deal about breast feeding. I'm shocked as to how many of my friends think it's "gross" and/or shouldn't be done in public. Yes, boobs are fabulous and can be sexually arousing, but that's not their only purpose. I plan on breastfeeding until I feel the time is right to wean - whatever age that may be - and I will do it in public."

better?

5/10/2012 5:16:58 PM

^^^^ My wife is a big breast feeding advocate (our son is almost 2 and still nursing). She went to a lunch with some nursing moms at her company a while ago. One mom told the group her husband hated it and found it gross, and made her leave the room whenever she nursed. If they had company over he would ask her to go upstairs to nurse in private.

^^^I think it's right at the point. Anywhere else and this article wouldn't have been published because no one would care. In the US though, boobs are seen primarily as sexual objects, the fact that children need them for nourishment is over looked by way too many people.

And we practice some of the tenants of attachment parents. So far it seems to have paid off.

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 5:18 PM. Reason : ]

5/10/2012 5:17:58 PM

Sucks for the husband

5/10/2012 5:18:02 PM

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"better?"

yes, it is...but if you're still breastfeeding your 3-year old, you're an idiot

not saying you ARE an idiot, just pointing out that 3-year olds shouldn't be sucking on titties

5/10/2012 5:20:08 PM

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"I do judge the ones that choose not to breast feed, or at least put breast milk in a bottle to bottle feed. (unless there is a health reason). "

Eh, I've worked with a lot of women that soon after they return from maternity leave, they've given up on pumping. Apparently it's uncomfortable, time consuming, there isn't really any place to store it since assholes stuff our communal fridge full of food they never eat and no one cleans it, and they get grief from supervisors for popping in and out of their desk all day. So I can understand why they decide it's not worth the effort in the end.

5/10/2012 5:21:11 PM

^I'm mainly referring to breast feeding at all. And usually by the time they're back from leave, it's been 2-3 months. I think studies are pretty clear that breastfeeding has definitely benefits. And I know it's work, but to me, anything that gives my kids a leg up health-wise is "worth it in the end."

I'm not as judgmental as I sound. I know it's not going to work out or be feasible for everyone. I just think if you can, you should try.

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5/10/2012 5:23:25 PM

My kid will be lucky to be breast fed, and I damn sure will not be co-sleeping.


And finally, the only benefit I see about strapping a child to me is if they're little and I need to multitask.


But, like I commented to someone who posted this on FB, this seems to be all about the shock value. If it were truly advocating for attachment parenting, they wouldn't have her striking a pose and placing the toddler in a very awkward position where it looked like he was all OH HEY, FOOD

5/10/2012 5:35:53 PM

she looks defiant...like "try and stop me"

5/10/2012 5:39:48 PM

Strapping a child to you is also very beneficial for colicky babies. Very beneficial indeed.

I also loathe the tag line. I loathe mommy wars. I loathe war on women.

5/10/2012 6:14:57 PM

lol at the comments popping up on Facebook.

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"I don't have a well defined opinion on attachment parenting. I'm just really weirded out by the picture. "Okay, Jimmy, put your mouth on your mom's breast again, and look at the camera. Can you tilt a little toward me?""

5/10/2012 6:19:30 PM

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"My kid will be lucky to be breast fed, and I damn sure will not be co-sleeping."

Sam, I'm kind of surprised by this. Do you mind sharing your reason why (unless it's health related, then I'm not asking you share) ?

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5/10/2012 7:47:13 PM

That kid is wearing camouflage cargo pants.

Total white trash!

5/10/2012 7:49:41 PM

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"One mom told the group her husband hated it and found it gross, and made her leave the room whenever she nursed."

If my husband pulled that, there would be some extremely unpleasant conversations to follow.

5/10/2012 7:56:14 PM

Yeah I never understood the reasoning. I can understand not wanting to past a certain age, but to be uncomfortable with your wife nursing an infant in your own home seems wrong.

5/10/2012 8:10:40 PM

That kid looks like he's pushing eight. He's three, seriously?

5/10/2012 8:13:34 PM

there is no way that titty is feeding ANYBODY...

much less a 3 year old and a 5 year old

5/10/2012 8:21:03 PM

^^maybe she's like 4'6"

5/10/2012 8:23:27 PM

My tits are smaller and fed our son just fine. And although he's three, he probably only nurses once, maybe twice, a day.

5/10/2012 8:24:04 PM

idk i just think it's weird if a kid is like "hey mom, i'm hungry" and then starts breastfeeding.

5/10/2012 8:26:41 PM

would

5/10/2012 8:30:29 PM

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"I do judge the ones that choose not to breast feed, or at least put breast milk in a bottle to bottle feed. (unless there is a health reason). "

My wife tried her damnedest to get our son to latch on and couldn't get it to work. Breast feeding and pumping was a lot tougher on her than I ever imagined it would be. I watched her cry through it multiple times due to the pain and stress. It doesn't come easy for all. I assume you would consider this a health reason though.

5/10/2012 8:35:24 PM

Reminds me of this sketch from Little Britain:

http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/5be57cfaff/meeting-the-parents-from-littlebritainfan

To be serious, I'd generally say it's up to the mom and the kid (and yes a lot of kids will wean themselves and start refusing mom-milk). But, there does come a point where the bonding experience and closeness is likely heavily outweighed by the "uhhh" factor. Yes it does matter if your kid is going to get beat up because you're still breast feeding him at 8 if you value their social development more than you desire to prolong an dependent early child-hood state because you value the bonding past when it might have any continued benefit for the child.

I have no place trying to claim exactly where that is - I'm not a mom. I couldn't really say that 3 or 4 is too old because I don't know the kid, the mom, or the situation. The worldwide average is 4 or so, but I imagine some of that has to do with developing countries and waterborn diseases being more hazardous than social stigma. I am pretty comfortable saying 8 is too old considering adrenarche can start between 6 and 10 years old (the pre-pruberty developmenal stage in which primary sexual characteristics and sometimes curiosiy/interest in the same/opposite sex.) I would have reservations to say the least about my kid still breast-feeding when they were getting ready to go to kindergarten; part of that would be my concern that they might not be properly prepared to spend all day in school if they still haven't been weened.

[Edited on May 10, 2012 at 9:00 PM. Reason : sdf]

5/10/2012 8:38:14 PM

do you have to take a shit load of hormones in order to produce milk several years after giving birth?

5/10/2012 8:39:36 PM

No. As long as you breastfeed your body will continue to make milk. It does regulate itself and may taper off once the newborn phase is over, and once you stop it dries up. Not sure how long til it does though (prolly varies). I stopped a month ago, and I can still squeeze a little out.

5/10/2012 8:44:19 PM

As a new mother, do you think it's shitty to breastfeed until the kid is 3+ (I think we can all agree that 6 y/o is insane)

5/10/2012 9:02:58 PM

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"^^maybe she's like 4'6" "

Yeah I have a feeling that she's short and there's no real visual context in the picture to really help gauge the overall scale (tree, trash can, etc).

5/10/2012 9:11:53 PM

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"My wife tried her damnedest to get our son to latch on and couldn't get it to work. Breast feeding and pumping was a lot tougher on her than I ever imagined it would be. I watched her cry through it multiple times due to the pain and stress. It doesn't come easy for all. I assume you would consider this a health reason though."

Absolutely. I clarified that I'm really not that judgy, I just want more people to try. I don't fault anyone who can't do it.

5/10/2012 9:19:50 PM

Set em up

5/10/2012 9:23:48 PM