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sawahash
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Not sleeping with any of them. Just playing the field.

Well, you're seeing three different guys (none have brought up the conversation of being exclusive) and your birthday is coming up. They are all aware of this. You're going to be going out to your favorite bar and then spending the next day on the beach at your favorite spot with your friends.

Do you invite any of the guys? Do you invite all of them? Or do you just leave them out?

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 6:15 PM. Reason : ]

5/19/2014 6:14:29 PM

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Quote :
" They are all aware of this [but not aware of each other]."


right?


Quote :
"Do you invite all of them?"


While I would love to hear the results, that sounds like a dumb idea.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 6:16 PM. Reason : Pick a favorite?]

5/19/2014 6:15:52 PM

sawahash
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They are aware that I might be seeing other people...and I think it would be really awkward to have them all together...

I just can't decide who I would rather come.

5/19/2014 6:18:46 PM

dtownral
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you have to either pick one, or invite none of them and acknowledge that doing so will send a message to each of them that it's not serious with them (I'm assuming you don't want to send that message?)

5/19/2014 6:19:26 PM

beatsunc
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invite 1, tell other 2 you have plans already

5/19/2014 6:24:45 PM

nOOb
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just take them all. that way you can make it clear to each of them that you're sleeping with one of them. they just dont know which.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 6:36 PM. Reason : mm]

5/19/2014 6:27:32 PM

Fareako
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Go for the birthday gangbang

5/19/2014 6:34:42 PM

Førte
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you got three holes. problem solved.

5/19/2014 6:39:03 PM

ShawnaC123
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^^seconded.

I always want to get gangbanged for my birthday, but it seems socially unacceptable.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 6:39 PM. Reason : slow]

5/19/2014 6:39:03 PM

0EPII1
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invite all 3, then let them all try to win your affections. (or fight it out with knives and/or guns)

seeing them all at the same time will make it easier for you to compare and choose.

5/19/2014 6:44:40 PM

sawahash
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Follow up question...is it weird to be dating multiple people? I just don't want to put all my eggs in one basket just yet.

5/19/2014 6:50:33 PM

puck_it
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Quote :
"you got three holes. problem solved."

5/19/2014 6:51:21 PM

nOOb
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are all these dudes paying? like for food etc?

5/19/2014 6:51:39 PM

sawahash
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Of course they all pay

5/19/2014 7:05:47 PM

dweedle
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i'd like to see the footage of how they mean mug one another

5/19/2014 7:10:42 PM

dmspack
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I think it's probably a bad idea to invite all three of them. I mean, if I was one of the guys in this situation and me and a couple other guys were invited to your birthday outing I'd definitely reconsider how I thought you felt about me...and probably my feelings toward you as well.

5/19/2014 7:19:54 PM

0EPII1
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nice idea for a jobless girl with no money... date multiple guys at one time.

and if you want even more money, just sleep with all of them.

(talking in general)

5/19/2014 7:21:28 PM

theDuke866
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What do you mean dating but not sleeping with them?

Those are just dudes who buy you dinner in hopes of things to come.

5/19/2014 7:23:35 PM

slappy1
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can't tell if thread is serious

either way

ELIMIDATE

5/19/2014 7:23:46 PM

0EPII1
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I much prefer

ANNIHIDATE
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DECIDATE

5/19/2014 7:27:58 PM

sawahash
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I have a job. I support myself. I'm just going out on dates with guys. Going to dinner, spending time in the beach or boat. Hanging out at bars. But I'm not sleeping with any of them because I would feel like I was really being dishonest. I'm not lying to any of them. Only problem is, I haven't decided if I was my to be exclusive with any of them and put all my eggs in one basket yet. I just don't want an awkward situation when my birthday comes up. I haven't asked if they are seeing anyone else and they haven't asked me that either. I just want to have fun and see where things go.

5/19/2014 7:29:39 PM

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Quote :
"0EPII1 said:
nice idea for a jobless girl with no money... date multiple guys at one time.

and if you want even more money, just sleep with all of them.

(talking in general)"


I know several women that aim to go on at least two dates a week, for no other reason than to get 2 meals paid for.



As for the OP, I don't really have an answer. I know one thing though... if I walked into that situation and realized at any point during the night what was going on (my company in the group were two other of your suitors), I would probably leave immediately and ignore every single phone call or text that you sent me from that point on.

5/19/2014 7:35:25 PM

nOOb
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I wish I could get free meals. I have to go the homeless shelter like a normal person

5/19/2014 7:40:10 PM

puck_it
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^^that, but with more rage quit type material

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 7:41 PM. Reason : .]

5/19/2014 7:41:08 PM

sawahash
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Should I just tell them outright that I'm seeing other people? I mean, isn't this how things used to be back in the day? That's why people asked to go steady, right? My mom thinks I'm doing it right. Seeing what's out there and whatnot. I'm just tired of dating one guy for a couple of months then having to start all over cause they suck.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 7:42 PM. Reason : ]

5/19/2014 7:41:46 PM

puck_it
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Why don't you just tell them you have plans for your birthday with friends, instead of being like this is some sort of calamity. If they really want to celebrate, pick another day.

