Heathen

4/3/2018 2:10:10 PM

I'm trying to figure out a way to sneak mimosas into the church while we are getting ready. Maybe I'll just do a water bottle. We're just getting ready at the church so don't have to worry about transportation.

4/3/2018 2:12:08 PM

just bring the mimosa shit in. no need to sneak around.

4/3/2018 2:18:46 PM

A cash bar is a shitty move, especially if anybody is having to travel to your wedding, rent a hotel, etc. (And people invariably are). And drink tickets don't help. The last wedding I went to had drink tickets and let people know "by word of mouth." A handful of hardened drinkers grabbed a handful each and drank free all night. Most of the other guests didn't even know there were drink tickets until halfway through the reception.

But, at the very least, you need to actually let people know so they can bring actual money - especially if you won't be set up to take card.

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"Bottom line, if people don't want to show up because they don't get all the alcohol they want for free, then I guess I didn't want them there anyway."

Well, sure. Nobody should just show up for the booze. Nobody should show up for the food, favors, decorations, or chairs, either, but I bet you're providing those free of charge.

4/4/2018 2:11:52 PM

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"Well, we live together, and share a bed....but we are waiting until marriage."

wat

4/4/2018 2:39:43 PM

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"just bring the mimosa shit in. no need to sneak around."

This. It's pretty standard. I mean, don't spray champagne around or anything, but low-key pre-gaming at the church is normal.

Just don't put it in a water bottle. It's your wedding day; stay classy.

[Edited on April 4, 2018 at 3:39 PM. Reason : sss]

4/4/2018 3:37:39 PM

I think your alcohol policy should be based on who you're inviting to your wedding. If you don't know basic shit like what their drinking habits are...wtf are you inviting them to your special day for? Know thy audience.

4/4/2018 5:06:22 PM

Wedding guests usually constitute a diverse enough crowd that they have different preferences and expectations. Plus, people are touchy and delusional about their habits--they like to start all classy but get surprised! into a good time.

If money's limited, the cash bar makes the most sense. Anybody who wants to drink can, which is way better than two hours of free Bud Light. The drink tickets are also a kind way to encourage your reluctant drinkers to get started.

If your trashy friends don't show up with coat pockets full of mini-bottles, then that's their fault, and your two acquaintances who still know where to get cocaine are critical invites.

4/4/2018 5:41:48 PM

Legit question...does anyone know anyone who is pretty good at playing the piano that either lives around Carteret County, or who wouldn't mind traveling to Carteret County on July 27 and July 28 for the rehearsal and wedding? Our budget is around $200, so obviously it's not going to be a classical concert pianist that we get, but someone that can read sheet music and has a pretty solid/ high-end intermediate level of skills.


The pianist thing is killing me. We had someone that said they would do it, they didn't read sheet music, but I have heard tons of good things about him and he said I just needed to send him youtube videos of the songs I wanted. So I did. Then, I send him an email asking how everything was going with the music and wanted to know if I could meet up with him to I can hear the songs. He replies back saying that everything is going great, but he just wanted to make sure he was still free that day cause another friend was getting married in July and he was going to play for them. Luckily it wasn't the same day, so all was good.
Until I get an email out of the blue saying that he forgot that he has to go to his wife's grandparent's 50th wedding anniversary that weekend so he can't do it.

So now, we got another guy. He's a retired high school band director. He plays for weddings a lot and I thought we had a good thing....but he is nearly impossible to get in touch with. I've been trying to get him to respond to me for over a week about getting him the sheet music. He says anytime is good, just let me know when. Well I immediately responded with asking if this afternoon was good, or anytime this week during spring break would be great, just let me know. I haven't gotten anything back. Two days later I send him an e-mail saying "I'm available to meet you anytime after 4:30 during the week and anytime on the weekends. Just let me know" Nothing...

I don't know if I'm asking too much of the pianists or not, but this is one thing that is very important to me. We're having a church wedding and I picked out arrangements of hymns that I absolutely love, and I want them to be performed well. It would also be nice to have someone that could actually respond to me in a professional or timely manner....ugggg

4/7/2018 12:06:12 PM

Are you opposed to a keytarist?

4/7/2018 3:12:45 PM

If said keytarist was able to play all the music I've requested, I would not be opposed...lol

4/7/2018 3:49:30 PM

Anyone have any ideas for a gift for the father of the groom. He doesn't drink, he doesn't really have any hobbies, I just dont know what to get him. I want it to be something nice, but not expensive....

