that they suck in bed?

5/7/2010 1:08:34 PM

Make a thread about it and then wait for them to see it.

EDIT: WAIT FUCK THIS IS ABOUT ME ISN'T IT

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 1:09 PM. Reason : ]

5/7/2010 1:08:55 PM

^

5/7/2010 1:09:22 PM

you don't say anything at all, but stop having sex with them.

5/7/2010 1:10:20 PM

^oh herro honey

you don't tell them they suck (if you care about them). you ask them to try this, or maybe try that, or hey let's do this...communicate the positives, and don't speak up about the negatives.

5/7/2010 1:11:07 PM

^

^^

lol, sounds like trouble in paradise

5/7/2010 1:11:27 PM

is this someone you're just sleeping with or in a relationship with?

just sleeping with: cut ties, yo... that would get the message across

in a relationship: be honest but respectful... I dare say no one is perfect in bed so maybe it'll open up a door where you can work on things together!

5/7/2010 1:11:47 PM

go buy the kama sutra and tell them you want to try new things.

5/7/2010 1:12:03 PM

stop sleeping with them

5/7/2010 1:12:17 PM

I dunno...I'm not terribly experienced, but it seems like sucking in bed is like sucking at dancing

if you can't do it, you can't do it, and no amount of suggestions/practice are going to change that

5/7/2010 1:12:34 PM

yes, clearly you arent experienced

5/7/2010 1:14:08 PM

certainly not, no

5/7/2010 1:14:30 PM

start reading a book during sex

5/7/2010 1:14:32 PM

its actually the exact opposite of what you said

suggestions and practice are awesome

just like any other activity you try and become good at

which includes dancing (try telling a professional dancer that you dont think practicing helps them)

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 1:16 PM. Reason : .]

5/7/2010 1:16:35 PM

How can you be 28 and not experienced at sex?

5/7/2010 1:16:47 PM

just give them some extenze

5/7/2010 1:16:49 PM

^^
I don't have gfs very often

^^^
I dunno, though...like, for example, I can't dance, I have no sense of rhythm and no amount of practice is gonna change that

maybe some people are just like that with sex

5/7/2010 1:18:16 PM

I'm with thumper. You don't tell them that they're bad, you work at having great sex together. Just because the sex is bad now does not mean that it has to stay that way. I know this from experience. Sometimes they've had previous partners who either did not communicate well or just liked different things that you do and they have to be 'retrained.' You have to learn together what the other likes. You need to gently lead him away from the things that you dislike and coach him to do the things that you do like. It's up to you to know what turns you on and show him how to hit your buttons.

5/7/2010 1:18:58 PM

Watch a lot of pornography. Emulate what the guys do. Especially pay attention to the groaning and pulling out to cum on the face and tits.

5/7/2010 1:19:17 PM

but don't let the size of their dicks get you down...they're professionals

5/7/2010 1:19:56 PM

i guarantee you if you spend 3 hours with a professional dancer you will be better at dancing than you were beforehand, even if its not by very much

tangent->

5/7/2010 1:20:55 PM

Quote :

"you work at having great sex together"

exactly. what's bad to you might have been another girl's (or guy's) best sex ever

5/7/2010 1:21:17 PM

^^are you recommending she hire a hooker?

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 1:22 PM. Reason : if so, will three hours be enough]

5/7/2010 1:21:29 PM

saps, are you suggesting that she purchase a whore for her lack-luster lover?

^^ding ding ding
We should totally write an advice column together.

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 1:22 PM. Reason : .]

5/7/2010 1:21:40 PM

I've had a girl get frustrated because she didn't think she was good in bed. She was adequate, but she definitely got off a shitload of times more than I did. I'm not the person who's going to give step-by-step instructions, so I just told her to get on the internet and watch some porn clips (she had some room for improvement in the blow-job area). I don't think she followed my instructions and we fizzled out anyways...and I don't know if great sex would have saved that relationship anyways.

5/7/2010 1:23:22 PM

Practice and having a mentor will definitely help, as long as you have an open mind and are open to criticism.

5/7/2010 1:23:48 PM

just fall asleep while he's doing you

he'll get the hint

5/7/2010 1:24:13 PM

^ (x11)
Practice and direction is the only thing that will increase your perception of rhythm and understanding of dance, thus giving you the ability to be better moving with the ladies (or guys, w/e floats your boat) on the dance floor.

