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"What percentage of the people (or guys/girls) on tinder are on there solely to hook up (versus those that would actually like to date)?"

probably very few women

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"Also, how often have you come across people you know?"

once

7/16/2014 8:49:51 PM

so how does that work - she had already seen you (and "yes'd" you), thereby allowing you the option of saying yes or no? If she had said no, you would've never seen her profile?

7/16/2014 8:55:33 PM

right. or vice versa. and if someone clicks "yes" on you, their profile will show up before random ones

misread your sentence. if she hasn't clicked yes, she can still show up in my feed. it's just at random out of all the people in that area. if she clicks no before i do, i won't see her profile.

but if "your friend" is nervous about people seeing her dating profile, she should hop on into 2014 and stop caring

[Edited on July 16, 2014 at 9:08 PM. Reason : .]

7/16/2014 9:01:59 PM

I'm not worried about people knowing I'm online dating (I was on all the sites before it was cool). I just don't want to "run into" gross people I went to high school with. I'm newly single and still kind of unsure about the whole tinder thing. I know in bigger cities there is a much larger pool and people use it as a free dating app, but from what I know of its use in smaller cities, it's mainly slags purely looking to get their dicks wet.

7/16/2014 10:43:28 PM

yeah i don't know about smaller cities but its mostly normal people here. just put "not here for a hook up" on your profile and swipe your gross HS acquaintances to the left

7/16/2014 10:58:49 PM

I'm talking about Cincy vs NYC or DC

Here goes nothin

7/16/2014 11:09:38 PM

Okay I've already "matched" with a bunch of people and am chatting with way too many. I hope I didn't blow my wad up front

I've also accidentally swiped left on a bunch of people who I thought I was going to browse their pics. Oh well, what's meant to be will be

7/17/2014 12:14:33 AM

http://abc11.com/news/twin-sisters-charged-with-prostitution-in-raleigh/192190/

I wonder if they were tinderers...

7/17/2014 1:34:11 AM

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"if she clicks no before i do, i won't see her profile."

is this accurate? seems like it would defeat the point of it being random. That would leave you with a pool of people that have either already said yes, or haven't seen you yet. are you saying there is a whole other group of elite chicks that have already swiped me left!?

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""Also, how often have you come across people you know?""

i have my distance set pretty low, like 5-10 miles (which is low for my city, way too far for a big city like NYC) so I don't come across too many I already know. And if I do it's not a big deal, we're all hear for similar reasons.

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""What percentage of the people (or guys/girls) on tinder are on there solely to hook up (versus those that would actually like to date)?""

as i've said once or twice before it seems like in small to mid sized cities it's used more as a dating app. In large cities like DC, NYC, LA it's being used as it was intended, to find that nightly hookup.

7/17/2014 7:56:13 AM

I've more luck chatting with peeps on Tinder than on EHarmony.

RUDE

7/17/2014 9:59:43 AM

They rejected my EHarmony profile

7/17/2014 10:05:51 AM

those two prostitutes, while rough looking, look a lot better than I expected prostitutes to look

7/17/2014 10:18:27 AM

Look a little older than 19. Guess it's that hard living and the hormones in chicken. #whoreslife

7/17/2014 11:36:59 AM

I'd bang the shit out of those hookers. Poor man's Faye Reagans.

7/17/2014 12:38:45 PM

okay so I had GREAT SUCCESS (/borat) last night. not only did all the guys I swiped left to "match" with me, but I also started talking to this [seemingly] awesome dude.

he gave me his number so we texted a bit, and then he insisted I call him (even though I was resistant because a) I hate talking on the phone and b) it was already 1:30 in the morning and I had a feeling it was going to be a long call. we talked for 2.5 hours before I had to force a stop.

I'm actually pretty excited about this guy; my face hurt from smiling so much during the phone call. that said, I miss my ex so much that when I think about him I can physically feel it in my chest and stomach. but it's nice to have these distractions. match and OKC weren't doing it for me.

