i cant decide whether you came to the best place for relationship advice, or the absolute worst.

6/24/2011 12:19:23 PM

best

6/24/2011 12:21:35 PM

She didn't want or need advice, she just wanted attn - and we gave it to her.

6/24/2011 12:23:57 PM

an interesting point.

6/24/2011 12:25:38 PM

women.

6/24/2011 12:27:24 PM

Maybe this will help portray how serious playing with peoples emotions can be:

My friend in GBORO found himself in a similar situation several months ago. His GF had just broken up with him and they "tried" to stay friends with benefits. Initially this is what they said they both wanted. Over time I noticed my friend becoming angrier and angrier because he was finding out that his exGF had been sleeping with other guys as well.

I told him he couldn't expect her to stay in love with him when all they did was have casual sex, but he wouldn't listen. Needless to say I began to question his motives for staying friends with benefits with her. My friend was not always the most mentally stable person I had known, and he was known for getting vehemently angry and getting into fights. I had once seen him get into a fight with a guy at the bar for talking to his GF, the same one he was currently in the situation with.

This all escalated when we went to a party and he his exGF was there. Now they were still friends with benefits, but she was also "shopping around" for other guys at the party. I remember as he became less and less sober he also become more enraged at her behavior.

I told him to relax but I could see that he was barely listening to me, so fearing for my own safety, I left the room to go outside for a cigarette. All the sudden after about five minutes I hear someone yelling and then a scream. I rushed inside fearing what my friend had done, and I see that about five guys are holding him down, while others are standing around shocked. I asked a sober person what had happened and he said that my friend had stabbed someone with a kitchen knife and that they were in the dining room. So I rushed to the dining room, open the door, get on the floor, everybody walk the dinosaur.

6/24/2011 12:30:32 PM

6/24/2011 12:31:58 PM

lol

6/24/2011 12:32:35 PM

♥ ♥ ♥

6/24/2011 12:35:52 PM

maybe your ex-bf was just trying to get something like this to happen

6/24/2011 12:47:02 PM

itt, obvious signs of the cray cray are obvious.

6/24/2011 12:51:24 PM

so you wanna get a drink or something?

6/24/2011 1:10:57 PM

how mature and decent this generation is!

6/24/2011 1:12:24 PM

Quote :

" I'd sleep with Emce"

6/24/2011 1:16:07 PM

so i tell you about the post and you have to come in here and bump the thread with the quote

thanks ass

6/24/2011 1:19:19 PM

6/24/2011 1:21:42 PM

We wouldn't do very much sleeping

6/24/2011 1:22:41 PM

6/24/2011 1:27:44 PM

Rebound sex is called rebound sex for a reason.

6/24/2011 1:30:50 PM

because when you do it with a fatty, you bounce right off

6/24/2011 1:36:42 PM

6/24/2011 2:01:10 PM

I'm sorry but I'm stuck on

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"A guy can love his wife, but usually fucks other bitches on the side."

USUALLY?? Wtf is wrong with you, GeniuSxBoY? Have you been married? I find that opinion really disconcerting about your personality...

6/24/2011 2:24:11 PM

Quote :

"Omg why do y'all keep thinking I want him back?? I don't. I'm just insulted he a not pining after me like he should be after telling me how much I mean to him. This situation with him is going to be super awkward. he's staying with me next week while his apt gets fixed and we're both going to the same party next weekend. "

So I don't get it. You break up Monday, you have sex with some random dude on Tuesday, you see your ex on Wednesday and he has sex with some random and suddenly YOUR feelings are hurt?? Did you think maybe he found out you had sex with some random dude and he wanted to feel like he was moving on as well?

And since he seemed to be the one who was more "in love" in the relationship, he probably feels like he needs to rebound just as quickly as you did to keep it "fair" and look like he's moving on like you did.

It sounds like if y'all have been acting this immature over tthe last week, then your relationship was pro ably just the same. Cut ties, move on, and GROW UP.

6/24/2011 2:25:40 PM

This dude does not have nearly so many feelings as you are attributing to him.

He did not fuck some girl to "feel like he was moving on." He fucked her because he likes fucking. There may have been an element of competitiveness ("Pfft, I'll pull more tail than she will!"), but that's as far as it goes.

[Edited on June 24, 2011 at 2:30 PM. Reason : As usual, this is all much simpler than you people want to make it.]

6/24/2011 2:30:14 PM

sylvershadow, don't worry. in a few years you'll be too old and hung out to dry

6/24/2011 2:43:31 PM

I bet he told you he loved you and cared about you because he sensed you were going to dump him after a few months so that he could still tap that ass. Now that he is tired of it he has moved on. You were not a catch, get over it.

and you are a whore if you broke up with him on monday and slept with somebody else on tuesday

6/24/2011 2:44:52 PM

^burn

Quote :

"I'm just insulted he a not pining after me like he should be after telling me how much I mean to him. "

Why? Why would he pine for you after you rejected him? If you loved someone and they rejected you the last thing you do is pine. (well most guys irl). So he's not going to pine over you unless he gets all sentimental about something. You turned him down for sex he rebounded with someone else. This isn't hard. Why he told you is partially irrelevant. To provoke jealousy or just to be forthright it doesn't really matter. Unless you are trying overly hard to harbor some sort of emotions towards him and want to pity fuck him for pining over you (which is not a good idea if he really is pining over you, it won't help and only make things worse, b/c then he'd be acting like a woman and would try to see too much into it.)