5/16/2018 2:18:14 PM

framed wedding photos

5/16/2018 2:24:32 PM

Perfect! Thanks!

5/16/2018 2:26:51 PM

Any ideas for bacheloreety party squad attire other than everyone wearing black? Like I want the girls to wear whatever they want, but I still want some sort of accessory to signify we are in a group. Its mid-July, so no boas, cause they stick to mid-July dancing at a bar skin. Buttons are lame. Tattoos are cool, but not noticable enough

6/4/2018 10:05:48 AM

Uh we were supposed to get gifts for our parents?

Whoops

6/4/2018 5:24:34 PM

custom pink trucker hats and koozies

6/4/2018 6:57:12 PM

^^ I dont think its required, but both sets of our parents have helped us out a lot, so we wanted to get them something as a thank you. We got our mom earrings from a local jewelry store, his dad a tie that he can wear on the wedding day, and my dad an NCSU Basketball gnome.

Also, my bridesmaids told me the theme of my bachelorette party is "let's get nauti" so I'm going to wear a captain's cap with a veil and everyone else will wear those white sailor hats.

6/5/2018 7:44:12 AM

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"Uh we were supposed to get gifts for our parents?"

yes, also for your wedding party

6/5/2018 7:59:40 AM

^^That's cute for the bachelorette party. Fun but not too tacky.

6/5/2018 10:07:05 AM

Yeah, the girls are going to wear either pink or navy and I will be in white. I wanted a way to draw attention to the fact that we're a bachelorette party, but not in a tacky, or in a way that makes everyone feel uncomfortable (like cheap feather boas when it's not a muggy).

6/5/2018 10:16:46 AM

Isn't drawing attention in the first place tacky?

6/5/2018 12:32:48 PM

Dress in all black with Kate Spade purses.

6/5/2018 1:19:05 PM

^^there is always some sort of tackiness in bachelorette parties. I mean a bunch of chicks drinking out of penis straws and a chick in a veil that is covered in condoms is pretty tacky, but fun!

6/5/2018 4:57:52 PM

In that case, where is the line... or at least your line?

6/5/2018 6:03:03 PM

Face tattoos are pretty noticable

6/5/2018 9:06:22 PM

Nah, just move to New Zealand.

6/6/2018 11:53:44 AM

^^^I guess everyone has a different line of what they would consider tacky. For example, I attended a bachelorette party where we all were asked to wear feather boas. I found it to be quite tacky as the boas ended up leaving a trail of colored feathers everywhere we went leaving a mess for others to clean up. Also, I thought the fact that we had to keep up with them all night and continue to wear them, even after we were all hot and sticky from dancing in Willmington in September, was rather annoying.
I also think veils that are covered in condoms are tacky...like you're getting married, you don't need condoms anymore. Also, I think like obnoxiously large penis accessories that you bring out in public are a little tacky too.

Basically, I was trying to figure out something that wouldn't be obnoxiously large and annoying to the girls that are going, and would be obnoxiously annoying to other patrons of any establishment that we might venture to...so everyone has their own level of what they think is tacky.

6/7/2018 7:55:11 PM

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"you're getting married, you don't need condoms anymore"

that's how you get unplanned pregnancies.

pro tip: cover the tip. yes, even after marriage. unless you want babies.

6/8/2018 9:22:56 AM

^I have PCOS and an IUD....if I get knocked up I'm going to take that as a sign that it's time. It might be different if I never wanted kids, but eventually, they are in the plan.

6/8/2018 4:11:28 PM

hey, do you, boo.

6/8/2018 5:08:22 PM

My bridal shower and bachelorette party are tomorrow! The wedding is 2 weeks from tomorrow!

7/13/2018 12:04:49 PM

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"sawahash I'm not going to get married. Being in a partnership is a stupid tradition that people who can't think on their own do!! 1/7/2008"

(not posting this to knock you)

It is amazing how people change, and I can attest to that vis-a-vis having changed my opinions about some major issues over the past couple of decades.

This reminds me of my brother who used to say as a teen that he would never get married, and now at 44 he has 5 kids... and I don't think they will stop having more until biologically impossible!

Everybody deserves happiness... hope you have found yours and can hold on to it for life

7/20/2018 12:58:44 AM

0EP, you dog

7/20/2018 3:42:06 AM

^^ I can probably almost guarantee that post had something to do with Saps. Because I can promise you that there was never a significant amount of time in my life where I didnt want to get married!