7/17/2014 12:50:37 PM

jesus christ. what kind of dude wants to have a 2.5 hour phone conversation? I mean good luck, but that sounds ~



also, it's swipe right to lay the pipe. not left.

7/17/2014 12:52:17 PM

OKC doesn't have much to offer. Thats why a lot of people think Durant heads back to DC in 2016.

7/17/2014 12:53:00 PM

^^one that is talking to me

7/17/2014 1:03:51 PM

I can't talk on the phone for more than 20 minutes. Once it devolves into what you had for lunch or what happened at work, click.

[Edited on July 17, 2014 at 1:10 PM. Reason : but I can dirty talk for up to 45]

7/17/2014 1:10:33 PM

there was little to no monotonous fact exchange.

7/17/2014 1:17:19 PM

ha, I downloaded this app several weeks ago, thinking it was something to do with facebook... but then I didn't see anyone I knew so I deleted the app.

whoops.

Also, if my phone conversation lasts more than 1 minute, you can bet I'm not listening any longer.

7/17/2014 1:18:46 PM

what does this guy do? because if he stayed up past 3am on the phone he probably doesn't have a real day job.

7/17/2014 1:21:48 PM

he is a defense attorney...and yes I have verified it. we are both night owls, and masochists apparently.

[Edited on July 17, 2014 at 1:30 PM. Reason : c]

7/17/2014 1:29:55 PM

Ah, true love at first rape.

7/17/2014 1:31:04 PM

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"I'm actually pretty excited about this guy; my face hurt from smiling so much during the phone call. that said, I miss my ex so much that when I think about him I can physically feel it in my chest and stomach. but it's nice to have these distractions. match and OKC weren't doing it for me."

good for you

7/17/2014 1:31:07 PM

OKC is pretty awful. what's funny is this chick messaged me a while back on OKC and we exchanged a few back and forth and then she just disappeared. Fast forward to yesterday and i get a note from Match and it's the same girl scooping my profile and saying she's interested. I just want to send a message that says "haven't we done this before?"

7/17/2014 1:33:40 PM

i've had more luck with OKC than anything else. haven't hopped in on CO yet so we'll see how that goes

7/17/2014 1:35:49 PM

^^^thanks and thanks for the extra push into the tinder - couldn't have done it without you


^^please do it


^there were like, 3 total guys on OKC that made me feel any positive feelings. I went on a date with one, who totally misrepresented his body in pics (he owns a gym near me, and the pics he had posted made him look like he was muscular/athletic). when I hugged him I thought I was going to break his ribcage. and then he was kind of a bro the rest of the date, so I told him my arm hurt and had to go home. we haven't talked since. the other two never responded to my messages.

what is CO?

7/17/2014 1:42:45 PM

he's in Colorado (CO)

7/17/2014 1:50:14 PM

you are welcome! CO = colorado. i moved here last week.

i've just found OKC to be better for weirdo types. i'm not so good at talking to "normal" people.

that sounds horrible. maybe you need to answer more of the questions? i never went on a date with anyone I matched less than 85%

7/17/2014 1:51:40 PM

http://thoughtcatalog.com/ryan-oconnell/2014/07/what-is-the-point-of-tinder/

7/17/2014 4:54:24 PM

^ ~gay~

[Edited on July 17, 2014 at 5:32 PM. Reason : ]

7/17/2014 5:32:19 PM

Girls are idiots they think a high right:match ratio is magical but really guys aren't playing that game. We just swipe right everything before the pic even loads and filter the matches for who we actually like and all those girls already feel special

7/17/2014 6:25:53 PM

i dont swipe right for fatties.

or midgets.

[Edited on July 17, 2014 at 6:42 PM. Reason : yes i have swiped left on a little person]

7/17/2014 6:42:32 PM

^^^maybe, but what he says is fairly true. it's like a game of collecting humans. "oh you don't think i'm attractive, well look at the 200+ faces on this list that think otherwise." it's all ego reaffirmation.


also this..