Same goes with anything in life (and I mean anything...dancing, sex, differential equations, etc.). Practice and direction lead to you being better at what you are practicing. Think about it, will your understanding of calculus increase if you receive no direction and do not practice using it?

[Edited on May 7, 2010 at 1:30 PM. Reason : zomg posts inbetween]

5/7/2010 1:29:32 PM

Quote :

"She was adequate, but she definitely got off a shitload of times more than I did."

I have never heard of this son. You must have no feeling left in your cock from the raid on your foreskin or something son.

I'mma tell ya, I last about 5-10 seconds on average son. Maybe less. If you actually got through a session without blowing a load, you are out of control son. Out of control. Either that or it takes her 3 seconds and then she demands that you stop, which is also out of control.

But you should be able to blow a load in 5-10 seconds son.

5/7/2010 1:33:38 PM

^She was a multiple-orgasm chick. She got off at least twice every time we had sex and usually 3 or 4 times.

I'm very self-conscious about pre-mature ejaculation and have made it my goal in sex life for that not to happen. I usually get off, but not until she does...but I've also found it a problem that I concentrate on her and making sure I don't get off early, and it sometimes throws me off to where I don't. I'll still usually blow my load, but it will take a while to "get back on track." For some reason it would take forever with this girl, and she's easily one of the hotter girls I've every dated...body and face wise. I never admitted it to her (for fear of castration), but I would sometimes close my eyes and think of other girls while we were having sex so I could get off. It made no fucking sense...but a lot of stuff doesn't.

5/7/2010 1:37:53 PM

thread related?

http://thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=594420

5/7/2010 1:45:56 PM

Quote :

"I'm very self-conscious about pre-mature ejaculation and have made it my goal in sex life for that not to happen. I usually get off, but not until she does...but I've also found it a problem that I concentrate on her and making sure I don't get off early, and it sometimes throws me off to where I don't. I'll still usually blow my load, but it will take a while to "get back on track." For some reason it would take forever with this girl, and she's easily one of the hotter girls I've every dated...body and face wise. I never admitted it to her (for fear of castration), but I would sometimes close my eyes and think of other girls while we were having sex so I could get off. It made no fucking sense...but a lot of stuff doesn't."

QFT

5/7/2010 2:06:19 PM

i dont ever ejaculate i was told to see a doctor about that

5/7/2010 2:07:18 PM

That response was honest son, I can't deny it.


But for me son, it's a battle. A 5-10 second battle son.

5/7/2010 2:09:10 PM

Quote :

"thread related? http://thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=594420"

thread not related

5/7/2010 2:17:30 PM

im the real keeper

5/7/2010 2:17:54 PM

See . . this is where the dirty talk comes in handy

5/7/2010 2:28:13 PM

hey, send me a dirty PM

actually, make it filthy

5/7/2010 2:29:23 PM

pm sent

5/7/2010 2:35:14 PM

omg

5/7/2010 2:36:58 PM

o shit . . . too much? It was, wasn't it. I knew it. I just got caught up in the moment.

5/7/2010 2:40:45 PM

I'm just amazed how graphically you were able to describe this:




I mean, just... wow.

5/7/2010 2:44:40 PM

First find out if they are willing to fix it. Its useless to put years into trying to teach someone that isn't willing to learn. Trying out something new is one of the most fun parts about it though, so if they are willing to try and you are willing to teach- AWESOME! Another great way is to get them out of their comfort zone- rent a hotel room for a night and use it as an excuse to heat things up then hope it carries over into everyday!

5/7/2010 3:03:22 PM

:-/

5/8/2010 2:50:45 PM

PM me their names and I will handle it

5/8/2010 2:51:50 PM

but you said you liked it

5/8/2010 3:11:39 PM

she told me "it is a good size"

and we all know what that means.

5/8/2010 3:12:37 PM

at least not "fun size"

5/8/2010 3:14:18 PM

YOU SAID YOU WOULDN'T ASK TWW

5/8/2010 3:14:24 PM

Quote :

"^^are you recommending she hire a hooker?"

that was more directed towards jeffreybsg

5/8/2010 3:15:45 PM