Wait. Did she wake you up for sex? Or just manually stimulate your genitals and wander away?

I need details.

11/11/2015 4:36:39 PM

back when i was in grad school I had a group of friends that partied a lot more than even most undergrads at times. anyway, there was this girl who was a cool chick and fun to hang out with, but it got the the point where i had made out with her a few times. well long story short, i didn't really see her that way and didn't want to bwn her etc (and i had just broken up with a year and a half girlfriend which was really the reason). We were all going to a party, (and all of us but the driver were pre-drunk) and one of my good friends was with me (who had also hooked up with her but that's another story.)... on the way there i learned that she was going to be there, and being the irresistible soul that i am, i told my friend to make sure that when he leaves i'm with him because i don't want to go home with her because i knew what would happen if i did.

well after telling him and her i just wanted to be friends, i felt pretty safe and all so we all got shitfaced (except for the designated drivers... which she happened to be)
well, the girl had recently moved into my apartment complex about 30 yards from my place, so after many rounds of the drinking game du jour, she told my friend she would give me a ride home since she lived next to me. he was not one of the dd's, and he was easily convinced.
I don't remember much towards the end of the party, and none at all of leaving or the ride home, and the first clear memory i have is us in her apartment, mutually naked, with her straddling me, crotch to crotch, about to envelop me. i said something incoherent 'blah blah what blah hell blarg etc" and have a vivid memory of her saying "well do you still want me to?"

i durnkenly said no, and i am fortunate that i had a moment of foggy clarity at that precise moment. it was clear many things had been done in the bedroom that night but not actual intercourse, but i neither wanted to nor consented to do anything beyond friendship with her that night (unless i somehow indicated i wanted to while blackout drunk)

now here's my viewpoint on it... i drank until my livers ached and my brain was operating on a... well, not optimally. i chose to drink that much. I knew there was a potential sexual predator at the party, and yet i decided to go and drink. so it was my fault that i got so sloshed that i couldn't abide by my sober wishes, right?

11/11/2015 6:14:11 PM

Thanks for the stories, guys. I got one by PM so far.

Keep 'em coming if you're comfortable sharing!

11/11/2015 6:40:25 PM

nm

[Edited on November 11, 2015 at 7:04 PM. Reason : nm]

11/11/2015 6:48:16 PM

It's still rape even if you liked it.

11/11/2015 7:10:12 PM

i did not like what happened the night i described a few posts back. in fact, i had deep seeded feelings of guilt, helplessness, and [whatever you call that feeling when you are hoping you didn't get genital warts or something from sex acts you didn't consent to].

11/11/2015 7:13:26 PM

^I think I understand.

My friend seemed to be primarily a little angry and also worried because the girl did not use a condom (and she already had child). She came over after he had gone to bed, and I told her not to bother him, but she couldn't conceive of the idea that he might not want to be surprised with sex from her. I never imagined he'd have a problem getting her to leave, but I also never imagined she'd disrobe and mount him before he even knew she was in the room. And, the next morning, he definitely described it as a rape--only halfway joking.

And it was partly my fault because I let her in.

A PM to share:

Quote :

"I'll keep this short. sophomore year of college our duplex neighbors had friends in from UNCG. One of the girls was legit attractive but she had a boyfriend (i gave her NO attention all night). We all went out as a group and then came back to the house round 2AM. I go to bed b/c I'm fall down drunk. Well fast forward to about 4am. I wake up and shes in my bed....blowing me. In my drunken fog I think for a few seconds that it's another girl from a couple houses down that I'd been on and off banging for a couple months. When i realized it was that girl from out of town I did a big double take. I was REALLY wasted and only half-conscious. The only thing that stood out to me was that she was wearing granny panties and that she tried to fuck me without a condom at first. Condoms are for sailors."

For clarity, this woman had to sneak into his house to pull this off.

11/11/2015 8:26:50 PM

We've created a culture here in America that portrays men as horndogs who would never say no to guilt/responsibility/commitment free. Perhaps these women think they aren't really doing anything that these guys wouldn't want.

11/11/2015 8:42:42 PM

Well, yeah, that's clearly part of these incidents.

11/11/2015 10:14:23 PM

Quote :

"DEEP SEEDED FEELINGS"

11/11/2015 10:39:22 PM

LOL, I wasn't gonna correct him in the middle of his sexual assault story.

11/11/2015 10:41:34 PM

Well perhaps he should stop assaulting people, sexually or otherwise LOLOL!!!!11

11/11/2015 10:44:42 PM

These stories....fit well in pussification of america thread.

OH NOES SOME DRUNK BITCH GOT ME OFF AND I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY EX AND WAS NOT EMOTIONALLLY READY

11/11/2015 10:48:15 PM

11/11/2015 10:49:17 PM

^^She was sober. He was drunk.

And I wanna hear more of these stories. So no judgment!

11/11/2015 11:13:48 PM

Guys, this is a judgement-free zone

11/12/2015 1:10:54 AM

seed... deep... deep seeded? sex pun?
nevermind

11/12/2015 6:10:17 AM

^^Exactly. A safe space for men to share their female-on-male sexual assault stories with me via post or PM.

[Edited on November 12, 2015 at 6:04 PM. Reason : Specifically college-aged females.]

11/12/2015 6:03:34 PM

^ https://www.google.com/search?rls=en&q=askreddit+men+who+have+been+raped&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

11/12/2015 6:57:51 PM

I never thought that not being raped could make me feel like I am unattractive, yet here we are.