7/18/2014 8:58:43 AM

^LOfuckingL

7/18/2014 9:19:15 AM

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"Girls are idiots they think a high right:match ratio is magical but really guys aren't playing that game."

okay maybe I'm an idiot then - but I'm also new to this whole thing. literally every single guy I've said yes to has been an immediate match, which also makes me wonder how it's possible that they've ALL been the first to see me (versus me them).

in my defense though, about 75% of my matches have already initiated conversation, so there's that. (not saying I'm super attractive or anything, but I actually put some thought into my 500 words and didn't just say "I'm super laid back, love having fun", so maybe that counts for something)

ALSO: saw a profile last night that said "honey dipper services for $100" and I accidentally swiped left before it registered that I should investigate his offerings.

7/18/2014 12:56:30 PM

anymore 2.5 hour phone calls?

7/18/2014 2:07:15 PM

no but we have been texting quite a bit. he wanted to hang out last night but I had dinner plans with a friend.

I just figured out the "unmatch" feature - do they still see our convo after I do that, or does it just disappear?

[Edited on July 18, 2014 at 2:11 PM. Reason : k]

7/18/2014 2:10:54 PM

you completely disappear from their match list.

7/18/2014 2:21:49 PM

I'm having a legit emergency right now.

So tonight I've been tinder chatting for awhile with a really cute, seemingly nice guy, who would like to meet for drinks this week. At the close of our convo he asked for my last name and told me his. I looked him up on fb and what do you know, one of our three mutual friends is the attorney.

What the fuck do I do? I have no idea if they're close enough that the one would ask the other for info about me (only to discover I'm tinder two-timing them), and I obviously can't find out. I know it's not a big deal to be seeing two people, but it's incredibly fucking weird and uncomfortable to be dating two friends.

7/19/2014 2:16:06 AM

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"it's incredibly fucking weird and uncomfortable to be dating two friends."

You didn't meet them through one another. I see no issue with it. If they do realize it, chances are one of the two will back off and let the other have the first chance.

7/19/2014 2:21:46 AM

What if they're both offended or turned off to the idea that I'm carrying on with both of them? I probably would be if the roles were reversed, even though logically it doesn't make a lot of sense (given that nothing is serious yet). And hypothetically, what if I start actually dating and liking them both and THEN they find out when real feelings are involved?

I also feel like "you met her on tinder? Yeah me too" makes me sound like some kind of floozy

Lesson learned about giving out identifying details about myself before doing preliminary recon



[Edited on July 19, 2014 at 2:33 AM. Reason : Ugh]

7/19/2014 2:32:07 AM

how is "you met her on tinder" any different from "you met her on match" or "you met her on okc" or "you met her on tww" (don't laugh, it used to happen...a lot. hell i met my wife here)? tinder is online dating and from what I can tell, there is a wide range of people that use it, from hookups to looking for LTRs

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"what if I start actually dating and liking them both and THEN they find out when real feelings are involved?"

Chances are slim. I'd let it ride for now. I wager that you will know in a week whether or not it will be a non-issue (which is the most likely scenario in my mind)

7/19/2014 2:41:02 AM

And just bc they are friends on fb doesn't mean they are close or keep in contact often.

7/19/2014 10:45:52 AM

So slappy1 is on the way to being the new sawahash, right?

7/19/2014 11:02:22 AM

^^thats what I'm hoping for! but with my luck they talk every day

7/19/2014 2:14:50 PM

Saw a msg earlier that was sent at midnight from a girl that must have just matched saying she'll meet me at the hibernian

So I responded about an hour ago saying that last night must have been fucking crazy because i don't remember anything

7/19/2014 4:13:15 PM

^^ for all you know the two guys also met on tinder

7/21/2014 3:25:38 PM

i've been talking to a girl on tinder while my close friend is on the barstool next to me sending her messages at the same time. so maybe they are plotting against you.

7/21/2014 3:53:11 PM