it's awesome

10/6/2007 10:24:46 AM

I always put the seat down even when I was living alone.

I like it, no real negatives here other than it being my place first so it was a harder transition and I still dont think she feels like its ours 100% yet.

10/6/2007 10:48:32 AM

Dont do it. Learn from my mistakes.

Keep your own place and he keeps his too. Stay at each other's every freakin night if you wanna.

Just dont live together before you're married.

10/6/2007 11:58:55 AM

^So tell us why! That's why we started this thread.


I DON'T MIND THE TOILET SEAT BEING UP!!! lol

I just don't like it being covered in cat hair and boy hair and GROSS!

10/6/2007 12:10:32 PM

con: reverting to jr. high style covert stealth fappin'

10/6/2007 12:11:33 PM

muted pron lol

10/6/2007 12:13:48 PM

lol. I wondered about this.

10/6/2007 12:15:26 PM

^^, ^^^ why? Date a better girl

10/6/2007 12:20:22 PM

sorry, i prefer crazies.


if i'm not the most sexually open, adventurous, and corrupting of the two.. well then it's just not as fun

[Edited on October 6, 2007 at 12:21 PM. Reason : ]

10/6/2007 12:20:55 PM

because somewhere along the way, youre gonna lose your independence

you're gonna stop hanging out with everyone except each other for awhile

youre gonna go from planning dates to assuming that youre doing things together every night and one of you is more than likely gonna start acting like theyre married to the other

then youll get bored and realize that youre not married and still young and want to go hang out with the girls / boys every once in awhile

which will only piss off / hurt the feelings of the other

when you fight, you wont have anywhere to go to get away from each other

youre gonna end up smothering each other or feeling smothered

youll justify staying together when you actually should break up because of financial reasons or co-dependence..


keep your own place.

10/6/2007 12:30:15 PM

^ Most of those things happen in the course of a relationship.

10/6/2007 4:43:41 PM

...So what's "acting" married like?

10/6/2007 5:07:45 PM

Quote :

"because somewhere along the way, youre gonna lose your independence you're gonna stop hanging out with everyone except each other for awhile youre gonna go from planning dates to assuming that youre doing things together every night and one of you is more than likely gonna start acting like theyre married to the other "

10/6/2007 5:09:55 PM

has anyone mentioned that youll probably have to move out?

10/6/2007 9:15:24 PM

at least dont sign the lease!

10/6/2007 9:34:37 PM

there's an adjustment period for sure, and the main thing you gotta learn/figure out is which arguments are worth arguing over and which one's you just say fuck it to. pick your battles.

10/7/2007 10:56:39 PM

Pro: never feeling lonely...b/c living alone sucks
Con: general compromise over retarded crap

10/7/2007 10:59:36 PM

It's weird. I feel completely comfortable walking around the models with him and discussing the things that we want in our future home..whether it is one that we move in to in December or one that we move into later....but we're both feeling the situation out. Sometimes I think, "This is awesome...we should just sign the lease....just tell him right now that you want to sign it."

Then I'm like, "No...wait and see what happens..."

But the truth of the matter is we loved the apartment we saw today and there is no real way for us to each afford to live there each in our own one bedroom. We're stuck....

And the guy that was going to "try to stay in NC" and live with him instead of moving back to Connecticut is keeping him at bay. The guy says if he can find a job, he will stay...but yet he is not making any effort to look for a job and he doesn't act like he wants to.

10/7/2007 11:34:23 PM

keep it in your pants

10/7/2007 11:35:33 PM

*salutes* certainly.

10/7/2007 11:36:01 PM

i saw you at Champions one night with him

10/7/2007 11:38:57 PM

I know. We were arguing over him not allowing me to teach him how to shoot pool.

I am not allowed to help him..lol

10/7/2007 11:40:03 PM

you two didn't look happy

10/7/2007 11:41:11 PM

haha we were fussing. Of course we weren't happy. But we made up.

10/7/2007 11:44:06 PM

gross

10/7/2007 11:44:28 PM

lol

10/8/2007 9:31:39 AM

now he has to find a place to hide all the porn

10/8/2007 10:38:20 AM

now he has to find a place to hide share all the porn

10/8/2007 10:40:00 AM

So go ahead and set ground rules for when/where it is appropriate for him to masturbate.

10/8/2007 10:51:26 AM

cons- having to sneak-a-beat
- having to watch mtv/ vh1 reality shows, or whatever she wants to watch on the favorite tv.
- one bathroom is a terrible idea. eventually you end up on the same schedule... i piss outside a lot.
- he/she is always there.

pros- bitch make me a sandwich
- you always have entertainment.
- she is always there.