Ok, so we are officially a week away. I think my nerves are getting the best of me, I am so damn emotional!

How do yall settle your nerves (I'm within the month of school starting back so using green to self medicate is not an option)

7/21/2018 10:08:06 AM

I drink heavily.

7/21/2018 7:40:31 PM

bttt

7/21/2018 11:04:52 PM

What's a good restaurant in Savannah?

7/23/2018 10:51:22 AM

Waffle House

7/23/2018 11:27:54 AM

Just make sure you order your hash browns extra crispy, covered, smothered and chunked.

7/23/2018 11:39:23 AM

I'll have to try them out!

7/23/2018 1:52:33 PM

I didn't experience any overly memorable restaurants, but Lulu's Chocolate bar made a really good pecan pie.

[Edited on July 23, 2018 at 2:14 PM. Reason : .]

7/23/2018 2:13:37 PM

IM GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW! HOLY FUCKING SHIT!

7/27/2018 11:07:37 PM

I never got an invitation

7/28/2018 12:23:41 AM

Congrats! Hope today is perfect for you and Mr. Sawahash!

7/28/2018 6:34:25 AM

So, I'm married! It was a great day...except for when both Pine Knoll Shores and Atlantic Beach Police were called because we were "inciting a riot." But overall, it was an amazing day.

So here is what happened. The bartender was an asshat. After we did the introductions and first dance, my husband tried to get a drink. The bartender refused to serve him without a ticket (we did drink tickets). I had to go talk to the bartender and let him know that it was myself and the groom that were paying for the alcohol, we don't need tickets.
He then started collecting the tickets for soft drinks (the tickets were for beer and wine only). I had to go up to him and correct him and let him know he was not to take tickets for soft drinks. He let me know that I needed to walk around and tell everyone that had a soft drink to get another ticket (so that I would be charged twice).

He cut my brother off because my brother was cussing. He did this while Get Low was playing, unedited. He cut my brother off for singing along to the song.
He cut my step-father in law off for trying to order 3 drinks, one for him, one for my mother-in-law, and one for my uncle-in-law.
He called a security guard to come in and stand right beside the dance floor.
He accused our photographers of being wedding crashers and refused to serve them until our coordinator picked up on it put him in his place.

When I went to go talk to him about why he was cutting people off for ridiculous reasons, he kept turning his back to me, finally when I decided to raise my voice because he was acting like a child and he needed to know that I wasn't playing around, he turned to me and said "find another fucking bartender"

My husband heard it (and if anyone knows him, they know he is a very introverted person, very non-confrontational) and he picked up all the cocktail napkins and threw them at the bartender.

He wouldn't serve anyone past 10, the reception ended at 11. This caused people to leave before the send-off.

After the send-off (when we still had 30 minutes left in our contract) he told people it was time to leave and started pushing them out the door.

Then he called the cops because we were standing in the parking lot trying to figure out what the hell was going on. We had called a cab to take us to a bar because we weren't done partying, but when the cab came he sent the security guard outside and sent the cab away because they were wanting us to still be there when the cops came.
As soon as the cops came, I started talking to them, they left 5 minutes later trying to figure out where the "riot" was.

We received no apology from the venue for the bartender's actions. I've had several guests contact me or my family telling us of things that the bartender did to them.

The venue sent us a bill for the alcohol. My mom called them and told them there were some things that we needed to discuss before the bill was settled. She hasn't gotten a phone call back.

I mean that whole ordeal sucked, and I'm embarrassed by how my guests were treated by the bartender. I am upset with the way he talked to me on my wedding day. He caused a breach in contract by assuming the authority to kick us out before the time we paid for was up.

However, it was a great night overall, and it's still kinda funny that the cops came. It will be a great story to tell for the rest of our lives. I married a great guy and I am excited to see where we go from here!

7/30/2018 6:26:28 PM

Yeah, don't pay that bill. You already know he collected tickets for non-alcoholic drinks, which means the bill is wrong. Plus he sounds terrible.

7/30/2018 8:20:25 PM

I would post that story on the event venues reviews.

7/30/2018 8:34:55 PM

Once we talk to them, that will determine if I start posting the story online or not. If they find a way to "make it right" then I'll leave it be. If not, everywhere I can think of for reviews will hear from me. They will get enough bad pressure from other people that they might reconsider.

7/30/2018 9:17:06 PM

You picked a good place to start with the negative reviews.

7/30/2018 9:54:04 PM