I'm not.

I just asked a question.

3/16/2008 10:15:50 PM

i have some laxatives if youd like a couple

3/16/2008 10:16:26 PM

stillfuckbox.. lol

3/16/2008 10:17:21 PM

I'm not the one being uptight here.

There are plenty of people, even in this thread, who have expressed not believing in the idea of "the one," so why would you criticize a person for being in a relationship if they feel that way?

but please, feel free to start off on one of your "THAT ISN'T REAL LIFE" diatribes, because I'm sure that's the only reason you want to pick on me

[Edited on March 16, 2008 at 10:18 PM. Reason : .]

3/16/2008 10:17:43 PM

i for one actually believe in the "one". but i also think that if that person ever cheated on me or started hording packs of animals or some stupid shit i would peace them the fuck out.

3/16/2008 10:19:10 PM

Quote :

"yeah i wifed her"

3/16/2008 10:29:53 PM

im one of the people who said that and it didnt offend me

and im not trying to fight about real life. maybe i just dont get it, i thought we were talking about real life for once.

whateverrrrr not trying to fight anyways

3/16/2008 10:32:10 PM

sigh i wasn't criticizing. i said just CURIOUS. and i said in a previous post i didn't believe in "the one" either. and in that post i tried to convey that i didn't mean "the one" in terms of marriage but in terms of someone that you have something substantial with. i basically meant, is it a live in the moment have fun now kind of mentality? cause i don't have that. even if it isn't the one i at least want to feel compatible enough with the person to not put a deadline on things...like saying oh they def aren't "the one." i figured it would be something like what jackleg said...just having fun or maybe things weren't as serious as expected. it was just a question to understandddd. some people are serial daters others perfer commitmentless flings other people like to be attached. it is just interesting to hear other peoples thoughts.

3/16/2008 10:33:40 PM

question for married people

how did sex change after marriage?

3/16/2008 10:34:49 PM

^i'm gonna guess that it would fluctuate, but that it would be more meaningful more often.

3/16/2008 10:36:51 PM

im scared im gonna end up getting married to someone i dont really like, just so i wont be bored.

3/16/2008 10:43:14 PM

marriage seems boring to begin with. no offense. throwing someone in there you don't like just seems awful hahaha

3/16/2008 10:46:43 PM

i prefer torture to boredom. but seriously i dont see myself getting married anytime EVER. ha ha

3/16/2008 10:49:01 PM

i'm a traditionalist. i'll be the first to say i can't wait to come home at 5pm to some kiddies (i don't see it as an easy task either) i kind of enjoy the challenge though oneday of trying to please a wife and kids

[Edited on March 16, 2008 at 10:53 PM. Reason : /]

3/16/2008 10:53:07 PM

Quote :

"if you don't think they're the one why even date them "

I can think of at least one reason

3/16/2008 10:56:05 PM

khcadwal, you have done an awful lot of back pedaling these last few posts

3/16/2008 10:58:41 PM

I think that marriage might indicate a stronger bond of trust, privacy and legal immunity

I think I like that

3/16/2008 10:59:48 PM

a stronger bond of trust, privacy and legal immunity indicates a stronger bond of trust, privacy and legal immunity

marriage won't create that

[Edited on March 16, 2008 at 11:08 PM. Reason : it's not like your digicable 10000 plan where you can add features as they seem attractive to you]

3/16/2008 11:07:57 PM

^thanks


you have to stop looking at marriage as a legal or business relationship

it is far far more than a simple contract.

3/16/2008 11:09:08 PM

^^by definition, the marriage creates the legal bit, so I'm not sure how "legal immunity" begets "legal immunity"

And I don't think anyone sees it as a mere contract, but it is legally binding in a way that merely being serious about each other isn't.

[Edited on March 16, 2008 at 11:12 PM. Reason : .]

3/16/2008 11:09:13 PM

%99.99999999999 sure she is

[Edited on March 16, 2008 at 11:11 PM. Reason : ]

3/16/2008 11:11:09 PM

why do I have to stop looking at marriage as an agreement?

is it actually magical or something?

3/16/2008 11:19:38 PM

Quote :

"And I don't think anyone sees it as a mere contract, but it is legally binding in a way that merely being serious about each other isn't."

ahem ^

Snewf, you and your gf go find some old couple that's been married 50+ years and ask them what they think of love and marriage.