10/8/2007 11:00:29 AM

^ there's only one bathroom in my house and there are 6 of us living there
the sneak-a-beat thing isn't a problem - it was awkward at first but if I want to do it I just will, she doesn't care

pros: not so lonely
always have someone to hang out with
I have a reason to cook nice meals
she keeps me focused and working towards my goals

cons: she keeps me focused and working towards my goals
I have to be supportive all of the time
she won't watch horror flicks with me

10/8/2007 11:08:49 AM

Quote :

"because somewhere along the way, youre gonna lose your independence you're gonna stop hanging out with everyone except each other for awhile "

I seriously doubt this happens to everyone

10/8/2007 12:29:42 PM

Quote :

"never feeling lonely...b/c living alone sucks"

haha, i love living alone
i dont want another roomie, ever...unless its my wife

i like the fact that i can go to my place and she can go to hers if need be

i also have a shit ton of friends that i visit and that visit me so im never ever lonely

10/8/2007 12:36:48 PM

^i agree...i've lived in a one bedroom since january...i couldnt imagine living with a roomate again and i've only not had one for like 10 months now

10/8/2007 12:38:39 PM

^^^well not everyone

but ive seen it happen a lot more often than not

10/8/2007 12:50:10 PM

yeah i loved living alone...it definitely didn't suck. but now that I'm USED to having him there all the time, when has to work out of town I'm all it helped/helps that I have a dog to keep me company

10/8/2007 1:00:35 PM

why do you live in fear?

10/8/2007 1:09:34 PM

When we moved in together we moved to different neighborhood. When I lived alone I had lived in that neighborhood for 4 years, knew lots of my neighbors, and my brother lived right down the street. I'm much more comfortable there now, but at first every creaking noise the house made was another 15 minutes that I couldn't fall back to sleep.

con:
-sharing closet space. granted, our place doesn't have much storage space in general, but sharing closet space is a nightmare.

10/8/2007 3:03:10 PM

Quote :

"now he has to find a place to hide share all the porn "

We each have our own tv and I don't really watch tv...just Sunday night and Thursday....other than that I watch House with him on tuesdays an Football Sunday and Monday. The place we are looking at has two amazing bathrooms...HUGE!

We spend a majority of our time together now and when he goes out with his guys, I go out with my girls. Anyone who knows me knows that I am very independant...I didn't use to be but I am very much so now. I am excited about the possibility of cooking meals together and not having to lug all my lesson plans everywhere..

Quote :

"she keeps me focused and working towards my goals"

Aww

Quote :

"she won't watch horror flicks with me"

Not me!

10/8/2007 3:09:09 PM

Quote :

"con: -sharing closet space. granted, our place doesn't have much storage space in general, but sharing closet space is a nightmare"

AGREED~ It sucks so bad now to not have anywhere to put my stuff....but the place we went to yesterday has two HUGE closets. He made the comment that all of our clothes would maybe fill up half of it....and he's right. They were AMAZING!

10/8/2007 3:10:30 PM

Pro: if they get injured/hurt/pass out, you're there to care for them.

10/8/2007 3:23:12 PM

the only thing i don't really like about it is that it's hard to escape and relax. i'm not a social introvert by any stretch of the imagination, but i do like to have some alone time. and i don't like escaping to yard work or chores, sometimes i just want to get the hell out and relax but i don't have anywhere to go.

but i love my fiance more than anything in the world.

10/8/2007 3:28:54 PM

^^haha, truth! in the morning after a long night of drinking--I'm right there with advil and water when he wakes up. when I was sick with crazy stomach pains, he was right there making me light meals.

pros:
-dividing up chores--ie, not having to do the ones you hate the most. I HATE vacuuming and taking out the trash, but for him it's tolerable so those are his duties. He hates doing the laundry, so that's all me.
-coming to home to someone who really cares about how your day went.

^which is why I <3 <3 <3 poker night (bring it back fellas!!!!). he goes out and hangs with the guys for 4 hours, and I get to sit at home on my ass and watch mind numbing television and eat ben & jerry's guilt free. i'm not sure what his take on that is...he can slip away and tune me out better than i can him, so he can easily have "alone time"

[Edited on October 8, 2007 at 3:37 PM. Reason : ]

10/8/2007 3:34:27 PM

Well, we made a decision...We're moving into a two bedroom, two bath plus a sunroom on December 7th!



We're excited more than anything and are counting down the days.

11/12/2007 10:50:01 PM

yes, poker night is a god send

I swear to god sometimes my gf is trying to ship me off to poker just to have me gone

11/12/2007 10:57:54 PM

Quote :

"I will never live with any woman who says a god damned word about the toilet seat in a joint bathroom. If it's your bathroom I won't use it, or if I do I'll leave it how I found it, however if it's shared you need to shut the fuck up. Do you honestly not look at the toilet before you sit down, you know in case it has been pissed on, shit on, or if the last person to use it didn't flush? Is it that much of a god damned burden to put the seat down if you're going to use it? Why is it imperative that I keep the seat in the position that is most convenient for you? Fuck off."

Thank you good sir

11/12/2007 10:58:18 PM

shared bathrooms

11/12/2007 11:00:46 PM

Just for the sake of restating it...the toilet seat does not bother me if it is clean...it can be up, down, sideways....as long as it is clean.

Just thought that needed to be reiterated.

11/12/2007 11:02:02 PM

Quote :

"I will never live with any woman who says a god damned word about the toilet seat in a joint bathroom.Why is it imperative that I keep the seat in the position that is most convenient for you? Fuck off."

Cause we use it more.

I will never live with any man who is too god damned stupid to figure this out for his own damn self.

Fuck off.

11/13/2007 7:28:02 AM

^^ hewooo

11/13/2007 7:54:29 AM