11/12/2015 7:42:33 PM

so... those things i've said... that's the first time i've said anything about it to anyone. i tried to tell a couple of my buddies shortly after, but they told me to shut the fuck up and i should enjoy what happened.

and i know tdub is full of trolls and people who don't think this is the right forum for anything serious (i mean duh it's chit chat), but ever since i posted it... and i posted it because it was a long time ago and happened to recall it... i've had a gambit of emotions and i've come to realize that it really did hurt me. and yes, if i'm a perpetually pussified american because of it, fine. i did not consent to the pussification i received that night.

i'm just glad that it didn't progress into actual sex and i had a pseudo-moment of semi-clarity before it went in.

i wish i could justify what happened with a "well she was hot as fuck" statement, but even though she was attractive, witty, and fun to hang out with, i didn't have anything to do with her after that night. My buddy (who i asked to not let me go home with her) was not one of the ones i tried to talk about it right after, and afterwards i found out he had some of the same feelings i did about her... she attempted intercourse when he was inebriated and he didn't want it and also made the (unconscious at the time) decision to not associate with her. we had been good friends before, and now remain even stronger friends after.

11/12/2015 8:51:05 PM

Seriously??? The water is like deep as a puddle.

11/12/2015 10:28:15 PM

WADE AT YOUR OWN RISK

11/12/2015 10:51:03 PM

The water is less than 6" deep.

11/13/2015 9:35:45 PM

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2015/11/13/florida-school-threatened-year-old-with-sexual-harrassment-charges-for-love/?intcmp=hplnws

11/14/2015 9:28:42 PM

http://abc11.com/news/man-arrested-for-allegedly-slapping-child-in-cary/1096455/

11/29/2015 12:56:53 AM

http://www.wect.com/story/30673692/media-law-and-ethics-teacher-questions-live-broadcasts-inside-suspects-home

12/6/2015 2:09:46 PM

This is sorta pathetic

http://gawker.com/virginia-school-district-cancels-classes-after-teacher-1748639593

12/18/2015 8:13:31 AM

Quote :

"In English, the shahada states, “There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.”"

I dunno...if I were religious, I wouldn't be too keen on my child copying this (even if he had no idea what it said)

if he was just copying out "See Spot run" or some shit in Arabic, that'd be totally different

12/20/2015 2:57:57 AM

So you're saying people's faith in God is so weak that writing out a phrase for a class could shake the very core of their beliefs?

This is the pussification of America thread bruh.

12/20/2015 8:51:29 AM

it's not a matter of shaking beliefs, but of unwitting blasphemy

what if their child dies and eventually stands before God, and God says, "Hey, you wrote down that Muhammed is my messenger, not Jesus. To hell with you" I admit it's a bit ridiculous, but I still feel like we shouldn't force people to unwittingly make professions of faith to other religions.

12/20/2015 9:28:44 AM

Hmmmm that's ridiculous.

12/20/2015 9:49:48 AM

Is it Allah or Mohammed that Muslims kill who talk or draw pictures of?

12/20/2015 12:31:34 PM

http://mypussybow.tumblr.com/about

12/20/2015 10:09:53 PM

http://onmilwaukee.com/myOMC/authors/jimmycarlton/wiaanewrulescheering.html

Quote :

"The Wisconsin Interscholastic Athletic Association is trying to curb student-section chants at high school sporting events, including "Air ball!" and "Scoreboard!" with rules aimed at promoting respect."

1/13/2016 3:59:29 PM

airball is a racist term.

1/13/2016 4:00:59 PM

Scoreboard is a homophobic slur

1/13/2016 5:19:37 PM

http://www.newsobserver.com/opinion/op-ed/article54964970.html

1/19/2016 9:32:02 AM

^Nice. Now if less women got licenses, the roads would be even safer.

1/19/2016 11:02:00 AM

One of the best teachers from my High School just got suspended for saying "I can't pull it out of my ass" to a student. She is the AP US History Teacher and has been there for like 20 years.



http://www.ipetitions.com/petition/reinstate-mrs-wiggins

4/22/2016 1:44:51 PM

I don't have children at that school so I shouldn't be involved in the petition.

4/22/2016 1:47:22 PM

am i rite?

4/22/2016 2:50:25 PM

Yeah, I'm not asking folks to sign, that was just the only info I had on it.

4/22/2016 4:10:17 PM

sucks being a teacher sometimes. during my 3rd year teaching i had a girl flashing gang signs at me telling me fuck you, i'm going to kill you, fuck you fuck you fuck fuck fuck in front of the whole class. i told her to get the hell out of my classroom. guess who the administration focused on? (wasn't her)

4/25/2016 12:03:56 AM

You could go down to the magistrates office and take papers out on the student for communicating threats. Maybe the little shit would respond better to criminal process if they wont respond to being thrown out of class. I wonder what the principal would say.

4/25/2016 8:43:47 AM

How about the fact that America is allowing itself to be bullied by 1/10th of 1% of the population?

4/25/2016 9:04:59 AM

To me, we've been bullied by 1% of the population the entire time, so it's not really much difference, to me.

4/25/2016 9:13:59 AM

Are we talking about sociopaths?

4/25/2016 9:20:45 AM

http://www.scarymommy.com/mom-child-services-investigation-kids-play-backyard/

4/25/2016 9:27:52 AM

Set em up

6/16/2016 11:12:22 PM