Just curious who else had been engaged and broke it off, and how common it was.

How long were you engaged for? What happened to the ring? Why did you break it off? etc

Engaged for 3 years, she kept the ring (but paid me for it), Broke it off because of her activities while I was deployed.

11/27/2012 12:47:24 PM

speaking of, i apologize for fondling your ex while you were away

11/27/2012 12:48:20 PM

shes lesbian now?

11/27/2012 12:48:29 PM

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"speaking of, i apologize for fondling your ex while you were away "

11/27/2012 12:50:26 PM

the ring legally speaking is a conditional gift that must be returned if conditions are not met.

11/27/2012 12:54:06 PM

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"she kept the ring (but paid me for it),"

I find this strange. What are the reasons behind doing this?

11/27/2012 12:54:06 PM

I have no idea, I asked for it back, she told me she wanted to keep it, I told her that was fine provided she paid me for it. I got a check for it's worth (3500)

I honestly didn't care her reasoning but I did find it strange as well.

Also,

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"shes lesbian now? "

No, I believe she is dating my ex-room mate.

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11/27/2012 12:56:18 PM

I was engaged-ish? He kept talking about getting a ring but our relationship was in the crapper so we ended it. I'm actually glad he never took his lazy ass to the ring store to get a ring because I have a feeling I would have said no if he had formally proposed.

Then when I started dating my now husband a few months later he was suddenly emailing me pictures of "the ring I am going to get you when you leave that other guy."

11/27/2012 12:59:58 PM

Did this just happen? (to the OP)

11/27/2012 1:02:37 PM

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"I was engaged-ish? He kept talking about getting a ring but our relationship was in the crapper so we ended it. I'm actually glad he never took his lazy ass to the ring store to get a ring because I have a feeling I would have said no if he had formally proposed. "

this guy never had any intentions of getting a ring, just wanted to keep getting his dick wet. good way to keep you from breaking up with him.

derp.

11/27/2012 1:08:00 PM

I am currently engaged, but am not planning on breaking it off.

I have a buddy who has been engaged twice to two different girls. They kept the ring both times. First one was her fault, second was mutual.

11/27/2012 1:08:03 PM

^^ haha naw it wasn't that lame thankfully. It was more I didn't really want a ring but he wanted to get one blah blah blah. And that was a mighty sad way to try and keep his dick wet since we were living in different states when we broke it off.

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"I have a buddy who has been engaged twice to two different girls. They kept the ring both times. First one was her fault, second was mutual."

That's just so weird to me. There's no way I'd want to keep the ring in that situation.

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11/27/2012 1:12:25 PM

Yeah I wouldn't keep the ring. WOuld remind me of too much "stuff".

11/27/2012 1:14:22 PM

but think of all the stuff you could buy after you pawned it off

[Edited on November 27, 2012 at 1:14 PM. Reason : don't underestimate your fellow vaghavers]

11/27/2012 1:14:47 PM

I would want to keep my ring, or at least have it split back up or something, because the main stone in it is a family heirloom that he had re-set.

11/27/2012 1:17:53 PM

^Well, durrr

11/27/2012 1:20:13 PM

make sure you tell all your ex's future fiances that the ex kept the ring

11/27/2012 2:04:06 PM

I have. She broke it off and gave me the ring back. it worked out best for both of us.

11/27/2012 2:25:04 PM

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"Broke it off because of her activities while I was deployed."

reprehensible. sorry to hear that. just one more spot of bs for a soldier/marine/sailor/airman to deal wtih

11/27/2012 2:26:58 PM

I never got the ring, but I heard there was one (friends had seen it). I broke it off before he asked. It was a relationship that despite many obvious (and not so obvious) problems we discussed being in it for the long haul. Took having an ocean between us for a month for me to fully see that going forever with him was a bad idea for both of us.

If he had asked I would have most definitely returned the ring.
In the instance we had taken the plunge and it not worked out, if it was an heirloom I'd give it back. If it was an heirloom reset, I'd keep the setting but return the stone. If it was bought for me, I'd keep it but probably have it reset in to a necklace or buy another stone for earrings or something.

Unless it was a really painful split, then I'd probably shove it up his ass.

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11/27/2012 2:33:16 PM

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"Did this just happen? (to the OP)"

Nah, happened a bit ago.

11/27/2012 3:21:15 PM

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"How long were you engaged for?"

8 months. Broke it off 2 months before the wedding.

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" What happened to the ring?"

She gave it back. Afterwards she said she could've kept it and I couldn't do shit about it, however she quickly shut the fuck up after I told her that if she'd have done that I would have sued to get it back and I would have won thanks to NC case law precedence.

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" Why did you break it off?"

She was insufferable during our engagement. You ever see the show Bridezilla? Well that was her. For 8 fucking months. Endless nagging, bitching, and she was a financial drain. I decided that I didn't want to be the rest of my life, so I ended it. It sucked, in fact I made a thread about it; however it was really one of the best decisions I have ever made. Looking back, if we weren't living together, I wouldn't have proposed. I did it figuring things would get better. They did not. Less than a year later she got married to some other dude.

Now I got a great girlfriend, and things couldn't be better.

11/27/2012 6:00:33 PM