3/16/2008 11:23:23 PM

it goes together like a horse and carriage
let me tell you, brother
you can't have one without the other

3/16/2008 11:25:52 PM

Quote :

"you have done an awful lot of back pedaling these last few posts"

my use of the phrase "bitches and hos" was supposed to allude to the not complete seriousness of my post. but it appears they are pretty serious words so, next time i'll choose more wisely

3/16/2008 11:44:43 PM

hey khcadwal

3/16/2008 11:47:15 PM

could be but i wont admit that

6/6/2008 8:32:49 PM

I don't know

[Edited on June 6, 2008 at 9:34 PM. Reason : -]

6/6/2008 9:34:35 PM

I dunno if she is or isn't but she's all about me and there is something there that I've not had before

maybe she is, that would be cool, but I'm not gonna rush it and drop the L word or try and get hitched just because I'm comfortable

I'm just glad I didn't get married to the one I was supposed to get married to

6/6/2008 9:39:01 PM

Personally, I know I was unsure about getting married. But in hindsight, it has been the best thing that has happened to me.

No one can predict the future. You just have to take a leap of faith. Some days marraige is really hard work. Every day I learn something new about my wife and the only thing I want to do is make her happy in any way that I can.

I know this sounds sappy, but all you young'uns will find out eventually, if you are lucky. I know I am.

6/6/2008 9:47:51 PM

jackleg is my soulmate

6/6/2008 9:50:29 PM

in response to thread title, yes.


[Edited on June 6, 2008 at 9:58 PM. Reason : k]

6/6/2008 9:57:05 PM

yes - cneajna

6/6/2008 9:58:34 PM

^^^^ thats pretty cool, I've pretty much decided I wanna settle down anyway

I'm tired of all the chicks that come and go and the fact that I utterly despised most of them, they were just fun for a few evenings and not what I wanted

I kinda hope my situation works, esp since her brother and his wife are really close friends of mine and her dad is a good friend also, but if it doesn't oh well life goes on

I think she's ready for the same thing herself though

[Edited on June 6, 2008 at 9:59 PM. Reason : .]

6/6/2008 9:58:59 PM

i want him t be

6/6/2008 10:11:12 PM

Quote :

"question for married people how did sex change after marriage? "

Quote :

"'m gonna guess that it would fluctuate, but that it would be more meaningful more often."

Sex changes, but not drastically. The frequency of sex for us decreased, but that has a lot to do with life changes that come along with marriage: job changes, stress of buying a house, having a kid, etc. However, the quality and type of sex that we had prior to marriage did not really change. We 'make love' on occasion and we have some pretty scary freaktastic fuckfests on occasion. Upon reflection, there is probably a further shedding of shame and extra level of comfort that probably ups the freak factor at times.

6/6/2008 11:29:25 PM

Way too early to tell.

6/6/2008 11:37:44 PM

^bwn

6/6/2008 11:38:13 PM

I am just burying what would've been a lyrics thread here. I wanted to post about "Ana Ng" by They Might Be Giants, so I searched for a thread with the word "antipodes," and this popped up. But in case anyone mistakes my post, the answer to the question posed by the thread is an unqualified yes.

Ana Ng and I are getting old, and we still haven't walked in the glow of each other's majestic presence

7/18/2018 9:37:00 AM

Aha, what a trip down memory lane. There are some gems ITT.

By the way, I never even came close to marrying that vagina that I dated back in 2007. Yuck, glad I ended that shit.

7/18/2018 9:46:23 AM

fuckin lewoods

7/18/2018 10:15:19 AM

Would be interested to see where most of these original posters are at in their relationship statuses now.

7/18/2018 12:00:13 PM

settledown should have the answers you seek

7/18/2018 12:08:30 PM

^^I thought I posted in this thread back in '08 after being married a year.

I didn't but anyway, still together, have a 5 year old and another one on the way.

7/18/2018 12:17:25 PM

It'll be our tenth anniversary in October.

7/18/2018 12:52:34 PM

Maybe someday I'll come here and say yes

7/18/2018 3:50:19 PM

#foreveralone

7/18/2018 4:38:21 PM

We just had our 10th anniversary last month

7/18/2018 4:41:43 PM

Absolutely.

7/19/2018 10:54:19 AM

There is no such thing as "the one".

7/19/2018 12:11:02 PM