Quote :

"This dude does not have nearly so many feelings as you are attributing to him. He did not fuck some girl to "feel like he was moving on." He fucked her because he likes fucking. There may have been an element of competitiveness ("Pfft, I'll pull more tail than she will!"), but that's as far as it goes."

Probably closer to the truth.

Don't presume awkwardness. That only makes it definite.

6/24/2011 3:02:39 PM

Real men don't pine, if they have a spine. They go out and find a dime, and shine.

[Edited on June 24, 2011 at 3:11 PM. Reason : -]

6/24/2011 3:09:44 PM

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"She didn't want or need advice, she just wanted attn - and we gave it to her."

THIS

6/24/2011 3:42:07 PM

yea the

Quote :

"(plz 2 troll kthnx)"

was a dead give away

6/24/2011 3:44:11 PM

I wasted a perfectly good troll post ITT.



So I'm going to do my best to derail it.

6/24/2011 3:51:53 PM

LeonIsPro, you got me

6/24/2011 3:55:01 PM

YEAH!

6/24/2011 3:57:13 PM

i hope she doesn't become one of those old drunk ladies hitting on young guys at billiards/pool houses. or do i.

6/24/2011 4:51:30 PM

i forgot the point of this thread

what is sylvershadow needing to get out of this? did you want to know whether or not you should tell him you slept with another person?

don't tell him

don't give a fuck about him

fuck other dudes

do it

6/24/2011 4:53:15 PM

Did you mean Or do I?

6/24/2011 4:53:58 PM

i think it's quite obvious that she's up in the spot trollin for some new dick

6/24/2011 4:54:17 PM

6/24/2011 4:56:17 PM

I want to be someone's rebound.

6/24/2011 5:29:31 PM

Quote :

"So I don't get it. You break up Monday, you have sex with some random dude on Tuesday, you see your ex on Wednesday and he has sex with some random and suddenly YOUR feelings are hurt?? "

Her ego is bruised. That's all it comes down to. She said herself that she really didn't have feelings for him (as in, romantic emotional attachments). It's like when a fatty is on your nuts, and on some level you like that, and when she stops paying attention to you you miss it in a way.

6/24/2011 6:44:27 PM

Damn, do people really put this much thought into anything?

She's upset because she's an attention whore who is now getting less attention. She would much rather keep this dude as the "dick in a glass case," slaving over her without getting anything.

He fucked someone else because he has a penis and someone with a vagina let him put that penis in her.

That is all.

6/24/2011 6:47:32 PM

I think he probably found someone more attractive than OP,



It's called upgrading.

6/24/2011 6:53:42 PM

Well she lives in atlanta and has a boy friend so they'll probably just have sex not get in a relationship

6/24/2011 9:58:55 PM

Quote :

"i hope she doesn't become one of those old drunk ladies hitting on young guys at billiards/pool houses. or do i."

God these are the worst

6/24/2011 11:21:00 PM

you really are a crazy chick arent you

6/24/2011 11:24:27 PM

^^ those bitches love me.

6/24/2011 11:25:24 PM

they are annoying. i realize how attractive women felt when i approached them now.

hey what gym do you go to, how tall are you, *throws up*

6/24/2011 11:29:48 PM

Quote :

"So, me and my guy broke up monday with the intention of trying to stay friends w/ benefits. Last night (wed) we both went to a restaurant w/ friends. I left early ~1030 and he asked if I wanted him to leave w/ me and so we could go have sex. The entire night he hasn't touched me or flirted or made any moves, just springs it on me as I'm about to leave. So since he hadn't even attempted to warm me up I just went home. so I texted him around 1230 asking if he'd got home safe cause he'd been drinking and he said not home yet so I was like whatever, and went to bed. But then he texted me at 3am telling me he'd made it home. I asked him what kept him out so late (figuring some of our friends must have rolled into the restaurant later) and he told me that yes, some of our friends arrived, and he ended up taking one home with him and having sex with her. So, I'm pissed off. I shouldn't be, but fuck you all, I am, and damnit, he spent the last 7 months telling me how in love he was with me when I'm just kinda meh about him-- I would have broken up with him months ago, but he's bipolar and when he's drunk and we fight he mentions how he'd like to throw himself under a train. And then we do finally break up and he's not even that upset AND he fucks the first girl he can. Okay, so anyways, what I need advice on is this: Should I tell him I slept with a guy on Tuesday night? "

sounds like you're an asshole. can't stay friends after a break-up. never works and girls know this yet they still try to do it because they know sometimes the guy will make the effort for it. girls want that "back-up" guy.

you would have broken up with him months ago? it is absolutely horrible that you lead him on like that

you're pissed that he got some? i will bet you he's not over you at all, he just did it because he figured he had to to try and get over you. he's trying to man up without showing you how badly he's hurt.

[Edited on June 24, 2011 at 11:32 PM. Reason : jank]

[Edited on June 24, 2011 at 11:33 PM. Reason : jank 2]

6/24/2011 11:31:36 PM

Quote :

"The entire night he hasn't touched me or flirted or made any moves, just springs it on me as I'm about to leave"

touching and flirting implies emotional attachment. the point of friends with benefits is to be able to fuck and get it out of your system without needing to be warmed up.....

6/24/2011 11:39:39 PM

friends with benefits never works, NEVER

6/24/2011 11:40:07 PM