5/19/2014 7:45:22 PM

dropdeadkate
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aren't you like 30 and you can't figure out how to work this situation?

happy birthday you're getting triple dumped

5/19/2014 7:50:53 PM

puck_it
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And this thread is spent.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 7:55 PM. Reason : I lolled for real]

5/19/2014 7:55:06 PM

0EPII1
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couple =! three

5/19/2014 8:31:08 PM

Smath74
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Quote :
"an indefinite small number.
"he hoped she'd be better in a couple of days"
synonyms: some, a few, a handful of, one or two
"I have a couple of things to do""

5/19/2014 8:39:02 PM

Str8BacardiL
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So you are not sleeping with anyone right now?

5/19/2014 8:40:23 PM

stevedude
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so you give them hj/bjs?

5/19/2014 8:50:22 PM

Big4Country
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"Go for the birthday gangbang"

5/19/2014 8:55:54 PM

BigMan157
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if you're treating it as a date, anything after the second I'm assuming exclusivity unless otherwise stated

if you're just hanging out, then carry on

5/19/2014 9:00:07 PM

CuntPunter
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Just keep dating them until all but one of them figures it out and gets pissed and leaves. I was dating (fucking) two chicks at the same time once and one of them left her earrings on my window sill by my bed. I'm certain she suspected there was another girl and pulled one of the most brilliant moves ever.

The second girl came over the next night, didn't say a word that evening, we fucked like normal. The next morning she was getting ready for work and called me out on the earrings that I didn't know was there. She didn't buy my "those were my friends..and umm..I have no idea why she would have left them there..." excuse.

I was only fucking 1 chick after that.

5/19/2014 9:30:29 PM

moron
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"My mom thinks I'm doing it right."


I'm presuming your mom has been in a happy successful relationship for many years?

You def should not bring them all together anywhere. But if no one has asked about exclusivity, then you have no reason to bring it up either.

5/19/2014 9:45:47 PM

theDuke866
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^^^ wait, what? You assume exclusivity after the 2nd date?

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 9:46 PM. Reason : Yeah you're not wrong, but don't bring them all together unless you're REALLY gonna get together.]

5/19/2014 9:45:59 PM

eleusis
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how long have you been dating these guys for? If you invited all three of them, would you be pissed off if one of them brought a date or spent most of the night hitting it off with one of your friends?

5/19/2014 9:51:48 PM

BigMan157
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if there's nothing mentioned on #3, yep. I guess mainly because I've decided by then.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 9:54 PM. Reason : have em thunderdome for your affection ]

5/19/2014 9:53:10 PM

Slave Famous
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Don't invite any of them. Girls always act like their birthdays are such a big fucking deal, but I'll bet you none of the three guys could give any less of a shit. They're all just trying to paint your tits with nut.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 9:58 PM. Reason : X]

5/19/2014 9:56:35 PM

eleusis
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Bigman can usually tell if his girl is seeing someone else because there's two people at the bottom of the well rubbing lotion on the skin.

5/19/2014 9:57:00 PM

theDuke866
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^^^That is completely insane and foreign to me.

In my book, you're exclusive when both parties have that discussion and say so. I can't imagine having that conversation by the 3rd date-even if that's what I wanted, I'd feel weird suggesting it that early. That's hypothetical, I guess. I've never actually had that discussion, I don't think...so what do I know, anyway?

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 9:59 PM. Reason : ]

5/19/2014 9:58:52 PM

BigMan157
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I haven't either. I just know I'd feel like a dick not mentioning I was dating someone else by #3 at the latest.

[Edited on May 19, 2014 at 10:05 PM. Reason : but different strokes for different folks]

5/19/2014 10:03:22 PM

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5/19/2014 10:44:12 PM

NCSUam0s
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Post pics of said guys and let t-dub decide which bachelor you should choose.

5/19/2014 10:51:05 PM

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5/19/2014 11:12:58 PM

BridgetSPK
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Before you make your decision, you should probably contact their previous girlfriends for a series of interrogations. Lead with penis questions. Follow up with inquiries about childhood trauma, substance abuse issues, and their favorite colors. The color question makes it not weird.

5/19/2014 11:20:19 PM

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i'm w/ BigMan157

how long have you been dating them all?

on a different note: how do you even have time to date and get to know 3 people at the same time? why not focus on one person and put a little effort into it?

[Edited on May 20, 2014 at 8:36 AM. Reason : .]

5/20/2014 8:33:41 AM

Str8BacardiL
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this thread promotes promiscuity, homeschooling parents want it deleted

5/20/2014 9:36:51 AM

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Tell us about the 3 suitors please. Age, appearance, occupations etc. Also how many dates have you been on with each etc

5/20/2014 9:37:33 AM

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